to be extremely angry that so-called friends dumped their backwashy alcoholic ice in my drink?

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I have been told that I am being unreasonably angry. I don't think I am. So MN...please...opinions.

I do not drink alcohol - did not grow up in a drink-based culture and now do not like the taste. However, do not care if others drink.

I go Latin dancing on Saturdays and often some of us go out for a drink in one of the local bars in the street. Six of us go to this cool bar, and five order mojitos and one (guess who?) orders a lemon, lime and bitters. We sit, drink and chat. Others go on about how delish their drink is, how I should try it, why don't I drink, ad naseum. I just say what I usually do: don't like it. Now I am a slow drinker..sip sip sip...I notice that my drink is about half full when people were getting a second and so didn't bother. Then when I go to take a sip, I notice that my glass is full...brimming! Two twatish guys had dumped their ice from their mojitos into my drink!

My drink is spoiled. I do not want to drink someone's backwash mojito flavoured ice. Plus surely, mucking about with a woman's drink is not really a thing to do, is it? I am so angry I explode. I tell the two twats orf..saying what hell were they playing at? They offer to buy me replacement drink. I refuse. I wanted to finish MY drink. I only wanted the one. I leave - was going to go anyway.

Now the men are saying it was just a joke and I am over-reacting.

Am I?

EthelB - Angostura bitters is 46% alcohol by volume, compared to 40% most vodka and whisky. When I use bitters on a 'non alcoholic' drink I use maybe 2 tablespoons? so not as much as the rum in a mojito, but I think bitters itself can be described as 'highly alcoholic'.

Yuk at this backwash thing. People must swill rather than drink to get saliva washed back into the glass.

They were being overbearing and obnoxious to tip ice in your drink, OP, I Hope they have learned their lesson. I would have accepted the replacement drink, though. If I wanted to continue drinking and dancing with them at all.

I think leaving, if you really left because of it, was over reacting. I would have been disgusted, alcohol or not, it's used ice, that's repulsive. I would have teased/shamed them and got them to replace my drink.

I think your friends were being childish and gross. I'm not OTT about germs but wouldn't want the ice from their drinks in my glass either, I don't drink alcohol and them pressuring and going on about it shows more immature behavior. I would have made them replace my drink and one another day when we aren't all still annoyed and having drank alcohol I'd let them know it is not OK to keep pressuring me about drinking and it's not OK to do stupid juvenile stuff like dump ice. They are not being very good friends and are not accepting you the way you are.

Blu - wow! That's way too much Bitters you're using there for a non alcoholic drink. It should be a few drops, definitely less than 1 teaspoon. Unless of course you're making up a 10Litre jug of the stuff
OP - I do think you're friends were being childish but your white Australian stereotyping is offensive.

I have been a non eater of beaked things for 20 years, I just think they get a shitter deal than mammals in the rights department and that is my feeling right or wrong. I have lived abroad for 18 years and my mum always, but always, cooks a chicken to celebrate our return. She then says "have some breast, it isn't like the real meat". A bit like manhandled ice doesn't have alcohol from the mohito I guess. I am not that strict so I guess if she made a soup with chicken stock I would eat it, however, it contained the sweat and spit from a couple of random men, I would decline.

krasnay - yes, you're right, a few shakes of the bottle wouldn't be 2 tablespoons, would it?

I love a pink tonic.

Kransna.... Why are you debating about how much alcohol to put in a non alcoholic drink? Non alcoholic drinks should have no alcohol in them. That's the whole raison d'être of non alcoholic drinks. A non alcoholic drink with some alcohol in it becomes a weak alcoholic drink.

It was a shit joke OP. Used ice is gross, and used ice covered in alcohol given to a person who doesn't drink alcohol is seriously wrong. I'd avoid those people.

Massive overreaction.

YANBU and I am really surprised at how much flak you getting on here from other posters.

How the fuck dare they 'decide' that you should try alcohol and put their ice in your drink. It's a massively shit and disrespectful thing to do and I don't understand why others think that you should have put up with it.

I don't think you have overreacted at all. Men shouldn't be tampering with other people's drinks.

I would be really pissed off actually. Not so much for what they did...but WHY? Why did they think it was acceptable to do that? It's incredibly rude and just disrespctful. Were they drunk? Maybe under the influence it may have seemed like it would be funny...? Clutching at straws, but otherwise it sounds like a stupid prank to humiliate you in some way. OK, so the crime itself was just childish and pathetic and maybe to be really angry about the crime is a bit OTT, but I think I would have felt humiliated that they had so little respect that they did that to my drink and probably had a bit of a laugh about, and THAT - making me feel like that - would make me very angry.

So no, YANBU.

Should you hide a few sausages in vegetarian meals?

Should you slip horsemeat into burgers and sell them as beef?

Should you add a rasher of bacon to a Jewish person's kebab?

Some things are not anybody's decision but their own.