School has just rung me..................................

[SlowlyWakingUp]

DS2 (Yr6)went on a short school trip this morning. His teacher has just rung me to tell me that he 'misbehaved' on the coach so therefore they are deciding whether he should miss out a larger whole day school trip tomorrow which he has been very excited about. There is a big possibility he will not go apparently.

Now I would normally agree with the school as to any punishments for bad behaviour but I am not sure about this. I have never been informed of any behaviour issues on previous school trips and have not been aware of any issues in class previous to this. It's all very sudden and seems quite harsh. His teacher could not clarify what the bad behaviour was as she was not on the coach. Apparently it was not that he got out of his seat but just 'misbehaviour'.

Last week we were given a possible diagnosis of ADD for him which we will have to wait months for the 'official' diagnosis and which I wanted investigated before he starts secondary school due to his learning difficulties and is something I had always suspected. School are having none of it and in the 6 years he has been there, he has been labelled a nuisance IMO.

I have to see the teacher after school for their decision. WIBU to argue on his behalf if it's a NO?

The school did not over react. They told you that it was 'just misbehaviour' when they phoned. It's down to you if you read more into that than was there.

Now you know, you can make sure that he knows he has to behave tomorrow, or he will face consequences.

Sorry but I doubt the school would have threatened several children with missing a school trip over just some waving of arms and shouting.
I suspect the children in question were warned many times and still continued their misbehaviour.
I too think you should support the school and show your DS that it isn't acceptable. Teachers have too much to do to be calling parents over 'nothing'.

Hope you manage to get the right help for your sons additional needs.

I have not read whole thread so apologies if I'm repeating something already said. On basis of OP it is out of order to deny DS trip tomorrow if the person who spoke to you cannot specify what the misbehaviour was. If there is a history of behavoiour issues they should already have informed you of these. Unless something wholly exceptional happened, and the school should be able to tell you very precisiely what that was, then something that happended today should not be used to ban your DS from a trip tomorrow.

I don't think it is helpful to say that shouting to each other and waving hands on the coach is absolutely NOTHING. I hope you won't say this to your son.

I agree landof
Bus driver doesn't need a bus full of shouting kids. Dangerous.

If it was a bit of hand waving and messing about after being repeatedly asked not to do it then it is naughty. If it was just a one off telling off then it would have been nothing to worry about. IYSWIM. My guess, is that the school will not have bothered to call you unless it was serious.

If his actions present a danger on the risk assessment they won't take him.
If he misbehaved on a trip why should he go and spoil it for everyone else?
He should take his punishment and learn a lesson from it.
Ps. My son has ADHD too