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Original poster

to be tired of all the negativity?!

46 replies

BattlingFanjos · 08/04/2013 22:44

I am very thick skinned and usually shitty comments don't bother me, but this whole 'MN is shit and full of evil bitches wah wah wah' shit is really starting to wear thin.

I have used MN for almost 6 years, I have had nothing but positive, amazing support and hysterical conversations with some wonderful, intelligent, witty people.

There have been darker times in my life where I have turned to you lovelies (as have a lot of you) when I couldn't speak to someone in RL. I always offer the best advice I have, the support I would want, and have been on both sides of the fence (if you like) as a SAHM and now a working mum.

Seriously, piss the fuck off if you don't like it, stop harping on about how shit we all are, it must be so emotionally draining to you to have such nastiness inside.

And to those of you who are the norm on here, thank you. I truly do not know how I could have gotten through certain situations without you....'don't go changing/I love you just the way you are' Grin

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FrustratedSycamoresRocks · 08/04/2013 22:46

Yanbu

MsBella · 08/04/2013 22:47

I think yabu, I've seen some pretty nasty stuff when I've been reading old threads on here, different people have had different experiences. I have seen some very hurtful things being said on here, its great that you haven't had it but have a bit of empathy... of course they won't like it if they've experienced nastiness on here and that's fair enough

notnowbernard · 08/04/2013 22:48

I think I'm missing all the hoo-haa

What's happened

thermalsinapril · 08/04/2013 22:48

YANBU

Very well said Smile

thermalsinapril · 08/04/2013 22:50

MsBella what percentage of MN do you feel is like that? Is it more or less than anywhere else on the internet, or real life? I'd say that in general people are more accepting, kind, tolerant and considerate here than on many other places on the internet and in RL too.

HelenDaniels · 08/04/2013 22:50

I agree with you OP. For all the miserable twat threads on MINUTE there are loads which are genuinely helpful and kind.

I'm fucked if I am going to get upset by a load of miserable commentary over an Amanda Holden thread which is over 12 months old. Sod off if you don't like it.

HelenDaniels · 08/04/2013 22:52

Mumsnet not minute.

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BattlingFanjos · 08/04/2013 22:52

Bella there is a very big difference between having differences bad experience (which is awful and I do have a lot of empathy for these people) and crappy judgemental posts and articles. 'MN is full of...' 'All MN posters are bitter, horrible SAHMs'

I have NEVER gone out of my way to upset anyone on here, I genuinely couldn't/wouldn't but doing the same things back is just petty and lowering themselves, is it not?

Thank you thermals Grin

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WorraLiberty · 08/04/2013 22:53

YANBU

But don't let them get you down...especially the one post wonders who take the trouble to make a nickname just to give us all their mind numbing, snivelling opinions.

If people don't like MN, there are millions of other forums out there for them to choose from.

On the whole, MN is everything I like in a forum. It's entertaining, supportive, funny, educational and not overly moderated.

With over half a million members, of course not everyone will get along but in the main it's the best forum on the internet imo.

FreudiansSlipper · 08/04/2013 22:53

try not to take it so personally

MN is great I have been moved to tears at how strangers come together to help someone. other times I have been very pissed off with the ganging up that goes on here and the nasty comments. some on here have so little awareness of other peoples feelings.

and there is a lot of bitching why because its a group of people the good outweighs the bad but it is still here so people have the right to complain about it

notnowbernard · 08/04/2013 22:53

People are upset about Amanda Holden? < baffled>

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BattlingFanjos · 08/04/2013 22:54

Having a bad experience....d'oh!

Glad I'm not alone in this, it's just grating now. Very silly

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CheCazzo · 08/04/2013 22:55

People are upset about Amanda Holden?

No. Amanda Holden was paid might be upset about Amanda Holden. Grin

hedgefund · 08/04/2013 22:57

also agree with the op. i really find all the press stuff a bit bizarre and over the top.

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 08/04/2013 22:58

YANBU

But just swerve the threads with all the weirdness and moaning on. Today is especially bed, but something else will have happened tomorrow and things will calm down.

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BattlingFanjos · 08/04/2013 22:58

notnow trust me, you're better off not knowing, its a boat load of nothing.

I'm not taking it personally, just felt the need to express my side of things. I know people have crap on here sometimes and I have even messaged people I feel have unjustifiably been upset and offered support a chat. I tend not to get involved, arguing bores me, but I'm fed up of seeing it now

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IAmJacksRagingBileDuct · 08/04/2013 23:04

What everyone else has said.

What a load of rubbish, did the rest of you hear the Radio 2 slot earlier? It irritated me that all the people slagging us off were using such massive sweeping generalisations and even when Justine explained about all the wonderful support threads etc they ignored and continued to slag us off.

There are some difficult or nasty people here just as there are in any walk of life, but there are also so many wonderful, kind, witty and caring people and they are the overwhelming majority.

you don't like it don't come here. Simple.

notnowbernard · 08/04/2013 23:05

I'll stay out of if then...

if it's not one thing...

notnowbernard · 08/04/2013 23:06

[U Turns]

Who was on R2?!

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BattlingFanjos · 08/04/2013 23:07

I can't fault you, don't do it to yourself Grin

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Machli · 08/04/2013 23:12

Anyone who says that has not given more than a passing glance at the site. It doesn't piss me off, I am just totally disbelieving that anyone who has actually spent time here would believe it.

I also think its pretty shabby to constantly be attacking a group of women (and a few men) who are providing support and knowledge to each 24 hours a day.

I am a carer and am pretty isolated IRL. MN is a lifeline for me. I am about as far from the demo graph they describe as its possible to be, I know I am not alone in that.

I've left an abusive marriage, been helped down the rocky road of diagnosis for two autistic children, had any question on any subject answered at any time of day or night, when i have been scared and worried, no matter how trivial someone has answered me and supported me and i hope i have done the same for others sometimes.

Honestly if people want to attack THAT? well.......Fuck em! The MN they describe doesn't exist. And that's that!

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BattlingFanjos · 08/04/2013 23:19

Machli perfect! It doesn't exist you're right. It's pathetic and entitled views like this that really do give MN a bad name. As I said, normally I wouldn't even comment, but it really is just taking the piss now.

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LovelyMeredith · 08/04/2013 23:23

I joined this even, and have already had my fair share of both lovely users and nasty users.

I think it's the nasty and judgmental users who sit and ruin it for everyone else, hence why MN gets the publicity it does.

LovelyMeredith · 08/04/2013 23:23

*evening

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