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Original poster

To not want this child to come on holidays with us

838 replies

arabesque · 10/04/2013 11:08

A group of girls I used to share a house with years ago have arranged to go on a reunion weekend to the West of Ireland in June. The plan was to book into a nice hotel, and spend the time relaxing, having nice meals and a few drinks and catching up and reminiscing. However, one of the group has now asked if its okay to bring her six year old daughter as her husband wants to play in a golf tournament that weekend. A child hanging around is going to completely change the tone of the holiday imho. I haven't spoken to all of the group yet but the two I have been in touch with are not too keen either.

AI (or we)BU to think of saying that we'd prefer if it was kept to adults only as it's the first time we've all been together in about ten years?

OP posts:
imustbepatient · 17/04/2013 16:39

Am so enthralled by this thread and amazed anyone could have a hide so thick! Well done OP to you and FF and Lunch Friend. So good to see common sense and decency winning against such determined rudeness.

I can really identify with you re the whole not good with confrontation thing. Hence I'm giving you such a huge cheer for the polite but firm way you have dealt with such an awkward situation. In fact awkward isn't even the word!

Maryz · 17/04/2013 16:39

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HorryIsUpduffed · 17/04/2013 16:41

arabesque that's all brilliant and should have been bloody obvious to everyone a long time ago. Hope it works...

Original poster
arabesque · 17/04/2013 16:41

email is going out with the agreement of all. It will be cc'd to everyone, although addressed to SF friend, so she is aware that everyone is in the loop and trying to pull people off into corners to whinge and whine is not on.
In fact, I am going to respond to Forthright Friend and cc to all saying that I totally agree with the contents of the email and would like if the matter could end here as I am not prepared to discuss it any further. (Directed at EF)

NI friend is going to do the same.

OP posts:
GingerBlondecat · 17/04/2013 16:41

arabesque could you Please get permission from FF to post her email here Thanks

Original poster
arabesque · 17/04/2013 16:42

Sorry, addressed to 'SE friend' not SF friend.

OP posts:
NinaHeart · 17/04/2013 16:44

I go into a meeting for a couple of hours and have all this wonderful update to look forward to when I get out!

Hurrah for FF. Hurrah for NIF. Hurrah for arabesque.
Can't wait for EF's response now.

This thread is excellent for the splendid BALLS being shown by OP and her friends. Please may I hire FF for my own sticky situations?

Inncogneetow · 17/04/2013 16:45

I think everyone needs a Forthright Friend. Would she like to Freelance and operate in that capacity for other people?!

BitOutOfPractice · 17/04/2013 16:46

I was confused by the SF thing. Self Forthright?

Maryz, while you're busy ignoring me, I've booked my room

JaxTellerIsAllMine · 17/04/2013 16:46

good! now, you need to let us know wht EF responds with. Really, nothing short of - sorry everyone, Ive arranged for DD to be looked after by ... and I am looking forward to our weekend away.

OR
I cant leave my PFB for 2 nights, I DONT WANT to and I am pulling out of weekend. Have fun.

Only 2 solutions that she should reply with.

GingerBlondecat · 17/04/2013 16:49

If Crazypants comes back with.... 'dont worry, Ive got a babysitter' for DD.

Demand Proof ............. !!!

Maryz · 17/04/2013 16:52

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MissLurkalot · 17/04/2013 16:56

Omg, what a difference an afternoon can make!
I bloody LOVE Mumsnet, and I bloody LOVE your Forthright Friend!!!

LittleEsme · 17/04/2013 16:59

Am compelled to follow such a fascinating thread Grin

bigTillyMint · 17/04/2013 17:04

Great! Your Forthright Friend is spot on, and your reply email is too Smile

iZombie · 17/04/2013 17:07

I have been reading in astonishment for a couple of days now. I am truly stunned by the behaviour of this woman. I do hope that your united front works, though it seems that the other lady has enough front to compete:(

K8Middleton · 17/04/2013 17:08

Excellent Maryz. I will roll in about 4am utterly shitfaced each night and you can look after dd. She'll be no bother

AThingInYourLife · 17/04/2013 17:18

I'm going to figure out which hotel this is and show up with my extremely badly behaved children and let them run amok all weekend.

They'll love eating in the restaurant nice and late.

Nobody should get to have any fun if I have children to look after.

:o

Xales · 17/04/2013 17:30

She sounds like one of those parents where the rules apply to everyone's kids but their own.

Her DD is going to be in for one hell of a shock one day as her mum is doing her no favours.

StoicButStressed · 17/04/2013 17:40

Shamelessly marking place for next installment of superb Marian Keyes most recent novelGrin

CheerfulYank · 17/04/2013 17:43

Breville lasagne on top of your other skills? I baggsie you in the FF swap! :o

I am still agog that this thread is happening. I cannot imagine having the neck!

sparkle12mar08 · 17/04/2013 17:44

This thread is fast approaching Classics status. If Entitled mum replies with another whining, excuses ridden email, I'm nominating!

Binkybix · 17/04/2013 17:48

I came back not expecting much to have happened and am delighted by the activity on this thread!

Hold firm OP, hold firm!!

waltermittymissus · 17/04/2013 17:53

I'm way too invested in this thread!

ComeYoniWithMe · 17/04/2013 17:57

Brilliant, can I just ask when you spoke to ef on the phone was her dh mentioned?

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