. . . to feel a bit pissy about giving someone's kid a lift

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I offered as they have 2 smaller kids that were out in the cold at night for a 8 o clock pick up on foot. It's not out of my way but will make things a bit more hectic than usual! Just became aware they are rather proud themselves in a hippy type way for managing without a car and actually, compared to myself, are very well off. I will still do it, and not a biggy, but do you think if people are all preachy about not having a car or the expense that goes with it, they should accept lifts ?

Get a grip. You either want to help or not. If you don't, don't make the offer

Well you did offer. It would be different if they were asking around for lifts all the time.

I think people shouldn't offer lifts if it makes them feel pissy.

YABU.

Well YABU but I would feel the same

If they are "proud" of themselves in a saving the environment way, then their child getting in your car would make no difference as you were going anyway. Same goes for cost- none for them.
I think either you offer to be nice. Or you don't.
It was kind of you to offer. Just go with that.

Yabu.
Pointless post. Why offer and then moan?

FFS - you offered!! If you don't want to give them a lift, don't ask if they want one. YABVU!

Why are some people so bloody petty .don't offer a lift next time if you are going to be all pissy about it.

Yabu-You offered, so you made the decision to help them out.
Why do it, if you feel so strongly about them keeping a car?

Fwiw i don't have a car, they are toi expensive to keep and due to my age & the fact i would be a first time driver, the insurance would be astronomical- But i'm no hippy, infact far from it
But if someone offered me a lift i would jump at the chance

hold on
you offered
you were going anyway
no extra cost to you
they no doubt had a plan to pick them up anyway

if you are going to do something nice, be nice about it
that is all

They are always asking for lifts and saying their kids were freezing having to walk in the snow

And i actually offered cos i presumed they were hard up. . Now they are posting stuff about the cost to the environment and our children's future through making unecessary car journeys. .

Pumpkin. . You miss the point. . Are you preachy and evangelical about not driving?

They made the decision not to have a car therefore they shouldn't be precious about their kids walking and getting freezing cold etc.
If someone offers fine but they shouldn't be always asking for lifts.
Would they repay a favour some other way seeing as they can't reciprocate with lifts?

I understand why you feel a bit pissy about it, and it is possible to still feel pissy yet carry on doing someone a favour . It's a bit like people (& there are plenty on mumsnet!) who say they are not 'PTA types', too busy/important for that sort of thing yet fully expect their children to still receive the benefits of PTA fund raising.

I just think you are being very honest to admit it .

I give my DS's friends lifts every week to various activities because in their own words their parents 'can't be bothered'. Yes, I do feel a bit pissy about it but don't want the children to miss out, perhaps I am being evangelical about helping others .

Don't offer in future then.

Sounds like its the parents attitude that's pissing you off rather than the lift itself?

Yes it is their attitude that offends... There is probably an analogy to be made about vegetarians and BBQ's. Maybe i am just evangelical about feeling pissy. . .

It would depend on their attitude:

If their attitude was 'We don't have a car, we are environmentally friendly and far superior to you. You are scum for having a car. We look down at you. Oh by the way can you give little India a lift home from Brownies?' I would be pissy!

If they just don't have a car and don't make a big superior statement about it and you offered to pick up their child then I wouldn't be pissy

why would there be an anaolgy about vegetarians?

It doesn't have to be vegetarians. . Could be someone who goes on about the evils of tobacco companies yet bums your marlboro lite

So you offered the lift. They didn't ask for it. And you're pissy about it? Jesus wept- how mean spirited can you get!

Why offer if you resent it? Personally I'd be glad to give someone a lift if it meant them not hanging around in the snow but then I'm always stunned about what people get annoyed about on MN.

X posted with seeker

umm. ok.