To be cross that my friend said my baby has a small willy?

[Zara1984]

Just that. She said he had big balls but a small willy (while I was changing his nappy). Why would you say that about a 4 month old baby boy?

Am I being over sensitive? I feel like this is just the start of awful sexual stereotypes put on him.

Does she have children? YANBU but people without children say stupid things like that because they don't get how amazing your little baby is to you (imo) !!

Did you say anything to her? I would have said something like, 'don't say that about my baby, he is perfect in every way!'

Could she just have been commenting, rather than criticising?

Some people really don't think do they?

Weird how this affects you isn't it? Not just a willy thing, but any comment about your baby's appearance which isn't complimentary.

I understand how parents can be seen as over sensitive, but really, why comment at all? What reaction could she or others expect to receive?

So no I don't think you are BU, but I'd forget it as a rude and thoughtless comment. Or next time just ask her 'why would you say that?'

Stupid thing for her to say. I would have been very pissed off. You don't diss a baby!

I'm sure she didnt mean anything by it..... I see lots of babies bits (i'm a childminder) and i can reassure you that willies come in all shapes and sizes.

your freind was being less than tactful, but i dont think that you should worry about it.

(think about it rationally... Have you ever seen two men with exactly the same gear?)

How strange commenting on his willy! i wonder what she meant by it?

Of all the things you could say about a baby that is one of the oddest, I bet she is sitting somewhere right now saying 'I can't believe what I say to Zara today, I'm mortified!' Sometimes stupid things just slip out. I'm sure your babies will is huge

You should have said - he's a baby, his small Willy has years to grow, your small mind however is fully grown.

Weird! Ds bits change size dramatically from one change to the.next so she is stupid for that reason alone. I bet she wouldn't comment on a girls genitals.

She has a boy too. She said my DS' penis was smaller than her DS'.

Maybe she was just commenting? She is a close friend. That's why I don't know if I'm being over sensitive. I just felt hurt and affronted that someone would pass comment on my baby's genitals

I didn't know what to say. I just said "really?!" and changed the topic. But I'm still annoyed about it.

It's a bit rude to comment on appearance in that way.

But you do seem OTT with your sexual stereotypes comment.

She sounds like a bloomin' idiot. Even if she thought it, who the hell thinks that's an appropriate thing to say!

ie I'm not scared he might grow up to have a small penis (who cares) but more like "my baby son is not a piece of meat"

I bet this cow is going to compare your two boys for years and years ahead.

LTB!

That's what baby boys look like.

'Really' was the perfect thing to say, OP. She is barking.

Let it go. She just noticed something different to her child. My lovely neighbor said my daughter looks like a wrestler and to be fair the comment has some truth to it. The beauty is mums live their kids whether they have the wrestler or beauty queen look and she may never have seen another willy before. Just a knee jerk comment nothing more.

Yuck. Quite inappropriate, as StuntGirl said.

Would she comment on an older child's genitalia?

I say it about my ds2 all the time

ds1 however, has a long willy.

It's perhaps just the comparison for her too.

She didn't say he was a piece of meat

She said (rudely) he has a small penis.

If she'd said he had small ears would you think she was treating him like a piece of meat?

I got weirded out the other day by my mum commenting on my sons willy, she said "it's a very different shape to your brothers he must had got it from His fathers side" comments about willies are just not needed, I am now wondering about how my son's is different from my brothers, not an image I needed or wanted!

I don't think she meant to be rude, she was probably just pointing out what she saw. If she's only used to grown up willies a baby's might be a little out of the ordinary for her!

YANBU, she was rude and odd.

Does she often do things like this or is this a one off?

I have a dear friend who always banged on about her ds's huge willy when he was a toddler.
I was with her a few weeks ago, and she was still going on about it...he is now 14

"I'm not scared he might grow up to have a small penis (who cares) but more like 'my baby son is not a piece of meat'"

Exactly. I don't understand why another mother would even notice. She sounds insensitive, to put it kindly.