To consider treating children for getting good reports.

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We had parents evening today for 6 and 4 year old. Both had excellent reports both academically and for their kind natures.

DH wants to treat them for their good reports. I'm not so sure. Am I being a bit mean? I suspect that I am thinking of the girls at school that had surprise gifts such as watches, cameras or cars after doing well at exams. These gifts didn't act as motivation because they were surprise rewards.

Obviously DH is thinking more of a cinema trip. AIBU to think this might be a poor precedent to set?

I wouldn't reward achievement alone but I would reward it if combined with effort. Reason for me is there may be somethings that ds can do well very easily without making any effort at all. If I reward him for those achievements then he won't ever make any effort. There will no doubt come a time in his school life where he does have to make an effort and if he isn't used to doing so it may come as quite a shock. Some of ds's friends get very big achievement presents.