aibu to think people should qait to purchase food before sitting down at a table?

[Allthingspretty]

In the queue of a cafe where there are lots of signs asking people to show consoderation at busy times about sitting down before ordering at last three people blatantly sit at the remaining tables whilst i and others arw qaiting to be served.

Aibu to have said very loudly so that one part of the offending party that it was very selfish of people. The. Sales assistant said she had told people about this before and was shouted at.

I was made to wait for a table simply because people were being selfish.
Aibu?

Would you have preferred the whole party to stand in the line?

This is one of those situations where somebody gets annoyed whatever you do. Fill the line = unreasonable. Sit down = unreasonable.

Yes i would. Its only fair and there were signs that were clearly visible

Assuming the tables weren't wearing a reserved sign, I'd have just sat down where I fancied.

Which holly is why the problem exists. People being selfish

YABu to make loud passive aggressive comments, sorry

Well, I don't know.

On the one hand, if I'm grabbing a drink to go or something, it annoys me immensely if people are grouped in the line taking up space and making everything slow.

If I'm waiting for a table, I'd be annoyed if I had to stand up and wait.

But to be fair, most people who go to these places send one person to line up and one to get the table, so it becomes etiquette, and I'd just do that.

You ABU to loudly comment, though. It's a cafe...fume quietly.

Unless it's a restaurant where they allocate your seating it's pretty normal if you are in a party of people for one person to queue and the others to grab a table. Wouldn't occur to me to even notice and it happens to me a lot when I take DD somewhere as she's only 3 and can't really save a table yet. When she's older I'll get her to save it and be one of those people who annoy you

Pasdive aggressive comment or calling it how it is?

Nah, it makes sense to get a table and then order food to eat at it.

I can't get my head around people who think otherwise tbh.

Which holly is why the problem exists. People being selfish That's life! How are they to know you aren't in a group and don't already have a table? Why would they even notice?

this really winds me up. When there are clear signs syaing buy food before finding a table.. it is really selfish behaviour becuase all that happebs is the people who have done as was requested by the cafe are left hovering with a tray of food looking for a table whilst the people who are saving an empty table do all they can to avoid eye contact.

i think its just rude tbh

The irony being that until i got a seat the girl wasnt goi.g to serve me therefore holding up the queue so the table hoggers would in fact be slowinh tje queue for everyone including themself.

Why would anyone buy food if they can't be sure there's somewhere to sit and eat it?

You'd look like a right gormless twat standing there with a tray of food that's going cold.

YANBU because when you are on your own you can't 'save a table' - then risk ending up with nowhere to sit & drink your coffee / eat food you have just bought.

Do you mean one person cueing while the rest of their party grabs a table?

thats normal

Everyone gets a table first? Don't they?

I grab a table

But I am selfish with a massive sense of entitlement

but what if you are on your own and cant get someone to reserve for you - you have no choice to look like a gorm whilst the people who are saying tables just through you.

I have been in cafes with my baby in a pushchair with no one old enough to save me a seat - I have got to the end of the queue with a tray of food and nowhere to sit.

i think it is normal that if you are in a group, some sit and some que, all quing up, then looking for a table doesnt make sense imo

Ok, next time i go to a coffee shop alone i'll put my coat on a table first.

When we go to a cafe dh queues and I sit down. I'm disabled and find standing (without walking) very uncomfortable. So I sit down. Otherwise I could fall, and I'm sure you'd find that more inconvenient!

its not normal if there is a sign asking you to not do it!!!
Its like walking all over a park lawn that says "please keep off the grass"

I kind of agree, because thats what you're 'meant' to do, but there is no way i'm standing around waiting for a table with my food and a toddler.

I think its daft of the cafe to make up this silly rule tbh.

Which holly is why the problem exists. People being selfish

hang on - I meant if I had already bought and paid for my beverages - I would go and sit on an empty seat irrespective of whether there was someone at the table or not.

mardy @ being misunderstood

Attackofthefiftyfootwoman but OP said the signs were asking people to show consideration at busy times not 'buy food before finding a table'. It's not a blanket policy, it's a request.