to object to being called a dick

[Catherinethemate]

Apparently i was being a dick, as in i did something to upset my OH. He told me to shut up, then he called me a dick. I objected so he shouted SHUT UP YOU DICK! in my face. A big row eventually happened. Am i oversensitive? Does your OH say this to you? Even now when i say he shouldn't have called me it he says..don't be a dick then. If someone at work or in a social situation annoyed him i very much doubt he would shout SHUT UP DICK in their face so AIBU to find it unnacceptable???

She would tell you to fuck off. Time to channel that.

Yep. . It certainly is.

That text he sent you sent chills down my spine. I had an ex like this before I met DH and had DDs - perfectly charming and fun then he would become verbally abusive and send lots of texts like that one . Thankfully dumped him years ago I still shudder to think of that relationship and am now embarrassed I was ever involved in it. Am sure you will be too. At least he is not your DCs father so you dont have to have any further contact.

The other thing is, he thinks he's doing you some kind of favour to have you back after you went off with that other bloke. He's condescending to have you around, and you're just not fucking grateful enough for his liking, OH no.

Well you don't have to be grateful for a shit like him. Anyone who thinks that you SHOULD be grateful to be in a relationship, again, doesn't actually LOVE you - and should be dumped forthwith.

Be very clear that it is OVER FOR GOOD and you do not want further contact; any attempt at further contact will be construed as harassment.

Definitely he feels i should be grateful in that he thinks my past should be a mediating factor in my forgiving his current behaviour.

Definitely he feels i should be grateful in that he thinks my past should be a mediating factor in my forgiving his current behaviour.

My phone is insane. . I am gonna figure how to block his number on my phone, steel myself and do the deed.

Thanks Kotinka, really don't think i will have to go down that route. I did with my ex and it ended in a restraining order in criminal courts because he flouted it. I wil check out the link because what i do anticipate is a few days of calls. I am concerned about his mental health and him having a history of self harming. Also because he talks about his life being over if i give up on us. I do know that is manipulative and EA but it works and does prevent me from acting because it's going to take guts for me to do it and wait for the fall out.