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to think the world does not need 'gender reveal parties'?

281 replies

dreamingbohemian · 04/04/2013 09:21

My cousin, clearly the first woman in the world to ever give birth Wink, has just had something called a gender reveal party.

They went for the scan, then had friends and family around, ramped up the suspense for a couple hours, then she opened a big box of balloons that were.... pink! It's a girl! Awwww.

AIBU to think this is the wankiest thing ever? Or am I a joyless hag?

My family think it's cute so I need you nest of vipers lot to restore my faith in humanity.

OP posts:
PretzelTime · 04/04/2013 20:08

Wwwwwwaaaaaaaankyyyyyyy

Grin at the ones where the scans turned out to be wrong though, and at the cake wrecks. "Blue & Pink Paka dots"

PavlovtheEasterBunny · 04/04/2013 20:33

they are fucking ridiculous.

Breadrollsbuns · 04/04/2013 20:34

... But if they weren't called 'gender parties', they would have to be called 'sex parties', and those are a whole different thing Grin

PavlovtheEasterBunny · 04/04/2013 20:34

and unlikely to be a booze filled party so renders it pretty pointless as far as parties go

Liara · 04/04/2013 20:44

Gosh, and I thought sex reveal emails were wanky. You know, the sort where the title is 'It's a......' and you have to actually open the email to find out the sex.

I haven't a clue why anyone would think than anyone other than the parents (if them) would give a damn, and that they are doing anything other than making polite conversation when they ask.

Liara · 04/04/2013 20:46

Loving miggsie's dh, too. Wish I had the guts to say that.

Ridersofthestorm · 04/04/2013 20:50

LMFAO! No your not a joyless hag, I think it is very silly too.

HorryIsUpduffed · 04/04/2013 20:52

If the parents-to-be are "any excuse for a party" types then there are probably worse reasons to throw a party.

But yes, a bit wanky and unnecessary.

How about a "thank fuck our 20w scan went well" party? Booked only after the scan, obvs.

Changebagsandgladrags · 04/04/2013 21:03

Not read the entire thread...

Is this the sort of party where everyone hides in a darkened room. I then come in, switch the light on, flop out my knockers and say "ta-da, I'm a girl"

ItsOkayItsJustMyBreath · 04/04/2013 21:12

Hmm, as I have heavy periods and AF arrived today, I'm thinking about planning a 'number of clots I passed this period' party. What do you think?

Should I hire a plane to have the number sky written? Or maybe hide the answer by way of strawberries inside a bowl of red jelly and have someone bob for them?

Think of the fun we could have.

ReetPetit · 04/04/2013 21:44

YANBU. Absolutely ridiculous - do people who have these parties seriously think anyone else gives a toss what sex their pfb is?! It's either one or the other Hmm

thermalsinapril · 04/04/2013 22:08

Call me old-fashioned but I think the right time to celebrate and congratulate is after the baby has arrived.

Scans on Facebook, gender reveal parties, baby showers and the like all seem to be too much, too soon.

ipadquietly · 04/04/2013 22:11

This has brightened up my day today - thank you OP. I have had so much fun googling the cake ideas...... Smile

PretzelTime · 04/04/2013 22:15

That's not old-fashioned thermal that's sensible. Can we please save the celebrations until the baby is actually born?

nametakenagain · 04/04/2013 22:15

Yanbu. I would not be happy to be invited to a gender reveal party. I've never been invited to a baby shower, though, so I think I'm probably safe for a while, at least.

DoreensEatingHerSoreen · 04/04/2013 22:24

Am I the only one that totally misunderstood the thread title? When I saw "gender reveal parties" I thought this would be referring to some kind of party for a trans-gender person to "reveal" their new body after a sex change, or to celebrate making the decision to live as a different gender.

I was going to come on here and say something along the lines of: "that's nice if that's what the person wants to do to mark the occasion" Blush

BoffinMum · 04/04/2013 22:35

I'd like to see a cake for that.

Alconleigh · 04/04/2013 22:41

Yes utter wank. No one, truly no one, gives a flying one what you're having. Know this, weird attention seeking loons.

DoreensEatingHerSoreen · 04/04/2013 22:44

Grin @ Boffin

BoffinMum · 04/04/2013 22:47

If we start seeing those cakes in Waitrose we'll know gender equality will have finally been achieved once and for all.

bumperella · 04/04/2013 22:55

It's a nice thing to be able to share the joy of others; that they're going to have a baby and they're excited and all appears well and it's a boy/girl.
I can see the "tempting fate" aspect.
I can see the tackiness. But the alternative is endless " she told Cousin A before she told Cousin B, the cah" shenanigance. Telling all your nearest/dearest/.obligated to invites at the same time at least avoids the practical issue of who gets told first.
I dunno. Sometimes I think the American in-your-face-bessie-mates stuff is good.

propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS · 04/04/2013 23:11

Yabu. I think it is positively fantastic. I was SO EXCITED each time I found out. Celebrate and have a fab day, we always have done (well each of the 4 times but ykwim!).

Alconleigh · 04/04/2013 23:11

But Bump, no one actually cares! People ask to be polite, and because what else do you ask about a bump, but truly, cousin A and colleague B don't really care!

CherylTrole · 04/04/2013 23:12

First time I have heard of this!! Wow! What if the scan is wrong though? Would they have to have another party for that?

Alconleigh · 04/04/2013 23:15

Property, I totally get that you're excited, but you wouldn't have a party on the premise that anyone else is, surely?