To think that dp's mum and dad could put themselves out once to babysit their grandchildren ?

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They haven't had them since dd was born shes two in may and they had ds overnight then which he loved, they loved it too and there was much talk about doing it regularly, not a sausage since !

So recently I asked Dp if he could ask if they would like to come over more frequently (they live an hour 1/2 away) they say yey so have been over in the afternoon all great etc

Sooooo Dp asked them to help me out whilst he goes abroad during the easter hols and have dd and ds overnight they say yey, que me asking today if they could really help me out by having them for the afternoon whilst I do something for my business ( very important promotion and marketing day so absolutely have to do it )

And they say no, they looked at the calendar and see their friends son has got a concert and his mum has been very supportive of Dp's brothers concerts so she doesn't want to let her down

Am I BU to feel let down ? That it's ok to let me down ?

I don't have parents to ask to babysit and they know this

I feel really let down and upset mainly because I thought we were close and she will know how much I need this for my business and how important it it to me

I feel for you op and its not so much the fact they couldnt do it - but the fact they prioritised another friends child over thier own GC.

Lower your expectations right down.

I have aunts and uncles like this - some of them are so rigid and bloody boring and difficultthey cant and wont do so many things thier living room hasnt changed in 4o years! And others who will let you have their bed and put themselves out.

You can guess which ones have the closer family contact!

My MIL is like this. She has babysat 2 times in 11 years. And even then asked about 10 times to make sure we'd be back early. All too much trouble

Elizaregina that's it, too inflexible and rigid to try

It would have been great if they had them in the morning then walked them round to my friend, anyway I'm not actually going to ask again, I will wait for them to offer

With work stuff I normally have the childminder but she's off in the hols