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To be a hmm about Boston victims

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Gossipmonster · 15/04/2013 22:56

Photos and Memes (sp?) already appearing on FB Hmm.

It's only been a couple of hours - the man with his legs blown off us particularly offensive - he is prob still fighting for his life - his family might not know he is hurt yet?

Yet SIL just posted a picture of him with the caption "he was running for charity yet lost both his legs in the bombings" Hmm .

FFS what is wrong with people? :(

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littleducks · 16/04/2013 09:57

I don't have FB really so haven't seen all of that.

I do wonder if it might be time to suggest that in horrific events like this the injured are shown with their faces pixelated out on the 24hr news channels. I understand people want to know and want to see what is going on but I do think it is disrespectful to the people involved to have there pictures plastered everywhere when they are going to be in shock.

expatinscotland · 16/04/2013 09:59

I had one of those 'suggested page' in my feed that was some crock o' shite Angels and Spirits things with a blurb about how those who died in Boston were being loved and cared for, I assume by other dead people.

WTAF?!

infamouspoo · 16/04/2013 10:03

did this stuff used to happen when the IRA blew stuff up? Obviously fb wasnt around but the teddies and flowers at the sites?

spiderlight · 16/04/2013 10:08

I saw that particular photo on fb last night and was awake half the night after it. I was furious that his loved ones might see it, and because it was had showed up because my MIL had commented on it, my yound teenage neice and nephew might well have seen it as well. It's all just hideously mawkish and unnecessary. The net has been used in such fantastic ways in events like these, like the Google people finder last night, but there is absolutely no need to spread the horror around by taking pictures of other people's tragedy.

FreudiansSlipper · 16/04/2013 10:11

I agree littleducks peoples faces should be pixelated

I also think the press is far too intrusive on victims families too. I want to see the news i want to know what happened but i do not need to see strangers having a camera shoved in their face so i can experience what they are because i can't

thegreylady · 16/04/2013 10:15

I have had the candle pic on fb by one friend but nothing else thank goodness. I won't share the candle but it doesn't offend me.

YoniRaver · 16/04/2013 10:27

I saw the picture on FB this morning and was quite shocked by it, I have now closed it. I dont watch news or buy papers, I will sometimes look at links into news items but find its hard to filter out the goulish bits. The last time was a link to the bus crash in the Alps and DM had printed a picture saying 'look at all the blood down the doors' (or similar). Its totally unnecassary and totally insensitive to the victims and families.

navada · 16/04/2013 10:36

I deactivated F/B over all the Margaret Thatcher hysteria, & Twitter is just for bullies & egotists - I'm so glad I'm not on either anymore.

& yes op, it is awful.

BegoniaBampot · 16/04/2013 10:45

well I'm from Scotland and a really anti Thatcher area. didn't see anything untoward about Thatcher or this recent Boston incident. you pick your friends on FB, no-one forces you to associate with these people.

Tee2072 · 16/04/2013 10:51

Yes. All of the millions of people on Twitter are bullies and egoists.

And MN is full of vipers and bullies.

Hmm
FuelledByChocolate · 16/04/2013 10:59

Does anyone know whether there has been list of the injured published yet?

HesterShaw · 16/04/2013 11:02

I was on FB this morning and didn't see anything. Glad I'm not friends with anyone who thinks that's appropriate.

Lucyellensmum95 · 16/04/2013 11:04

I have a "friend" on facebook who takes great pleasure in imparting (is that the right word?) bad news on FB. He's a nice enough guy, despite being a journalist but am thinking i might actually hide his posts from my newsfeed.

And yes, share if you care? Fuck off!

flaminghoopsaloohlah · 16/04/2013 11:06

My feed is full of it - fortunately no pictures of victims though...

ClaraOswinOswald · 16/04/2013 11:07

I have just seen a RIP angel pic with a little girl that has nothing to do with the bombings, it was taken months ago. The caption says she was running for the children of Sandy Hook. Who makes this shit up? It's so wrong. I have informed the sharer that it is a fake, hopefully she will think twice before sharing next time.

Something awful has happened, it is in all of our thoughts but doesn't need to be on our Facebook pages.

HesterShaw · 16/04/2013 11:10

And I imagine there will be lots of minutes of silence and minutes of applause and standing at various sporting functions. This didn't used to happen. When 9/11 I remember doing three minutes silence with my class I was teaching. A child asked me "Is it like poppy day?"o and I said "Yes, sort of." But it isn't really. The soldiers who went off to war knew they might not come back and went anyway - a sacrifice if you like - whereas people caught in a terrorist incident have no idea it will be anything other than a normal day. When something awful happens there is a rush now to declare a public silence as though it PROVES how much you as a country/government/society cares. It doesn't make people care more or make them any more shocked or sad, being told to have a silence. People will be shocked, saddened and outraged on their own. On the other hand, I guess it does send a message to the perpetrators that normal, decent people think their actions are abhorrent.

But I sense I might be on controversial ground here. If I have offended anyone I apologise.

flaminghoopsaloohlah · 16/04/2013 11:15

Some of the crap I see on my feed makes me wonder what some people are thinking. Does anyone else regularly get pages of horrifically injured people/children with some story about what's happened to them and asking viewers to share or like to raise money for them? How dim are some people? As if sharing a post or liking it is going to raise money for someone.

The utter crassness...my EXH used to be a fireman and he had a picture of Bailey being carried by a fireman (Oklahoma bombings) with RIP Bailey written underneath - he did this years after the Oklahoma bombings. I always thought that was hugely crass and I used to cringe every time I saw it on his page - the post felt more like him waving a flag to what a good guy he was for being a fireman and I often feel this way about people who post this kind of thing."Look at what an amazing person I am - I'm grieving for people and 'reaching out' - it just seems so tasteless.

thebody · 16/04/2013 16:32

I guess for us as a family we saw both sides of this.

It was horrific seeing pictures of dds coach and bloody blankets and pretty shoes and slippers strewn over a motorway while still unaware of her injuries or even if she survived. We know there are pictures of her and her friends being taken off to ambulances as there were French photographers taking pictures, you have no control.

BUT it was very comforting to have total strangers laying flowers and leaving messages for us families at the school, it may have made them feel better about themselves but it also comforted us and dd.

Nothing is private now, no grief or event. That's just how it is.

Icedcakeandflower · 16/04/2013 16:45

YANBU, I'm hiding all posts that come up Sad Angry on my FB feed.

everlong · 16/04/2013 16:45

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alphablock · 16/04/2013 17:36

A friend posted a picture that is supposedly of the 8 year old that was killed. However, the picture is of a girl running (and she is clearly younger than 8). I pointed out that the image is a fake as it was an 8 year old boy that was killed (and he was a spectator as no children were running in the marathon). She was horrified that anyone would fake something like this (whilst I was also surprised that she clearly had not read anything about the events and yet still felt the need to share the photo).

She has tried to delete it but couldn't. Yet despite our exchange of comments on the picture, I have noticed that several of her friends are continuing to "like" it.

Facebook is great for certain things, but this definitely doesn't include discussion of tragic events.

ShellyBoobs · 16/04/2013 17:43

Facebook is the work of the devil.

It's entirely populated by morons; there's no other explanation for the utter fuckwittery that it comprises.

I'm sure lots of you are reading this thinking, "bollocks, I'm not a moron and I've got Facebook".

Well I'm sorry, but I've got news for you...

HesterShaw · 16/04/2013 17:47

Don't talk nonsense Shelly.

everlong · 16/04/2013 17:50

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skippedtheripeoldmango · 16/04/2013 17:53

So we've established that Shelly doesn't like FB but embraces stereotypes.