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to think the world does not need 'gender reveal parties'?

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dreamingbohemian · 04/04/2013 09:21

My cousin, clearly the first woman in the world to ever give birth Wink, has just had something called a gender reveal party.

They went for the scan, then had friends and family around, ramped up the suspense for a couple hours, then she opened a big box of balloons that were.... pink! It's a girl! Awwww.

AIBU to think this is the wankiest thing ever? Or am I a joyless hag?

My family think it's cute so I need you nest of vipers lot to restore my faith in humanity.

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SpecialAgentTattooedQueen · 04/04/2013 15:15

For some, I think it's any excuse for presents...

Grumpy today! But even with my natural grumpyness, this is just icky. No, no and more no.

freddykins · 04/04/2013 15:25

YANBU. What a pile of wank.

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PollyIndia · 04/04/2013 15:33

I would get this if there were 20 different options for sex. Say you could have a boy giraffe or a girl cockatoo. But there are only 2. A boy human or a girl human. It's very self absorbed to think anyone really cares which it is as long as the baby is healthy and the parents happy.

I a

bealos · 04/04/2013 15:37

Sounds like an excuse for more spending too me! Agh... I wonder if these parties were started by a switched on brand looking for more opportunities to sell baby stuff? cynical, moi? Hmm

WillColbert · 04/04/2013 15:39

So Snazzynewyear - was it a pink or yellow balloon at your sandwich reveal party?

SpecialAgentTattooedQueen · 04/04/2013 15:54

Snort Grin

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 04/04/2013 15:55

Were there presents involved? It seems that the americans will do anything for a chance to do presents!

fussychica · 04/04/2013 16:08

Totally naff. I assume it originated in the US???
Personally, I wouldn't even want to know even if I was the expectant mum let alone a friend!
I think knowing would take away so much excitement from the actual birth.

Lottapianos · 04/04/2013 16:08

A couple of years ago, they had a gender reveal party (followed by a baby shower, a welcome to the world party and a christening. I was SKINT by the end!).

Holy. Jesus. Christ.

What in the name of sanity is a 'Welcome to the World 'party? I feel sick. Were you supposed to bring a present to all of these wretched events?

I have a no baby showers, no hen nights rule. I guess I will have to expand this to include Welcome to the World parties now too

Disclaimer: I'm not tight, or a misery guts. I gave my best mate an entire box of gifts which I had been collecting for months when she had her DD. But I have heard about baby showers which involve 'games' and I would honestly rather stick pins in my eyes than even find out what those involve, never mind actually get involved in them. And just don't get me started on hen nights.....

Squitten · 04/04/2013 16:11

It's all just a wonderful part of the new cash-cow that is having babies!

I'm a grump when it comes to all that though. I even think those 3D scans are a total con. BIL & SIL had one done and (shocker!) it looked like a baby! Who knew..?

seeminglyso · 04/04/2013 16:14

''Fucksake. I'm shocked at the stupidity of the posters who are making holier than thou comments regarding being so interested in the sex of your baby, that you are automatically too preoccupied to give a thought to the health of your child. You can do both ''

Quite! People are naturally excited about the sex of their baby as well as hoping it is healthy!

I do think the party is a bit of a cringe but each to their own, I think baby showers are cringey too...everyone buy me presents..erm no thanks.

K8Middleton · 04/04/2013 16:16

Is anyone else desperately hoping they have a boy now? Grin

[cowbag emoticon]

SpecialAgentTattooedQueen · 04/04/2013 16:18

"Fucksake. I'm shocked at the stupidity of the posters who are making holier than thou comments regarding being so interested in the sex of your baby, that you are automatically too preoccupied to give a thought to the health of your child. You can do both ''

I guess that means if I get pregnant again I better have a 'my baby is healthy!' party.

Maybe we can release doves and everyone can have politically correct, gluten/wheat/dairy free cake. Hmm

Because, you know, that wouldn't be weird at all...

EasilyBored · 04/04/2013 16:18

I hate those 3D scans. SOrry, but they are the creepiest thing I have ever seen. Like tiny alien babies. All lumpy and weird.

Buzzardbird · 04/04/2013 16:20

I had visions of them all standing in a circle, pulling up their skirts and 'revealing' their dicks!
I might throw one!

BraveLilBear · 04/04/2013 16:21

OP YADNBU there is no need for such drama - although a bit of giddy excitement can be sweet, if shared with the right people.

Also agree re premature celebrations. I'm not a total doom-monger but stuff does go wrong. Plus you never know how other people are feeling - what if a guest recently had a secret miscarriage?

I think I'm mainly bitter because my mum and sisters made a big deal of saying to me on Monday 'we're going to throw you a baby shower' despite my protestations about grabbiness etc. Eventually I warmed to the idea only to be told when I got home some 2 and a half hours later that 'my dates don't fit with theirs, so nevermind'. I'd just got my head around having a non-grabby girlie gathering as well pffft.

mum2jakie · 04/04/2013 16:23

PMSL! How tacky!!

WankbadgersBreakfast · 04/04/2013 16:23

Wanktastic.

When asked 'do you know what you're having?' I would reply 'Kittens, apparently,'

QOD · 04/04/2013 16:26

I've got American friends and I've heard of the scan company themselves notifying a cake shop of the sex, they make a cake with pink or blue sponge and ice it

The family collect it, party time, cut the cake and REVEAL!!

StealthPolarBear · 04/04/2013 16:27

op where had skratta mentioned yellow/green cakes? he bit I can see mentions cakes in the shape of a rainbow (??) with blue or pink insides

MrsHoarder · 04/04/2013 16:28

I was going to have puppies Wankbadgers. Thinking about it, this may explain DS's tendency to chew my slippers (I do stop him. I mean I don't want bite marks in them.)

Buddhagirl · 04/04/2013 16:34

If I was there I would puke

SpecialAgentTattooedQueen · 04/04/2013 16:35

Cutting into a scan of your 3D alien baby?

How morbid. Then again, those yanks do love their violent fllms Grin

GwendolineMaryLacey · 04/04/2013 16:45

But most people do bloody care! I lost track of the amount of people who asked what I was having and begged me to find out. People are naturally nosey and being all holier than thou about it doesn't change that.

3D scans on the other hand. They're weird. But hey, whatever you like.