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She smacked my daughter... WWYD??

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Clumsyoaf · 08/04/2013 12:53

In shock, just come home from a soft play place, went with some other mums that I have just started getting to know. DD (4 years old) being unruly - we are going through a phase at the moment, one of the other mums just picked her up and smacked her on her bottom. I was completely stunned - I would never hit a child my own or someone elses... DD in tears i just gathered up DS's stuff took DD and left.

I want to pick her up on it, or call the police or something..... sorry dont have anyone in RL i cant speak to right now so sorry for ranty message im just still stunned!

WWYD?????

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LovePickles · 09/04/2013 19:01

Lisaro, the other mothers were watching over the child. It happens, kids mess around. I'm sure everyone who has/had young kids know they mess around at some point, regardless of how perfect some people pretend to be.

Bobyan · 09/04/2013 19:09

"linched" wtf is "linched"?

Is it the mummsy alternative to being lynched? You get dragged outside the softplay building and pelted with the balls from ball pit?

BabylonReturns · 09/04/2013 19:13

Pickles hope you're feeling better now, thought I'd pop by and let you know dd2 is on penicillin having just been diagnosed with tonsillitis in the last couple of hours.

Poor thing had been saying she felt unwell all day, but she really went downhill and got a massive temp. so quick visit to the doctor and she's a poorly girl :(

LovePickles · 09/04/2013 19:20

Babylon that's horrible, I feel so sorry for her! How a child can go through this I'll never know. I think I'm over the worst of it, been on antibiotics since Saturday. I really hope they work quicker for your daughter! I was heating up the living room so much my Other didn't need to turn the fire on. It's horrendous. Poor thing, get well soon Babylon's DD! :(

Moominsarehippos · 09/04/2013 19:20

Tonsilitus is nasty. Hope she's feeling a bit better. Ice cream is very good for sore throats.

CharlMascara · 09/04/2013 20:09

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Clumsyoaf · 09/04/2013 20:18

Well.... Lets hope the next fourth years are incident free....

Thank you for those that enquired after dd, she is still v weak, anaemic and scared to eat. She has lost a lot of weight and hair Sad she hates most gluten free food but I have switched completely to gluten free at home so we don't do two types of food, it is way more expensive but as there are only really 2.5 of us it hasnt been too bad financially. I have to say the bread is awful and have taken to making my own which she still dislikes.

Have not heard anything today from police so will update when I hear.

In reference to the party thread, my first intro to MN, I guess every cloud has a silverish lining. And yes it was me, probably overly sensitive as was desperate that it all went well before DH was deployed but in hindsight I wouldn't have done anything different - except to call the cake any myself and tell her the plans had changed! Although BIL is now in touch with an old school friend so cloud lining silver etc.....

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Clumsyoaf · 09/04/2013 20:19

Forty not fourth!

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Clumsyoaf · 09/04/2013 20:21

Oh dear having put DS in bed let me rewrite hat last bit.... I wouldn't have done anything different except to call the cake lady myself and tell her that's the plans had changed!

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CharlMascara · 09/04/2013 20:33

I seem to remember that you kept coming back to update the thread despite saying numerous times that your husband was leaving the next day and you wanted to spend time with him.

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Clumsyoaf · 09/04/2013 20:39

And then you will also recall that we were at his parents house? So had no real time alone together that evening... Do you have a rl outside MN charlmascara? Meow I have claws too.....

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Floggingmolly · 09/04/2013 20:42

No real time alone together that evening. But there was a family party, yes? And you still spent the night on mn.

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Clumsyoaf · 09/04/2013 20:43

I really do apologise, that's really not me. It was a very fraught/ emotional time and I was all over the place. Sorry charlmascara no offence.

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Clumsyoaf · 09/04/2013 20:44

I was upstairs with DS?

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Clumsyoaf · 09/04/2013 20:44

I'm sure I said that???

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Clumsyoaf · 09/04/2013 20:46

My inlaws had a family get together, DH has a huge family and his mum always has a get together normally week before he's deployed but SILs couldn't come until the last weekend. It's hard. Keeping everyone happy.

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MadameDefarge · 09/04/2013 20:48

clumsy please do not feel you have to justify your every word. in fact tell the picky posters to bog off.

LovePickles · 09/04/2013 20:50

If I had told you all the incidents in these past two months that have happened to me you would be all over me like a rash, what a drama queen I would be! 6 months worth? I'd be burned on a stake! Life is full of problems, Clumsy likes to share her to get support. I haven't had a chance to air mine, only been around here for a couple days. Seriously, if only you knew... Can we swap lives please? I thought I was alright, thinking other people must have bad times too, but I must be wrong and someone out there has it in for me.

Can't you see it's just nitpicking now, talking about people's husbands and lack of time spent with them? It's rude! I haven't seen the OP be rude to anyone which says a lot about her character and other's, here.

CharlMascara · 09/04/2013 20:51

It would take a lot more to offend me Clumsyoaf

I remember your posts because they always seem to end up being pages and pages long.

whiteandyellowiris · 09/04/2013 20:52

ffs, what is it with this place, why are people only allowed to have x amount of problems otherwise they are a drama seeking troll

newflash people do have problems, and often one after another after another, then you can go years doing ok.
problems do not arrive to a schedule

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Clumsyoaf · 09/04/2013 20:52

Thank you lovepickles... I only have work and the kids as my lovely inlaws are currently away on a very well deserved cruise. In rl I wouldn't dare tell anyone about my life but it gets so incredibly lonely at times.

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LovePickles · 09/04/2013 20:53

Clumsyoaf, you shouldn't be apologising. The hijackers should.

claudedebussy · 09/04/2013 20:53

you've had an awful time of it clumsy. and now having found a nice group only to have this happen. that mum was way out of order but the problem for me would be that i would no longer feel comfortable in her company. so it would seem that the whole group has to be avoided unless you can figure out a way of being there but not interacting with her.

v. difficult situation.

CharlMascara · 09/04/2013 20:53

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IvorHughJangova · 09/04/2013 20:55

Dear Troll Hunters. Troll hunting makes you look like spiteful twats. HTH.

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