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She smacked my daughter... WWYD??

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Clumsyoaf · 08/04/2013 12:53

In shock, just come home from a soft play place, went with some other mums that I have just started getting to know. DD (4 years old) being unruly - we are going through a phase at the moment, one of the other mums just picked her up and smacked her on her bottom. I was completely stunned - I would never hit a child my own or someone elses... DD in tears i just gathered up DS's stuff took DD and left.

I want to pick her up on it, or call the police or something..... sorry dont have anyone in RL i cant speak to right now so sorry for ranty message im just still stunned!

WWYD?????

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LadyBeagleEyes · 09/04/2013 00:15

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MadameDefarge · 09/04/2013 00:19

no no LadyB, report yourself pdq!

Bessie123 · 09/04/2013 00:20

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HeadfirstForHalos · 09/04/2013 00:24

OP WHY did you go out when the police said they could call around before 7? I hope you didn't miss them, them this needs dealing with.

LadyBeagleEyes · 09/04/2013 00:42

at Headfirst.

MadameDefarge · 09/04/2013 00:45
HeadfirstForHalos · 09/04/2013 00:46

I was merely pointing out an indiscretion in the story that if you ring the police and they say they will call around, you don't go out just because it's a nice day Wink

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LadyBeagleEyes · 09/04/2013 00:51

Wink MadameD and Headfirst Grin

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TeaMakesItAllPossible · 09/04/2013 01:18

Just read the thread wondering the lady who slapped was the lady with the original party.

Clumsy I really hope your DD has no lasting marks and that she is ok.

differentnameforthis · 09/04/2013 03:36

TumbleWeeds

Your post on Monday at 14:01 is making way too many assumptions. Op didn't say her daughter attacked, hit, bit that little boy.

My daughter, now 4, but at the time 2, was attacked in the school playground while waiting for her sister. The child that did it was about 4, (her mother was somewhere, certainly not watching her). She took my daughter by the hair and violently shook her head. I ran over as soon as it started (dd was in the sandpit) and removed this child's hands from my daughter's hair & told her to stop (yes, even when she saw me, she didn't let go).

I did not touch that other child other than to remove her hands from my daughter, and I did so as gently as I could. I picked up my child & walked away, and went to find her mother (who by now had seen what was happening, saw me walk towards her & started to walk off, to hide - leaving her daughter in the sandpit, I will add.)

I was beyond livid. I told her what her child did & walked away.

The next day (after being told by several other parents that this isn't the first time she had attacked a younger child) I reported the incident & the little girl was banned form school grounds.

My point is, I was raging! But I didn't, at any time during the attack even THINK it was my place to hit the other little girl! Because I was able to control my emotions, and my anger & not assault a child.

This motehr should have been able to do that too, regardless of what op's daughter did/didn't do to her child.

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TumbleWeeds · 09/04/2013 07:41

different If you read the thread I have said before and after that post, several times that I didn't agree with the other woman action.

I was only trying to give another way at what might have happened before the OP updated us re the bruise etc...
Because tbh from what she said originally, there was no way you could say whether she was actually letting her dd get away with murder or not. And with all posters saying she should call the Police, it was really important that she looked at her own actions before creating a huge issue that could have backfired on her.

But once again I have NEVER said that it was OK to smack her dd, quite the opposite.

AugustaProdworthy · 09/04/2013 07:46

Please update OP. I would like to know what police do in these situations and hope your DD is ok.

DaemonPantalaemon · 09/04/2013 08:05

OP has left the building. I repeat, OP has left the building.

Moominsarehippos · 09/04/2013 08:05

Well, is it? Isn't it? Is it in the DM today?

stressyBessy22 · 09/04/2013 08:25

The next day (after being told by several other parents that this isn't the first time she had attacked a younger child) I reported the incident & the little girl was banned form school grounds.

the school banned a 4 yr old from the school premises .Biscuit Biscuit Biscuit

AugustaProdworthy · 09/04/2013 08:33

Oh! Having read all of the thread now remember the party thread. That was awesome.

CSIJanner · 09/04/2013 08:36

Any update OP?

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Clumsyoaf · 09/04/2013 08:53

I havent had a chance to read all of the messages as just sorting kids out, the battery went on the ipad and i couldnt for the life of me find the charger! had a visit from a PCOS at 745 last night. She was lovely but did think that the bruise wasnt consistent with a bare hand smack Blush so maybe I got it wrong but I cant see how else she could have got it. DD was wearing a short denim skirt with long socks so to me it seemed that she could have marked her.

The PCOS is going to make some enquiries, she said that I was right to report it and that the fact remains that she hit my dd whether or not she was marked and was witnessed doing this by several other people.

I dont really know what she will do next but she said she will be in touch and that I should not respond to any of her messages and refrain from talking to others about the incident until she had a chance to look into it. Oh and no swimming tomorrow.

Also, i didnt pop out after calling the police Hmm i called them when we returned at 5... I dont know what difference that makes but just so you all know.

I think my dd is a handful, for everyone who asks if I am rose eyed spec when it comes to her the answer is a firm NO. I have never said she was an angel but prior to the police car incident she was happily playing away on a rocking horse/ ball pit etc. She also engages nicely with and plays happily with her little brother and she has never hit out at him or hurt him in anyway - the most she will do is call him a silly silly boy if he cries... She doesnt tantrum often but when she does its pretty full on - thanks for all those that have offered advice and reading material, will check out amazon later.

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myBOYSareBONKERS · 09/04/2013 09:11

what was the Party thread? Only want to be nosey Blush

BinarySolo · 09/04/2013 09:16
Hmm
DaemonPantalaemon · 09/04/2013 09:37

She was lovely but did think that the bruise wasnt consistent with a bare hand smack so maybe I got it wrong but I cant see how else she could have got it.

What might you have got wrong? You mean that she might not have been smacked at all?

Confused now.

LovePickles · 09/04/2013 09:37

I'm new around here, but I don't understand people jumping on the OP for not updating her thread between the hours of 5pm and 8am. People have things to do. It doesn't mean she's making it up. You may have ideas about her other threads but can't you just take this for what it is - a discussion about what people would do in this situation? She's hardly going to gain anything from this, where's the motive?