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AIBU to think that I didn't mean stock up your cupboards when I said you can get a few treats?

37 replies

TeamJavert · 06/04/2013 18:11

I was having a film night with a friend,and we went to Sainsburys to get some sweets and crisps. I said it's my treat,get yourself a few things to enjoy while we watch the film.

AIBU to think a few things does not mean 2 giant Aero bars,a bag of 4 creme eggs,a giant Galaxy caramel.2 Walkers multipacks,a 2 litre bottle of Irn Bru, a bag of Starburst,a box of Maltesers and a bag of Fruit Pastilles?

Like an idiot I paid for it at the checkout,thinking that she was going to give me the money for it,but no,she didn't. This was all for her,and her alone btw.

It's not the money that's an issue,but AIBU to think she went a little OTT? And that she shouldn't be using it as an excuse to stock up her cupboard?

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pollyblue · 06/04/2013 18:12

how much of that did she eat watching the film?!

blimey

Bogeyface · 06/04/2013 18:13

I know people that could easily trough that stupid amount in one sitting, so YABU to assume she is stocking her cupboards but YANBU to feel taken advantage of. I would ask her tonight to get out the stuff you paid for to eat, if she doesnt get it all out and make yourself sick on it!

usualsuspect · 06/04/2013 18:14

Was it a long film?

WorraLiberty · 06/04/2013 18:15

Fucking hell that's some hardcore snacking and YANBU to be annoyed, but YWBVU to have paid for it.

I really couldn't concentrate on the film with someone chomping and rustling their way through all that.

AnnoyingOrange · 06/04/2013 18:15

Why didn't you leave her to pay at the checkout?

I would have said something then

DontSHOUTTTTTT · 06/04/2013 18:15

Why on earth didnt you raise it with her at the time or ask her for the money afterwards. Confused

You could also have asked her to leave the uneaten food at your house when she left.

Does she have form for the type of thing?

LadyMaryQuiteContrary · 06/04/2013 18:15

She got a little carried away there, hey! Grin

NettoSuperstar · 06/04/2013 18:16

Fucking hell!

usualsuspect · 06/04/2013 18:17

Did she eat it all?

PurpleStorm · 06/04/2013 18:19

That's a lot for one film night. Did she eat it all?

I'd have said something at the checkout.

AnyoneforTurps · 06/04/2013 18:20

YANBU to be annoyed but YABU to expect her to give you money after you had told her it was your treat. You should have told her to put some of it back before you paid.

I'm also Shock about her health. I love some sweets in front of a movie but - from your description - she will literally be consuming an entire week's worth of calories in a single sitting.

ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 06/04/2013 18:20

If she ate the whole lot during the film then YABU, if she didn't then YANBU Grin

usualsuspect · 06/04/2013 18:21

I think I would have said I would have taken a few things off her and said 'I will pay for these' and left her to pay for the rest.

usualsuspect · 06/04/2013 18:22

that sentence made no sense Grin

EuroShaggleton · 06/04/2013 18:23

No wonder we have a type II diabetes problem in this country...

Maat · 06/04/2013 18:24

I'm guessing you were sitting through a Trilogy Grin

sjupes · 06/04/2013 18:25

Christ, she's a grubbing cow isn't she??!

I'd be asking her for the money tbh, that is A LOT for '1 movie'

can't bear greedy sorts that take advantage

floatyflo · 06/04/2013 18:27

I hate these kind of posts. Yeah maybe she did go overboard, and maybe that would be seen as a bit rude.

But dont you feel like if your friend saw this post she'd be feeling a bit hurt and embarrassed. I just feel its really judgy. You said it was treat, you didn't specify how much. Maybe that's a normal amount for a film feast to her.

It reminds me of an aibu a month or two ago, about the babysitter who ate lots of food out the ladies fridge. She was so bitchy about this poor girl.

ENormaSnob · 06/04/2013 18:34

She's taking the piss.

I can trough like a good 'un but that's a disgusting amount.

DontSHOUTTTTTT · 06/04/2013 18:34

There must be more than 10,000 calories in that lot
14 packs crisps = 2500
4,litres iron bru = 1600
4 creme eggs = 600

Etc....

LadyMaryQuiteContrary · 06/04/2013 18:35

Did you have to wheel her home in a barrow?

SamuelWestsMistress · 06/04/2013 20:18

Perhaps she's planning on hibernating and needs the energy?

BarredfromhavingStella · 06/04/2013 21:00

I could do that minus one of the walkers multipacks Blush I love snacking Grin Lucky you're not my mate cos I'd have whacked a bottle of Hendricks through the checkout as well...Wink

Original poster
TeamJavert · 06/04/2013 21:03

Sorry for dripfeeding. We went to our respective homes immediately afterwards,to get a few things done before the film. She brought some of the stuff round,but most was left at home,so in a sense I was stocking her cupboards.

It isn't about how much she eats either.She's tiny and slim,not that I'd care if she wasn't and ate a ton.And it's not really about the money either.I just think she was taking the piss a bit.And it reminded me that she does tend to do this. I hadn't seen her for a while,so I'd forgotten she's fond of freeloading.

On holiday once,I said I'd get lunch,and said we'll split dinner,and she said 'Why do we need to do that? Have you run out of money?'

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