My friends 4 year old trashed Ds bedroom and broke his expensive birthday toy.

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AIBU to want some form of compensation for the broken toy? Perhaps a replacement or even a similair but cheaper toy. My Ds is 5.5 and my friends Dd is 4.5. When i told my friend Ds was really upset she said, well that's what kids do. Em, not my child. Aibu? My friend was there when this happened and gave her Dd a row. She knew that the toy was broken but I said I would get DH to try and mend it. I've just messaged her saying DH Was not able to repair it at this point. At this point she stated that's what children do. I messaged back that it was a birthday gift he was looking forward to for several months. She hasn't messaged back.

Yabu, no one broke a toy, its lego. No one is missing pt but you.

You are being unreasonable op. I would be frustrated but certainly not ask for compensation. I wouldn't be surprised if I saw a counter Aibu thread started by your friend "Aibu not to pay for a Lego model that my ds broke up at his friend's house?"

'Well, I have realised that although my son doesn't disassemble his Lego, others obviously do!!'

Did you honestly not know that?! Did you think it was like flat-pack furniture?

My boys really really really (please mummy, Pleeeeeaaaseee) want the Ninjago dragons.

Lego is so bloody expensive isn't it?

(I know where all the instructions are to every set they have ever had)

This thread is a classic! Just like the time I asked my friend to replace the 500 piece Peter Andre jigsaw that her dd had taken apart...

Your son is still quite young, and so may not be able to put it back together at that age, so it may make more sense to keep it as a made-set. But once they are a bit older (6/7), they can make/remake them themselves, my 6/7 year old dd loves making Lego and there's nothing beyond her in the usual Lego sets.

YABU.
I don't get why people don't put any 'treasured' toys in a hidden place when their DCs friends visit? Made up lego or whatever, surely you'd put it up somewhere out of reach if you are that bothered? How is the child supposed to know what toys can or can't be played with?
Likewise, we had a new years eve party, so a lot of Christmas toys around DS hadn't had the chance to open, yet alone play with. I said to him to put any toys away he didn't want opened. Anything else is free for all really for the other kids to play with.
Even if it had been a broken toy, like a broken remote control car or something, I still think it's the risk you take with having kids around. Mind you, a lot would depend on whether it was broken maliciously or an accident ...

DD2s dino Lego is lying on her chest of drawers in an awful state, DS got ahold of it and wrecked it. Easter holidays we will rebuild it together, I see it as my fault as it wasn't out of his way, he's almost 3.

YABVU get the instructions (always keep them btw) and spend quality time with DS rebuilding it.

Probably x-posting with everyone, but even if you got a new one, you'd still need to reassemble it. So I'm afraid I don't really understand. She should spend £70 so you don't need to go through DS's box of Lego and look for the bits? That seems very unreasonable to me.

If the bits for the model are very different to the rest of the lego they'll be easy to find, if they're the same as loads you've already got then you already have lots you can use! I'm a bit confused about what exactly you need.

You must get yourself to Tesco and buy a couple of A4 size folders, the ones with the clear pockets in them.

Every time your DS gets a new lego set, put the instructions in the folder.

Also, get your DS to tip his lego out onto a blanket on the floor. When he,s finished playing chuck all lego pieces onto the blanket and then use the blanket to tip the lego into a storage box.

My 9 yo DS is lego mad and if you do the above 2 things, life will be easier.

Glad you shave seen sense and that YABU.

I know it's expensive. I know it takes a long time to build. But it isn't actually broken. Part of the fun and challenge with Lego is building and rebuilding and designing your own models. But if your DS wants the police station he had then you can have a lovely afternoon getting all the pieces together and rebuilding.

I am a bit anal and tried to keep sets together but failed. We now have a huge collection and DS builds his own police stations etc. It's really good for their imagination.

So I think it is a shame that it got dismantled but there is no way you can expect your friend to replace it.

SchroSawMargeryDaw we have meccano too! But not as many as Lego. Now and then they do try to make strange things with it. But not as obsessively as with Lego. I love construction toy. The only thing that can be improved with Lego would be that they would go back to their own bloody boxes instead of lurking about trying to ambush unshod feet.

This is why I think these Lego "kits" are a bad idea- they are seen as a one off challenge & the kids get upset if it then gets broken up or a vital (usually the sodding smallest) piece goes missing. It is seen as a broken toy.

Lego was originally invented as a lot of bits & bobs to encourage kids to use their imagination & build all sorts of things using their imagination. You could get different coloured blocks/windows/wheels & it kept little hands busy for hours.

I was delighted several years ago when we went to Legolnad to see you could buy a big popcorn tub full of the basic bricks in different colours to bulk out your stash. Wish more toy shops would sell them like that!

Sorry off topic....bloody annoying OP but that's why it's probably best to keep the little blighters downstairs so you can supervise them until you know they can be trusted.

Lego have fantastic customer service. If any bits are missing just email explaining situation and they will replace (often free of charge). Lego rocks.

Am a bit at a child not pulling apart and rebuilding Lego, isn't that the point?

Its annoying op but you can't ask her to buy a new set when yours isn't broken. You would sound like a loon. Would you pay if it was the other way round? Seriously?

argh the ninjago dragons, bane of my life, the blasted things fall apart as soon as you look at them, I will never get back the hours of my life wasted on bloody ninjago
they make great helicopters/ space ships etc afterwards though

OP sort lego by colours before starting the rebuild it makes life a lot easier

BossyBritches - you can get tubs of Lego at some shops. Whereabouts are you? The Lego shop at Westfield in West London and the John Lewis on Oxford St sell them.

Bossy, they usually have them in toys r us or buy them on the lego website. I got DH one for xmas and I love it!

Total unreasonable! I have a Lego mad 6 yo DS, who also has the Police Station, plus all the assorted other things and if I had to replace it everytime DS2 pulled it apart then we would be over run with Lego sets. Rebuilding is the whole point of Lego!!

You are real lying sounding a bit barking mad op .

Can't you SEE that

Or is this some sort of windup .

They are children . It Lego . That's what it's for

As for protecting your child from the distress of seeing their toy broken ....you are being pathetic,in my humble opinion . Take some responsibility FGS

Yep, you sound mad.
Lego is FOR taking apart and putting back together again.

Should be really sounding

What do you actually want her to pay for???

Lego does not come already assembled, therefore you have to build it any-way - be it your set or a new one.

The child should not of smashed it but in future move models like that out of reach.

YABVU

This is. Not a broken toy .

If I was your friend and you told me that my DS had 'broken' a toy and you expected a replacement (Which I would always do if my DS had broken a toy) and I went to see and in fact all he had done was deconstruct LEGO (The purpose of the toy) I would have pissed myself laughing.

You loon