to be tired of all the negativity?!

[BattlingFanjos]

I am very thick skinned and usually shitty comments don't bother me, but this whole 'MN is shit and full of evil bitches wah wah wah' shit is really starting to wear thin.

I have used MN for almost 6 years, I have had nothing but positive, amazing support and hysterical conversations with some wonderful, intelligent, witty people.

There have been darker times in my life where I have turned to you lovelies (as have a lot of you) when I couldn't speak to someone in RL. I always offer the best advice I have, the support I would want, and have been on both sides of the fence (if you like) as a SAHM and now a working mum.

Seriously, piss the fuck off if you don't like it, stop harping on about how shit we all are, it must be so emotionally draining to you to have such nastiness inside.

And to those of you who are the norm on here, thank you. I truly do not know how I could have gotten through certain situations without you....'don't go changing/I love you just the way you are'

I've been around for a little while and have experienced some unpleasantness - it's the double standards that generally irks me and people not liking being called on their behaviour - but the vast majority of my experience has been very positive here. Lovely ladies.

If you're referring to the current post in AIBU, well, people have a tendency to overgeneralise...let em.

It's such big site, I don't know how people can generalise so much! It's so diverse!

A few things in general flamin Matthew Wright, Daily Fail, first posts or name changes on here. Its everywhere and it's silly!

It's really nice to hear people's nice experiences for a change and to those who've shared I'm so glad you had them it wont stop me using MN, I just don't read the threads/read the articles/watch the tv slating/listen to the radio shows

But if someone just visits one single forum without spending some time looking around they are likely going to form an opinion on just that forum. But whatever, people that actually do spend time here knows that Mumsnet isn't just one thing - it's so many different things, which isn't surprising with so many users.

Four years here for me. I love it. Anyone who claims that it is purely nasty and bitchy hasn't seen beyond getting flamed. And frankly, if you get flamed, you generally deserve it. It's how you come through that flaming that tends to show whether this is the right place to be or not.

There will always be disagreements, fall outs, trolls, whatever, whenever there is a large group of people put together.

But the unity, kindness, humor, love, willingness to go beyond the expected when you are just a stranger on the internet... You don't get that just anywhere.

Now, before this all goes gooey and lovey, you're all a bunch of vipers.

Fanjos - see, while I've been here a while it's pretty telling that I do mainly hang around on particular board (AIBU I rarely go to, except these past couple of days) and I actually have no idea what you're talking about (no offense intended) - except for the Daily Fail reference...

Why do people not like name changes? Apart form the obvious of people abusing the function to play cat and mouse with posters? I've name changed - RL stalker issues....

bernard there was a woman slagging us off on the basis of the AH thread from last year, and Justine trying to put her much more reasonable and informed opinion across. Then some callers with both good and bad comments.

Think the whole ring has probably been eclipsed now though as the Margaret Thatcher news broke half way through.

flamin this feels like hard work lol. I'm not alagging anyone off nor do I want a disagreement over nothing...a few people have more and more recently decoded that mumsnet is horrible, full of evil people. It got to me, I felt the need to counter it. I really don't care if you've name changed (applies to anyone) my comment was referring to the people who do it solely to slag others off. I think its sly and suggests they will continue with their original name, just not very nice.

It was just a ranting reply to all the nasty comments about MN recently, it wasn't aimed at any one person.

That sounded quite harsh and i didn't mean it to (that's lack of sleep for you ) I mean me personally, I couldn't give a toss about people name changing. You obviously have a valid reason (not that I think you should have to justify it) I NC a while back as mine was crap
As you said, it's the people who come on to cause trouble and abuse people that get to me.

This sort of negative press flares up every now and then, but I agree it is spectacularly tedious, especially all the "new" people who turn up to tell us how narsty we are.

What with those and the Thatcher threads I can find hardly anything to read/post on atm!

I would really LOVE to know the true story behind the Amanda Holden thing. Because the original thread was mainly supportive or neutral about her. I wonder if it was the Fail conjuring up an anti-Mumsnet story in retaliation for the Mumsnet stance on their sickening Philpott front page?

I have been on mn for about 2years now and have only experienced a very small amount of harshness, but when you ask for true opinions, you get them whether you want to hear them or not and of course that is the idea when you ask if you are being unreasonable!!
But other than that i have seen nothing but true kindness from all walks of life, and mnetters have helped me overcome things when i haven't had anyone to confide in rl.

Thanks to mn i recovered from my mc by talking to mums who had been through the same & knew exactly what i was experiencing without the need for harsh comments that i got in rl. I have disengaged from my dhs ruthless toxic family due to the stately homes thread, my relationship has improved and without mn and the support i have received me & dh would have parted ways due to pil as i wouldn't have known such toxicity wasn't to be put up with!

and it has helped me with many more situations i have found myself in, so Amanda Holden can insult mn all she likes for all i care because i don't care.

Battling - I didn't see you as being harsh...I was honestly asking about some of your references because I tink until recently, I've lived a very sheltered MN forum life and am not au fait with some of the regular issues etc that pop up on MN.

As to the recent negative press....based purely on my very limited experience of AIBU...I'm not overly surprised TBH - that seems to be way more nastiness here on this forum than there is on other forums. I suspect that the reporters looking for a juicy story against MN just visit AIBU where they don't have to work that hard to find what they're looking for...

I'm quite new to mn and up until now have never started a thread on AIBU, I'm building up to it . I've used the other boards though and have received very helpful comments/suggestions. Like others have said I've often found this site better to discuss things than discussing them in RL.
Amanda bloody Holden maybe a secret mn'er? Who know's?

The thing is, what is the point of joining up to say 'here is shit'. If you think it's that shit why bloody waste your time. So you don't like it - that's fine. Now kindly fuck off.

FWIW I only started posting a couple of days ago [although I lurked a while]. I love the craic here. At least you don't get any false bullshit.

Flaming Good I'm glad bit pointless me starting this thread just for me to then sound like a knobber
I have to agree...AIBU is a lot harsher than any other board and I wouldn't come on here for advice to be honest. But it's all part of the experience, if you're thicker skinned obviously ha.

I wanna know what andu said! MN should just delete to save nosy twats like me stewing on it!

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