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AIBU to not want to move to Dudley?

146 replies

williaminajetfighter · 06/04/2013 16:32

I was recently offered a very well-paid job in the Black Country but ended up turning it down because I just couldn't imagine myself living there. I drove around the area and found it, well, depressing and I couldn't imagine myself living there. No offense to anyone around there - sometimes people 'jive' with a place and sometimes they don't. And I'm not a huge fan of commuting - for lots of reasons - so didn't want to have to live 45/60 minutes away from work.

My DH always brings it up and thinks I made a mistake, particularly as the salary was so much more than I'm on now. I feel horrible about the whole thing so would appreciate if people told me I was (a) crazy to give up the job or (b) made the right decision.

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BestIsWest · 06/04/2013 21:00

I lived in Dudley for about a year as a student. I loved it, on the edge of fantastic countryside as others have said.

TKKW · 06/04/2013 21:00

YABU.

used to work in dudley town centre with an hour and a half commute from a town in staffordshire. could never persuade my H there were nice places although we house hunted in the area - he's just a snob!!

there are some lovely places around dudley, the countryside is near and very good house prices - thats coming from someone who has lived in the heart of the black country for a few years. i always got miffed that i could buy a carbon copy of my house in staffordshire for about 75 k cheaper in dudley!

i suppose its in the past now and you should keep job hunting.

lesson learnt- take a look at the wider area next time.

do feel sorry for you with your H raising it regularly.

williaminajetfighter · 06/04/2013 21:55

Thx everyone for your input. I feel a plod but at the time it didn't FEEL right. Next time ill do a bit more investigating before I make a decision.

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MarmaladeTwatkins · 06/04/2013 22:29

If it ay roihgt it ay roight bab!

But there's a sit-down Greggs in Dudley so it is your loss.

kellank · 06/04/2013 22:31

As Admiral said, Wall Heath is a nice area as well as other areas within twenty minutes or so of Dudley ( I live just outside of Dudley).

Dudley Town area is very depressing and dont think the schools are particularly good either.

pigletpower · 06/04/2013 23:00

Not anymore Marmalade.

ivykaty44 · 06/04/2013 23:03

Didn't Womborn come out as one of the top ten places to live in the country?

That can't be that great a commute from Dudley?

ivykaty44 · 06/04/2013 23:05

just checked and it is 6 miles away

MarmaladeTwatkins · 06/04/2013 23:28

Bloody is! I was in there the other week

Haylebop12 · 06/04/2013 23:50

I live in Dudley albeit a nice part with an "outstanding" school. The town centre is pretty dire. I have lived here all my life.

There are lovely places within ten minutes. Wombourne, Swindon are lovely countryside locations. Kingswinford, wall Heath are also nice.

Haylebop12 · 06/04/2013 23:51

If by sit down Greg's you mean the bench just outside then yes. The one in the town centre is not big enough for tables and chairs Hmm

MarmaladeTwatkins · 08/04/2013 10:46

Well ACTUALLY Haylebop, there are TWO in town.

The sit-down one is by Peacocks. Go and have a look. I know. I had to go in and buy DS a gingerbreadman from there about a month ago! There is a whole seating area at the back.

You can come back and apologise when you realise you are wrong. :)

Haylebop12 · 08/04/2013 10:59

Haha no apologies from me as it isn't a Gregg's, its a different bakery. Not sure what its called mind. I know where you mean though, at the end of the arcade bit opposite a jewelers. By river island :-)

MarmaladeTwatkins · 08/04/2013 11:02

NO! That is WOLLASTON BAKERY!

I swear to you, there is a sit-down Greggs, opposite the other one pretty much, on Dudley High St!

It shows you on the shop finder here, two Greggs practically opposite each other

FoofFighter · 08/04/2013 11:07

The one that used to be Three Cooks?

FoofFighter · 08/04/2013 11:09

Or up the top end by the Sally Army maybe?

MarmaladeTwatkins · 08/04/2013 11:09

Could have been. It's about two doors up from Peacocks.

MarmaladeTwatkins · 08/04/2013 11:10

No, deffo not by the Sally Army. It's the other end by the big British heart Foundation!

Sparklingbrook · 08/04/2013 11:19

Envy All sounds very glamorous. DH has today off, we could take a trip. Grin

MarmaladeTwatkins · 08/04/2013 11:23

I tell you what, you haven't seen classy until you've been in a sit-down Greggs in Dudley. Forget Made in Chelsea...

I wander around Dudley quite a lot. They have good charity shops which are good for procuring stock for vintage fairs which can be sold on at a profit There are some sights to behold.

Haylebop12 · 08/04/2013 11:26

I can't believe 26 years of living here and I don't know about a sit down Gregg's. I feel a fraud!!

Sparklingbrook · 08/04/2013 11:26

DH not keen. Sad It's only a bit further than the Mezza. Sad

MordecaiAndRigby · 08/04/2013 11:29

Poor Dudley. A town that fell victim to MerryHill. Sad

MordecaiAndRigby · 08/04/2013 11:30

Grin @ "mezza"

BestIsWest · 08/04/2013 11:31

Is the Yates wine lodge still there? We used to go in and drink the Australian Sherry then fall in the sawdust on the floor.