My friends 4 year old trashed Ds bedroom and broke his expensive birthday toy.

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AIBU to want some form of compensation for the broken toy? Perhaps a replacement or even a similair but cheaper toy. My Ds is 5.5 and my friends Dd is 4.5. When i told my friend Ds was really upset she said, well that's what kids do. Em, not my child. Aibu? My friend was there when this happened and gave her Dd a row. She knew that the toy was broken but I said I would get DH to try and mend it. I've just messaged her saying DH Was not able to repair it at this point. At this point she stated that's what children do. I messaged back that it was a birthday gift he was looking forward to for several months. She hasn't messaged back.

So ....which part of the bedroom got trashed then ?

Was it a bit messy ?

Agree loon

This is just one of these things. A child took a toy away from our house. We searched the whole house. His mother did replace the toy with a similar one but was unable to get the actual toy. She said the original toy was broken which I didn't believe. Her DC just didn't want to give it up as it was a hard to find action figure. But there was nothing I could do. So I just let it go but was annoyed at the time as this child did have form for doing this. But you can hardly call in CID for a three year old!

I can see why the OP is annoyed because DS2 didn't dismantle his Lego City sets, once the big models were built. He used to set them up around his bedroom, create a city and have a whale of a time. We still have all of his in the garage in seperate boxes.

The little girl was wrong to take it apart when it was obviously causing the OP's DS such upset. The OP is BU to expect a new set to be bought, the OP's DH and the DS can rebuild it together over Easter.

I cant be othered to read all the responses, I guess they say that you are being a little bonkers about this, its lego, defined as a construction toy not a freakin ornament. Rebuild it, build something else, its what its for. I wonder if you are the woman I met in the lego store who wanted to know what to do with the pick and mix lego as it didnt go with the sets.

YABU if it genuinely was a broken toy then yes I would replace, my son accidently broke a bow belonging to our friend's child.

The Dad had told my husband (both present when it happened) never mind these things happen but we knew she had literally just got the toy for her birthday. So we went online, found the item, ordered it and had it posted directly to her as we live 3 hours away.

Lego does come apart, my sons are 10 and 7 and we have had loads of lego, and rebuilt it, and yes it is painful to do it over again. Just like we have built the K'Nex Ferris Wheel at least 4 times.

Lesson to learn is, we are lucky enough to have a playroom, any toys or games that are precious and won't be shared are put upstairs in the children's bedrooms. Anything left out is fair game and for sharing. So when Ds1 was 6 and Ds2's friends came over who were 3 years old, his Nintendo DS and other items went upstairs to be hidden away from young hands.

At least you now know that your friend doesn't respect your things and maybe not allow her daughter to be unsupervised if and when they next visit.

Bossybritches, you can often get good deals on Lego on eBay - assorted bricks by the kg! That's how we got most of ours!

So glad I asked what the toy was!!!!!!!! How on earth could you expect someone to part with £70 for that?!

I have had to deal with the feral child/trashed bedroom paradigm.. if I am feeling precious about it then the child simply doesn't play upstairs.

My OH is a fruitloop about Lego and still has sets in their original boxes at MIL.. I have banned them from the house after once at MIL house dd (age 6) tried to build a rocket with a set meant to be a car and he damn near told her off.

I'm wondering if this is a symptom of the technology generation

How can someone not know Lego is to be taken apart and rebuilt

Hilarious thread. Broken toy, well not broken, disassembled. Therefore, not broken

Actually I am wondering if the OP is on a wind up.

I had a nightmare child for tea once. About 7 years old, dashed to ds room and tried to climb the shelves with his model cars on them. Cue 2 shelves on the floor and all the cars with bits of broken wingmirrors etc on the floor. The boy didn't even flinch at what he had done, just carried on playing in round the shelves on the floor. Was pleased when 6pm came that day!

Great thread to pass a wee coffee break...

"It's Lego!"

Whatever though.

The one thing I have learned on AIBU is that if 100 plus people tell you that youre wrong - YOU'RE WRONG

If your son doesn't disassemble lego then why does he have a big bucket of disassembled lego for the police station pieces to get mixed up with?

Uptoapoint I freaking loved meccano, I just hope DS likes it when he's older. I find normal lego a bit boring.

Lego is there to be played with and you have to be especially careful not to dissemble bits.

A friend of ds's scraped the side of my car with his bike leaving a nice long and deep scratch (estimate £800 to be repaired - car is 6 months old). I haven't told the other mum about it as ds failed to tell his friend to be careful (plenty of room to get past the car but they needed to ensure the bike was nearer the fence than the car when they walked past). I've grounded ds from playing with his friend for this.

A friend's toddler trashed DS1's lego fire station. I spend a happy evening rebuilding it. It wouldn't have occurred to me to suggest my friend bought a new one because it wasn't broken merely returned to its original "shop bought" condition i.e. in bits.

I think your friend should have been a bit more apologetic because clearly it was a toy that your DS loved but that's as far as it goes.

Surely if she pays for another one you are going to have to build it again anyway

Or has Lego changed since ds1 played with it?

Does it now come fully assembled?

If I was paying £70 for Lego, I'd want a Lego man to come and build it for me.

LOL but poor OP. Chin up.

I always wondered who had the kids that kept the model once it was made. I am at anyone whose child doesn't immediately smash it to smithereens and construct something out of Wolverine instead.

spent not "spend"

I don't think you can leave a Lego model out and expect a 4 year old to know not to touch it or break it. It's a toy - children see things that look fun and then they pick them up and play with them. Lego can actually fall apart quite easily.

My two year old sometimes gets hold of my older boys Lego and often it will break but this is why I tell the boys to keep it out of her reach.

If your son and you are really bothered about it getting broken, then it's your responsibility as an adult to keep it out of other children's reach. Poor girl is only 4!

I've also learnt the hard way to keep unopened boxes of Lego out of other children's reach too and not under the bed, as we have had them opened and all the numbered bags emptied and muddled up before we've started building it!

I don't understand the fuss though as all our Lego gets built then ends up broken up in a huge box after a few days anyway. Then the boys just make up things to build with it.

Okay , okay. I get it. I genuinely thought it was broken. As Ds didn't want to rebuild it. We will construct in and try and find all the pieces today.

I meant as Ds didn't want to dismantle it.

Oh Bisjo that sounds a bit sad for your ds.

If it were me I'd probably want the other kid to stay away for a while but it sounds like it was no ones fault