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Original poster

AIBU to think that eating while on the toilet is inexcusable, especially if you have a guest?

53 replies

WeAreEternal · 08/03/2013 19:58

I visited a friend earlier (I had to take the day off as DS was home 'sick' from school, so though we would pop round and see my friend) She invited us to come just before lunch and said she would make us someone to eat.

My friend suffers from suspected IBS and was suffering with an upset stomach, she was making trips to the toilet every 10 minutes or so.
we made lunch and sat down to eat but she still needed to make frequent trips to the toilet and in the end, after 5 trips and about 4 mouthfuls of food she picked up her plate and took it with her. When she came back 10 minutes later she had finished her lunch.

I was a bit shocked, I would never dream of eating while on the toilet.
I also suffer from a sensitive digestive system and have to avoid certain foods or I end up with an upset stomach and feeling rather ill, in that situation I couldn't imagine eating.

However, my friend seemed to think it was completely acceptable and when I told her how shocked I was she laughed and said she often eats meals on the toilet when she is suffering with an upset stomach, she spends so much time on the toilet that she needs to do other things while in there or nothing would ever get done.

AIBU to think there is just no excuse for ever eating while on the toilet.

Well unless you have chocolate and want to hide it from the DC, that is the only acceptable excuse.

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catgirl1976 · 08/03/2013 20:00

WTAF?

Serioulsy that is the grimmest thing I have ever heard Shock

Lucyellensmum95 · 08/03/2013 20:01

YABU - yes its a bit ewww but she is not well FFS

BambieO · 08/03/2013 20:01

That's got to be so unhygienic?!

teaandbourbons · 08/03/2013 20:01

Why did you stay at her house when she was obviously unwell?

TheChaoGoesMu · 08/03/2013 20:02

Ewwwww

kinkyfuckery · 08/03/2013 20:03

A bit minging, but her choice.

I read the title wondering if she was expecting you to join in her in there for you lunch!

kinkyfuckery · 08/03/2013 20:04

your lunch

chandellina · 08/03/2013 20:07

There are so many things wrong with your post but thanks for the giant gross-out.

Hemlet · 08/03/2013 20:10

Maybe the someone she prepared was off?

Sorry.

Original poster
WeAreEternal · 08/03/2013 20:10

She wasn't unwell as such, she was fine in herself, but just due to her IBS flare up she was in and out of the toilet. It is a common thing with her. Sometimes she even leaves the door open so that you can continue chatting, she is out of view though.
It is quite weird, but I am used to it.

This however, was a new and slightly stranger one.

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livinginwonderland · 08/03/2013 20:13

well, if that was the only way she could finish her meal, than yabu, but it is pretty weird. if my host did that, i would excuse myself and leave!

LangenFlugelHappleHoff · 08/03/2013 20:14

Hee hee! make you someone to eat.

Having a friend who has health issues and spends her life on the toilet...Im not shocked that you friend has done it. Although its bad form she did it while entertaining guests.

Original poster
WeAreEternal · 08/03/2013 20:17

I think my shock is entirely based on the fact that she did it in front of me to be honest.

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sydlexic · 08/03/2013 20:22

Why would you take a sick child to visit your friend?

Tweasels · 08/03/2013 20:25

I'm sorry, maybe I am some kind of prude but......she leaves the door open so you can continue chatting? While she's shitting? Shock

Also, does this continue all day, is there literally not a moment free in which to eat? I would find that hard to believe.

Btw, I suffer from IBS yet had no concept it could be this serious.

Pollydon · 08/03/2013 20:25

YANBU that is rank

Inertia · 08/03/2013 20:27

I admit I don't know much about the causes of IBS, but I can't imagine that any digestive-system related condition is likely to be helped by the potential transfer of faeces-related bacteria and viruses back in via food.

OxfordBags · 08/03/2013 20:35

She must have a Guinness record-worthy transit time for food! Seriously, though, it's pretty grim. I have IBS and know how bad it can get, but I'd never dream of eating whilst shitting, alone in my own home, much less anyone else's. She must know it's gross, no adult can think it's a normal thing to do! If she is on the loo that much and she doesn't get a break for food, she needs to see a consultant urgently.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 08/03/2013 20:36

I have IBS, and I couldn't eat during the throes of an attack - nor would I want to! Surely the smell alone would put her off her food?

Original poster
WeAreEternal · 08/03/2013 20:42

I'm sorry, maybe I am some kind of prude but......she leaves the door open so you can continue chatting? While she's shitting?

Also, does this continue all day, is there literally not a moment free in which to eat? I would find that hard to believe.

I know, realistically it is all extremely strange, I would never dream of doing any of it, but when I have a intolerance related upset stomach I usually feel like I am dying and couldn't hold a conversation with anyone due to the nausea and severe stomach cramps, but thats just me I guess she has just been doing it for so long that everyone is used to it.

And DS wasn't actually ill, he had a rash this morning that the GP though was suspicious enough to need to keep him off school as it was probably caused by an allergic reaction and that I should keep an eye on him at home. But he was absolutely fine, and milked the free day off for all it was worth.

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ClippedPhoenix · 08/03/2013 20:43

I really do feel for her having IBS but to eat and chat from the loo?

My ex had crohns disease but he'd have been an ex far sooner had he done that.

It's grose.

landofsoapandglory · 08/03/2013 20:48

I have got IBS and can't contemplate food when my stomach is upset.

Ewwww to eating on the toilet, that is really, really grim!

idiot55 · 08/03/2013 20:52

poor you, seems very odd.

Im pretty sure i couldnt eat and poo at the same time.

GregBishopsBottomBitch · 08/03/2013 20:55

I have IBS, and it comes whenever it likes, and its awful, i've never eaten and dumped, thats so grim.

JeffFaFa · 08/03/2013 21:22

I suffer pretty severe IBS and when it flares up im crying on the loo, the pains contract my whole stomach even more than labour pains, as well as physical shaking, hot and cold sweats, blurry vision, nausea and the smell an attack can last hours in there, eating as well? erm no id imagine adding more food would only make it worse!