DD1 had been at her father's since yesterday, with it being half-term. She's just got back. She's just sidled up to me (I could tell that she was going to ask for something!) and said that her dad had taken her to look at prom dresses yesterday, and he wants me to go halves on a dress for her year 6 leavers' party. I was in the shop in question myself yesterday, as my 16 year old sister was looking for a dress for a prom in June, and wanted a second opinion. The dresses range in price from £175-£300+.
There are several reasons why I have said no. 1. I personally think it's ridiculous that there is a primary school prom. I have already succumbed to peer pressure, and agreed to pay £30 towards a limo. 2. She has several pretty party dresses that she has hardly worn, and would look much nicer in one of them IMHO. 3. Ex-H has our two DDs 3 nights per week, and pays £136 per month child maintenance. Once school meals are paid, it leaves approx. £35 per child, per month, and I pay for all school trips (residential one coming up), clothing, school uniforms etc. I never ask him for extra money for anything, yet he earns a lot more than me. DD is disappointed that I've said no, but I'm currently on maternity leave receiving SMP. I feel angry that he's asked me through DD, and that I've been made to feel like the baddy in her eyes.
So AIBU for saying no? For feeling so cross?