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AIBU?

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Original poster

In hating dd's friend?

88 replies

Nicknamenotavailableeither · 04/04/2013 16:18

So, invited dd's friend over for a play seeing as it is the Eastwr hols. Thought it would be nice for dd.

I have known that friend (henceforth known as nasty girl - ng) is a bit of a rascal, dd has said before that age gets in trouble at school quite a bit. I just didn't realise how truly horrid she is.

This is what she has done in the hour or so she has been here:

-- dropped massive chunks of biscuit in the floor, laughed and refused to clear it up.

--wiped chocolatey spit inside my diary (and laughed about it).

--asked me why I have such a fat bum? Hmm

--hit my dd and made her cry.

I fucking hate her. I want to call her mum and get her picked up. AIBU????

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Original poster
Nicknamenotavailableeither · 04/04/2013 16:18

Btw dd and her friend are 5.

OP posts:
countrykitten · 04/04/2013 16:19

Er - she is 5. Have a word with yourself.

usualsuspect · 04/04/2013 16:20

YABU to fucking hate a 5 year old girl. Call her mum if she's being a pain though.

lottieandmia · 04/04/2013 16:20

I'm not sure I would ever say I hated a child but YANBU to tell her mother to pick her up and tell her how badly behaved she has been and never invite her again.

If my child behaved like that in someone else's home I would be horrified tbh. How old is she?

cardibach · 04/04/2013 16:21

No YANBU. If you wouldn't toleraye this behaviour from your DD you don't have to from visitors either. Calmly and clearly tell ng that if she misbehaves again her mum will be called to take her away/you will take her home. And then follow through.
Other people's horrrid children are really horrid and can make you feel very helpless!

MissyMooandherBeaverofSteel · 04/04/2013 16:21

I think you should get her picked up, for her benefit, she is 5 years old ffs.

ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 04/04/2013 16:21

yanbu, some people just aren't very nice, whether they're 5 or not.

LadyBeagleEyes · 04/04/2013 16:21

You 'fucking hate' a five year old?
Ok, some kids can be annoying, but I think your language is a bit over the top.

lottieandmia · 04/04/2013 16:22

Just 5 or nearly 6? I think I would expect more from my dds at that age.

CSIJanner · 04/04/2013 16:22

Hate is a very strong word.

cardibach · 04/04/2013 16:23

For her benefit, Missy? Really?
You don't think the OP might be joking about the hte? Or that even if she does harbour irrational feelings she can't control them?
You think this child's behaviour is acceptable?
Words fail me.

ChameleonCircuit · 04/04/2013 16:23

My house, my rules. Behave yourself or go home. I can understand being pissed off with her, but you're letting a 5 year old get the better of you. Take her home and tell her mother why!

MissyMooandherBeaverofSteel · 04/04/2013 16:25

Yes for her benefit. Can you imagine being 5 years old stuck in a house with an adult who hates you and thinks 'nasty girl' is an acceptable way to talk about a 5yo in her care.

KellyElly · 04/04/2013 16:26

You sound charming OP!

madamginger · 04/04/2013 16:28

My DD is nearly six and has a friend that i really don't like. Every day DD comes home upset that this girl has said or done something to upset her. EVERY fucking day.
The school have tried to keep them apart but there are only 6 girls in her class so it is very hard.
Her parents are moving away in a few months and I am jumping for joy. I don't think it helps that her mother is a bitch too and said some very nasty things about my DD.
But YABU for saying hate about a 5 year old

cardibach · 04/04/2013 16:28

Can you imagine being stuck in your own house with a 5 year old who is disrespectful of your possessions, hurts your daughter and who you don't feel you can remove?
Nothing the OP says suggests she has communicated her displeasure in any inappropriate way. Yes, hate is a strong word, but I don't think she is being entirelt serious about that, just using strong words to convey frustration.
What would you do about the peson who is actually behaving bady here, Missy?

TeamEdward · 04/04/2013 16:29

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MDA · 04/04/2013 16:29

Oh, 5 year olds are easy when they are like this, they need cuddles and games and for you to be on side, to scoop them up on your lap and ask why they are like this, and have a good tickle (probably illegal these days) and say, why are you doing this? Shall we play a game instead? Lets all have fun together. Etc. Not that you necessarily want to spend your day like that but they want your attention and it might well even be an ongoing issue.

PumpkinPositive · 04/04/2013 16:30

I fucking hate her. I want to call her mum and get her picked up. AIBU????

It depends. Do you have a fat bum?

YABU.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 04/04/2013 16:31

This is why 5 is too small for "playdates" at schoolfriend's homes.

hairtearing · 04/04/2013 16:32

I once asked someones parent why they were so fat Blush apparently anyway, I can't remember I was so young.

But I was villified for years for something I don't even remember doing, i.e this person telling mothers, kids etc to ignore me, I would have understood a word with my mother but no, never. Just bare in mind she is very young.

usualsuspect · 04/04/2013 16:32

I can't imagine ever fucking hating a 5 year old child.

LaurieFairyCake · 04/04/2013 16:33

Once again I feel I have to point out that ranting on here is absolutely fine. No one is saying it to the girls face !

Mumsnet is to prevent us calling them horrible little fuckers to their faces.

One of the reasons I love Mumsnet is that you can come on and have a complain about your kids or partner without someone bleating on about how you should never say anything horrible about anyone, ever.

Springsister · 04/04/2013 16:35

Yabu. Hating is a strong word. Annoyed? fine. pissed off. fair enough. If it were my dd I wouldn't want her in your house tbh.
Dropping crumbs! Really?
She is 5!

countrykitten · 04/04/2013 16:36

But 5 years old ...really?

And I want to know too - was she right about the fat bottom? Kids tend to say what they see! Grin

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