She smacked my daughter... WWYD??

[Clumsyoaf]

In shock, just come home from a soft play place, went with some other mums that I have just started getting to know. DD (4 years old) being unruly - we are going through a phase at the moment, one of the other mums just picked her up and smacked her on her bottom. I was completely stunned - I would never hit a child my own or someone elses... DD in tears i just gathered up DS's stuff took DD and left.

I want to pick her up on it, or call the police or something..... sorry dont have anyone in RL i cant speak to right now so sorry for ranty message im just still stunned!

WWYD?????

How's DD now?

a tad disingenous che. really.

Then what are you saying CheCazzo? - what other conclusion is one supposed to draw from your post?

Jeez,I hate cryptic posting!!

I have a bruise from this morning (tripping over DC's bloody mouse-on-wheels-on-a-stick, whacked leg against DC's toy kitchen...). It's yellow already. That bruise web page is talking shite, my bruises never last 10-14 days let alone stay red/purple all that time! Red first, purple 6-12 hours, yellow 12-24hrs, green and fading 24-48hrs. I have very pale skin and bruise very easily.

I can't see any reason to doubt OP's story.

I'd have phoned the police too. You expect 4yos to behave like young children. If you don't like their behaviour, talk to the parents, don't just hit the child. That's bullying and cowardice - and as others have said, if she
thought it was appropriate, what else does she think appropriate

I have very very pale skin. The type that marks really easily. Have just hit myself on the (inside - where the skin is palest -of the) arm really hard. No red arm. But it still stings slightly.

That was a major hit.

I for one always enjoy a good Clumsy thread

MummytoKatie fantastic dedication to the discussion there! They don't do an award icon so here's some or if you prefer for going above the call of duty !

I am also very pale and bruise frequently (very clumsy!). If its something bloody hard (top speed squash ball or table corner... falling down stairs, dropping plate on foot, walking into sloping ceiling...) it's red with a white bulls eye, then darkens (purple/blue/black) the next day, and green/yellow the day after. Even when I broke several toes, the bruise lasted about a week.

I would be concerned if the child was bruised after a spanking tbh. Bruising through clothing from an open palm doesn't sound right, does it?

I have very pale skin and bruise easily too,

when I was a teen, playfighting with a crush got a bit too enthusiastic and I ended up landing on the wooden arm of a chair from quite a height. It hurt really badly and I actually thought I'd broken a bone. It went greeny blue instantly and developed into a black/purple bruise later on.
Needless to say, I went off him after that....

It must have been a serious whack to bruise a bottom at all, never mind in less than 12 hours.

I bruise very easily and they are dark instantly. When my OH bruises and it shows up, more often than not they are only yellow till they fade. unless he's been paintballing then they stay red for a long time!

Good luck with the police OP x

She left a bruise?!

She knows she's done wrong, hence all the messages.

I'm really struggling to believe a smack on the bum left a bruise of any colour whatsoever.

I can believe it. Children's skin is very delicate and bruises easily and it sounds to me as if the OP's little girl was wearing a dress or skirt and so the smack was on bare skin or just one thin layer of clothing.

No update, so presumably police coming tomorrow. Clumsy, please be clear in your mind what actually happened. I am really concerned that the outrage on this thread may have exagerated things in your mind? Maybe take a moment to think it through clearly, and read what you originally posted? It started with your child being picked up and smacked and has now become someone talking through gritted teeth 'pelting' your child, and leaving a bruise.

Report. report. report. don't speculate on a thread.

I don't think what the OP has posted has been particularly inconsistent though.

Madame - exactly.

Gosh, I can't believe she smacked your child. Who does that?!? Glad you called 101 and I hope you and dd are ok.

Madame, if that's directed to me, I don't think its fair. I'm suggesting to the op that now she is involving the police she should be careful not to get caught up in the anger shown by other posters to the woman, and just to be clear about the marks definitely being caused by the smack.

good gracious

no nerf, directed to the poster directly before you. I agree with you.

I'm bizarrely speaking for Madame here (sorry) but no Nerf, not at you., at the posters blatantly saying 'I don't believe/unbelievable/thread doesn't add up though'

Yours was sensible advice