to think that the majority of blokes, would probably prefer their wives/partners always being around at home?

[blacktaildog]

dont get me wrong, im certainly not saying all women should do this at all, i think we should decide what we personally want to do.
i'm all for freedom of choice

but just been watching corrie and chesney feeling a bit funny about katie going back to work, well the kebab shop.
lol yes i know its not real.

but it made me think that probably majority of blokes would probably prefer their partner always around as a sahm

not sayings it right or the way it should be, not at all, like i said, i want every mother to have the choice in everything she does

but do you think this is true?

suppose i'd quite like a sahp to look after me at times

Nah disagree. I guess there are still men out there who think it is their role to 'bring home the bacon' and feel its a reflection on them if they can't afford to 'keep' the family but that is such an old fashioned and outdated view... 'no wife of mine will work' my DH is delighted that I work and am financially stable in my own right, when kids were little I worked part time as that was the only job I could find at the time and it suited as I got to spend time with my boys too. when he was promoted I said 'can I give up work now?' he was why would you?
I have been full time for years now apart from a spell of unemployment due to redundancy, he says I am more fun when I work and we talk more so I guess I got a bit boring being at home all day. plus we have more money so a better life and I have my own money which even though he sees both salaries as household income means I never feel guilty for spending on stuff for me, my mum always taught me to have my own money 'just in case' suits us but the thought of a third person who could cook and clean and do laundry and decorate the house really appeals

How often do men get the chance to be a SAHP? in my experience very rarely and it was made clear to me there was no way It was open for discussion.

Dh doesn't. He'd kinda like a house to come back to at night. And for the children to survive to adulthood.

We both work 4 days and do one day at home with the kids. When it is his day at home I come home to a clean house, washing done, tea cooking, children fed and ready for bed. When it my day at home he comes back to chaos and me clutching a takeaway menu and a bottle of gin. I'm not really domesticated. Me being at home would mean a lot more work for him to do. Plus I'd be very unhappy as I love working.

Despite his talent for being a sahp, I wouldn't want him to do it full time. He gets a lot of satisfaction from his job and would miss it. I'd also miss having him around (we work together). But if it came down to one of us having to be at home then he would beg me to stay at work

DH works from home now and again (not enough for my liking) I love it - it's like having a Thai Bride!!! The house runs so much better, I get in from work, its spotless, cushions fluffed, dinner on the go. Absolute bliss.

My DP was terribly keen for me to go back to work after each maternity leave I felt I quite enjoyed maternity leave, as a change, I pootled to and fro quite merrily, but apparently I'm far easier to live with when I have a job to go to. I suspect I'd get quite depressed as a full time SAHM and DP is convinced I'd be moody and miserable, so we're both quite agreed on the benefits of paid work. DP gets to work part time and not have the stress of being the breadwinnner, he's in a job where redundancies are common so this would be a burden for him. Even if I wanted to be at home, which I don't.

So no, in answer to the OP. Some men are not stuck in the Neanderthal era. They can appreciate that a partner isn't just there to tidy up after them.

No, DH prefers my having a job for
A) The money
B) having a sane wife
C) A clean house as we can afford a cleaner on our joint income

For me it's about division of labour, I work from home so it's much quicker and easier for me to push the Hoover round, sort out the cleaning and cook meals / make packed lunches.

DP works odd shifts and long hours so its easier for me to take the lions share, however, on the upside it creates a fair bit of family time where we can have a duvet day or just veg and watch tv or go out on her rest days.