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She smacked my daughter... WWYD??

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Clumsyoaf · 08/04/2013 12:53

In shock, just come home from a soft play place, went with some other mums that I have just started getting to know. DD (4 years old) being unruly - we are going through a phase at the moment, one of the other mums just picked her up and smacked her on her bottom. I was completely stunned - I would never hit a child my own or someone elses... DD in tears i just gathered up DS's stuff took DD and left.

I want to pick her up on it, or call the police or something..... sorry dont have anyone in RL i cant speak to right now so sorry for ranty message im just still stunned!

WWYD?????

OP posts:
CharlMascara · 09/04/2013 16:34

How is your DD Clumsy after ending up in hospital before the smacking incident?

Floggingmolly · 09/04/2013 16:36

Before, Charl? She was certainly on the ball there!

MmeThenardier · 09/04/2013 16:37

I feel as if some posters are saying the behaviour of the OP's daughter was out of the ordinary and somehow made the other Mum's violent response ok.

Naughty, brattish, selfish, surely these are all normal in a 4 year old...?

Not all the time, but lets face it learning to share is a work in progress and most 4 year olds just haven't got there yet - and many go through tough phases.

The only difference is how we as parents react and deal with the bad behaviour.

Which of course doesn't give someone the right to hit a small child.

(Cue all the posters telling me their 4 year old has never been naughtyHmm)

YouTheCat · 09/04/2013 16:38

Late to thread as usual. Op, your poor dd.

I do wonder if this woman is prepared to whack another mother's child in public, what is she like behind closed doors?

CharlMascara · 09/04/2013 16:40

Yes her DD has coeliac disease Molly

Floggingmolly · 09/04/2013 16:51

Oh. Sorry, Charl, that was rude, ignore me.

Bessie123 · 09/04/2013 16:51

Hmm, yes, obviously it was dd's fault someone hit her Hmm

Why is anyone trying even a little bit to explain this? However annoying the dd was being, there is still no excuse for hitting a child.

lisaro · 09/04/2013 16:51

Ok, so what I don't understand is; if your precious 'handful' (wouldn't be my choice of term) has already started with this behaviour then why on earth would you leave her unsupervised to change a nappy? Why not take her with you. Maybe the other parent was frustrated at said 'handful' being allowed to do as she likes repeatedly. Whilst I categorically do not condone her allegedly 'hitting' (although probably more like a tap, if at all) your child, maybe you should look to yourself. You're not doing your child any favours allowing this awful behaviour.

Bessie123 · 09/04/2013 16:51

youthecat you are right, maybe social services should be taking a little look around her home

CharlMascara · 09/04/2013 17:11

You weren't rude Molly!

I am quite concerned that someone attracts such constant bad luck into their life.

DaemonPantalaemon · 09/04/2013 17:21

Okay, so the police have been called, and now someone suggests Social Services taking a look at the smacking mother's home.

Gobsmacked.

OP, you should also call your MP.

LovePickles · 09/04/2013 17:23

Lisaro, OP has explained time and time again that she does not condone this behaviour, but please do give the rest of us some pointers on how to raise the perfect child, we're all dying to hear it.

CharlMascara · 09/04/2013 17:23

OP, you should also call your MP.

Taking it a bit far now Hmm

But perhaps David Cameron might want to hear about it?

Possibly Obama too.

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 09/04/2013 17:41

only on mumsnet.....

DaemonPantalaemon · 09/04/2013 17:42

Charl, darling, I think this is now beyond Britain. Someone should call the UN. It is definitely a Security Council matter:)

lisaro · 09/04/2013 17:49

Lovepickles a pretty basic pointer would, as I stated, be to not leave a naughty/spirited/handful child unsupervised - especially as they were in temptations reach. Not too difficult.

Floggingmolly · 09/04/2013 17:52

Is it all a bit too good to be true, then? I thought it was just me

outtolunchagain · 09/04/2013 18:04

It's the younger child who has coeliac disease I think . This does seem a lot for one family but son engines things go like that don't they ?

outtolunchagain · 09/04/2013 18:04

Sorry that was meant to be sometimes

ScarletWomanoftheVillage · 09/04/2013 18:06

Why are so many people on here taking the piss?

Op, this was a shocking thing to happen. It sounds as though you are dealing with it as best you can, and that the soft play place has also tried to deal with it.

I hope this woman gets stopped in her tracks, feeling free to lose your temper and smack other people's children is hideous and wrong, and she needs to be stopped. Her follow up texts are disingenuous. She knows.

moonabove · 09/04/2013 18:12

'awful behaviour'?

We are talking about a 4 year-old wrangling over a favourite toy in a play place fgs. Not biting, not scratching and screaming, not hitting just trying to pull the car away from the other kid ie the sort of thing that happens in every place of play everywhere in the country.

Oh, except where these smug gits above live apparently. Hmm

KurriKurri · 09/04/2013 18:22

exactly moonabove - and presumably if there was a wrangle of any sort then the other child involved was equally wrangling.

Children do squabble over toys - obviously not in Stepford Mumsnetland, but in real life they do - it's called learning how to socialise and interact. And sometimes they get it wrong and make a mistake - but that is because they are 4 years old.

Strange how it is OK to hit a child for making a mistake, when 'being a child' is probably the best mitigating circumstance in the world, but it wouldn't be OK to hit an adult who made a mistake at work.

LouiseSmith · 09/04/2013 18:42

The women in question couldn't have smacked your child very hard, if she had of really hurt her surely you wouldn't need advice on how to respond to the situation.

Smacking another persons child is wrong but honestly I don't think she deserves to be linched, maybe have a word tell her it was unacceptable, and stay away. The other question remains why were you not dealing with your tantruming daughter, why was this women even given the option to step in,

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 09/04/2013 18:53

Louise your post comes across as ignorant in more ways than one.

LovePickles · 09/04/2013 18:59

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