My friends 4 year old trashed Ds bedroom and broke his expensive birthday toy.

[Cannierelax]

AIBU to want some form of compensation for the broken toy? Perhaps a replacement or even a similair but cheaper toy. My Ds is 5.5 and my friends Dd is 4.5. When i told my friend Ds was really upset she said, well that's what kids do. Em, not my child. Aibu? My friend was there when this happened and gave her Dd a row. She knew that the toy was broken but I said I would get DH to try and mend it. I've just messaged her saying DH Was not able to repair it at this point. At this point she stated that's what children do. I messaged back that it was a birthday gift he was looking forward to for several months. She hasn't messaged back.

Oh for heaven's sake!

You reminded me at first of DS's friend who came round and chucked disco glitter, lip gloss, face powder and NAIL VARNISH all over her bedroom. THAT is destructive, not pulling some bricks apart.

It's Easter weekend - there's loads of time to sift through a box of bricks. Have you not seen the Lego advert with the funky house? You don't need instructions, just an idea of what you want. Restricting to the plan only restricts the imagination.

DS's friend doesn't come over any more. Can't bloody redecorate and wash the carpet all the time.

YABVU, by the way.

It's a four day weekend and the weather's bitterly cold outside. What better way to spend the weekend than rebuilding the Lego City toy with a large stash of chocolate to hand?

Well done for coming back op. Yes it is annoying when it gets dismantled somwtimes.

I bought ds2 and ds3 the lego vampyre castle and the hearse from the range for xmas. It took them.hours to build and it was fantastic! Thry then bastardised it with bits from other models...a seaside house and lighthouse and now its totally dismantled and mixed in with their ten million tonnes of lego :( but they dont mind. They spend hours and hours playing with lego and always manage to fight over one specific bit despite us having tonnes of it i have a photo of the vampyre castle built and perfrct as my fb profile picture!! I loved it sooo much

Wow! a AIBU... starts off YANBU... the whole story... YABU... OP annoyed ,,, cue bunfight and flounce but! OP takes on board and recognise BU...

Never thought I would see the day on mumsnet!

Glad you've taken it all in OP... good luck with the rebuilding!
and...
I've learnt that you can get instructions online... going to show ds and he can sort through his mountains of lego and rebuild his 20+ star wars kits!!!!

A lot of the time the basic stuff is the best, isn't it?

The kits-well, you can't always do that much with them once they are built!

We have loads.

The kids are teens now & my intention-brace yourself P-is to dismantle them to box up & store.

Hope you find all the pieces that you need!

Samuel- yep I've just done that and had a chuckle to myself!

I have a lovely friend who has dreadful children. They tear the house apart and destroy everything. I just don't invite them very often, which is a pitty.

If she was a decent friend she would offer to replace the toy. I would be mortified if it was me x

I had something similar when DS had a friend round to play - his mum and little bro came too. Little bro ripped some pages out of a brand new and unread book of my DS.

I was horrified - he did this in front of both me and his mum. No apology. Nothing!

No offer to replace.

I was bitterly pissed off about it tbh - DS absolutely loves his books!

Mental note made - they have never been to our house since.

I know a book is a small thing - but it was brand new and damaged by being ripped.

Now, Lego being trashed is another thing entirely - it can be rebuilt, painful as that may be. Just be sure to keep the large constructions out of reach next time.

MandragoraWurzelstock there is a bit more to the story (age inappropriate computer games too) so ds hasn't challanged it.

I think the reason I didn't keep the original instructions was beacuse DH and I both thought this wasn't the sort of Lego you break and rebuild. We thought it was a build once only model! Well Ds loves lego and will be getting more sets in the future. Il be keeping the instruction manuals in a folder like others have suggested.

Can you tell we only have one child!!

Yabu because its NOT broken Lego is meant to be played with. Just look online for the instructions.

That's a great update op. One of the reasons why Aibu trumps real life sometimes-if I were having a moan about this sort of thing with a RL friend, politeness would get in the way and she'd probably say the equivalent of yanbu. Here, you get a hundred people's opinion and you can make your mind up properly avoiding real life angst. By the way-yanbu to be annoyed at having to build it again. I dread the day when any of mine get into specific Lego. Luckily we only have a big box of bricks so every space ship is a never to be seen again one off!

Good for you op for taking all the messages on board and being so gracious. That's a rare thing on aibu!

Cannierelax? I bet you can relax...just try. YABU.

Also by the way-just in case you also want to know about play dough colour mixing-yanbu to suggest immediate expulsion for anyone who dares!

Ds has Lego...dd destroys it.

Only on MN-PFLK(precious first lego kit)

I would contact her and say you thought it was a model that wouldnt be dismantled but youve realised it can be rebuilt , and explain your son worked hard on it and was a bit upset , say you over reacted but didnt realise and joke about it , appologise if you offended her but laugh and say you apreciate her telling her little one off , its a learning curve for kids and parents , i get more upset about my son dimantling a lego toy that he does lol, its my ocd lol, everything has a place he hee xxx

Dh cried bitter tears when 5 year old ds1 broke up the millennium falcon he had just finished building to make a barn a few years back.
Its still brought up now whenever ds does something wrong
' ds is backchatting again, I've docked his pocket money...and he broke my falcon five years ago...'

wankerchief that just made me laugh out loud!

This is why we don't buy Lego yet. My DH would twitch if he spent time making it up and DS 'helped' and decided it looked better his way.

OP I think you've been very gracious taking the onslaught of 'are you mad woman?' posts.

Mumsnet is too funny sometimes.

OP, you've made me laugh, and I was having a shitty kind of day, so thank you.

DS and DH has approximately 4 million tonnes of lego. In the early days DS used to dismantle the sets (we have no idea where all the Atlantis bits are in all the other stuff). Now he has 'playing lego' and 'sets lego'. He plays with the sets, but doesn't dismantle them. The 'playing' lego is for building any old stuff.

DH has kept all the instructions - and the boxes - from the sets just in case one of DS's friends breaks anything up.

Hope your DS & DH manage to rebuild it ok.

Don't feel daft.

Lego is known between me and my husband as bastard lego. You know, in that nasty low hissing voice.

I bloody HATE it.

The inventor of lego is up there on my People I Aim To Beat To Death list along with the creators of playmobile and gogos.

the former being designed to drive you insane and the latter being designed to leave you with crippling injuries when you step on the little shits at 3am when you're trying to get to the loo with no lights on.

Ds has a huge tub of Lego. Lots of expensive sets - it's all jumbled up in there. Lego is meant to be taken apart - ds is at the moment quietly making something random with his Lego. We do keep the instructions - one day dh is going to have to try to find all the right pieces and assemble them so we can flog it on.

I was going today Yanbu until I read t was Lego. Couldn't you find te right pieces in the bucket of Lego ad ource instructions online. Thought Lego is ment to be deconstructed and reconstructed. I thought it was a transformer or something like that