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Original poster

My friends 4 year old trashed Ds bedroom and broke his expensive birthday toy.

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Cannierelax · 28/03/2013 12:07

AIBU to want some form of compensation for the broken toy? Perhaps a replacement or even a similair but cheaper toy. My Ds is 5.5 and my friends Dd is 4.5. When i told my friend Ds was really upset she said, well that's what kids do. Em, not my child. Aibu? My friend was there when this happened and gave her Dd a row. She knew that the toy was broken but I said I would get DH to try and mend it. I've just messaged her saying DH Was not able to repair it at this point. At this point she stated that's what children do. I messaged back that it was a birthday gift he was looking forward to for several months. She hasn't messaged back.

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spiritedaway · 28/03/2013 12:25

Yes it would be unreasonable

McKayz · 28/03/2013 12:26

It would be very unreasonable for you to ask. It's Lego the whole point is you take it apart and rebuild it.

Nagoo · 28/03/2013 12:26

That's not broken.

YABU.

Buzz lightyear has his legs smashed off? Broken.
Lego is lego. That's what it's for. You break it up, you make new stuff. That's called playing with lego.

YABU and ridiculous.

Chandon · 28/03/2013 12:26

Lego! ....anoying, but yabu.

We have been there many times. Between you and DH you sould really be able to put it back together.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 28/03/2013 12:26

The lego debate is an old one. My DD gets a new set, makes the model then keeps it for a day or so...then it's dismantled and the bits go in the general lego tubs.

It's a building toy...not a toy to build and keep....Unless that's your preference. In which case...put them out of the way when visitors come.

Original poster
Cannierelax · 28/03/2013 12:26

Ubik- this isn't the dirt of Lego to be dismantled. Maybe you don't have experience with the police station and fire station models.

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TippiShagpile · 28/03/2013 12:26

I really really wouldn't ask her to replace it.

zzzzz · 28/03/2013 12:26

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Bingdweller · 28/03/2013 12:27

Is this a reverse thread where your child is the one who disassembled the Lego?? Otherwise I don't understand your latest post.....

DiscoDonkey · 28/03/2013 12:27

Yes of course it would! It's not broken just needs putting back together, which IS doable just sounds like you can't be arsed.

When it comes to Lego there are two types of children, those that like to build and those that just like to play with the end result.

sleepyhead · 28/03/2013 12:27

No, it would be utterly unreasonable for you to ask her to replace it. It would by a crazy thing to do.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 28/03/2013 12:28

Cannierelax...lego IS meant to be dismantled....it's not meant to be kept. I see SOME kids like it to be kept...in the shape of the station or whatever but ,lots and lots of kids don't see it this way....they see it as an ongoing toy.

5eggstremelychocaletymadeggs · 28/03/2013 12:29

Ok so the toy isnt broken then. Yes ywbu if you asked her to.buy a new lego set just because her daughter dismantled it.

WannaBeANinja · 28/03/2013 12:29

you can't ask somebody to 'replace' something that isn't broken!!

It's been taken apart not broken, put it back together

Yabvu

Original poster
Cannierelax · 28/03/2013 12:29

People are missing the point here. It was a police station model fully built which took DH snd Ds several hours to be constructed. He had a separate bucket of dismantled play lego. Friends Dd wasn't building Lego, she simply ripped it apart. My Ds Lego was a fully working model

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weegiemum · 28/03/2013 12:29

I'll rent you my ds (11) to build it again/build something better! He once got an Indiana Jones Temple set for Christmas that was never built as per instructions but was recognisably Indiana Jones.

He's currently slavering over The Lord of the Rings Lego. Or the Death Star!

DiscoDonkey · 28/03/2013 12:30

We have the police station, just because it's dismantled doesn't mean it can't be rebuilt. You are barking mad!

McKayz · 28/03/2013 12:30

We have the fire station and police station. DS1 regularly takes it apart, makes his own version and then asks us to help him rebuild to the instructions.

It's not broken!!!!!!

Pandemoniaa · 28/03/2013 12:30

It isn't actually broken though, is it? It's been disassembled which while a pain in the arse is a rather different situation. I'm also a little surprised that you allow bedroom trashing in the first place. Why are children that young rampaging around upstairs without a careful eye being kept out for the first signs of things getting beyond acceptable play?

jinxdragon · 28/03/2013 12:30

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SirBoobAlot · 28/03/2013 12:30

"It's lego you nut."

This.

Mumsyblouse · 28/03/2013 12:30

Mine love taking them apart, doing new things, then getting out the instructions and making them all over again. We have the police station set, of course you can put it back together. Mine have done it about three times!

You are now seeming very odd.

sleepyhead · 28/03/2013 12:31

All Lego is the sort of Lego that can be dismantled Hmm. At the very worst you might have a bit with a sticker on it that gets peeled off, but as I say these can usually be replaced individually at a hell of a lower cost than £70.

Maybe your dh just isn't very good with Lego? You definitely need to get the instructions though and spend a night at the kitchen table sorting out the pieces.

Dinosaurhunter · 28/03/2013 12:31

Yabu - it's Lego ! Don't worry about the friend visiting again . I imagine she thinks your bonkers .

humblebumble · 28/03/2013 12:31

Ha ha, this is a joke?

It's Lego. I'd be annoyed but I would NOT expect it to be replaced. Isn't the point of Lego that it gets taken apart?