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to want to go outside and slash down the SOLD sign outside our rented home?

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rocket74 · 09/02/2013 09:03

I am so so upset. Our happily rented home for us with 2 small children has been sold and we will have to move out. We wanted to stay here indefinately. Been here 3.5 years but never realised when we moved in our rent was paying for the owners care home fees and that when she died it would be sold. Thought they meant it when they said long term rental.
So gutted. Some couple came round with their kid and dad who was obviously putting up the deposit for them. Alright for some!!
ABSOLUTELY bereft - we have tried looking for somewhere new - but we need an extra £400 month to get somewhere even vaguely similar as rents have gone crazy in this area - Brighton and Hove.

I just want to scream and slash the sign because if I don't I will end up slashing something else - which won't help issues.
Our little boy loves this house - he has autism - and the garden is big enough for him to run and do his laps - as is the living dining room.
I just want to be able to provide him with a home to suit his needs but I don't see how. I'm just crying all the time and feel totally hopeless.

Will I be done for criminal damage if I do smash down that fucking sign?

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ladyintheradiator · 10/02/2013 09:55

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AngelaCatalano · 10/02/2013 10:06

Just want to express my sympathy- we rent privately too and I really wish that either a) we could buy somewhere in the area we are settled or b) that this govt could introduce long term rental agreements like those in Europe.

But fat chance of either! :(
I also wish those who are saying that the OP is BU would realise that renting doesn't have to be so expensive or unstable, it's just the way it is set up in this country.

Best of luck finding something else OP.

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edam · 10/02/2013 10:26

Having to be evicted before the council will re-house you is a stupid, cruel rule. It's not fair on tenants nor landlords.

We need to build more affordable housing, both rental and for sale. The housing market in this country is fucked up and the ruddy politicians need to sort it.

Goldenbear · 10/02/2013 11:58

I agree with edam, more affordable housing needs to be built as the housing situation is dire in this country. It is not as simple as saying people should lower their expectations and save a disproportionately large deposit from an income that has to go on a disproportionately large rent (even in a cheaper area) and disproportionately huge travel costs to get from thep cheaper area to your job in the expensive area. There is a lack of supply of affordable housing and areas like the OP lives in and that is the problem!

I live in the same area and can confirm Hollingbury's status as not been the hip part of town by the sea. It is NOT Hove as some ignorant poster keeps banging on about. It is on the edge of town and at 950 a month should be a feasible option for a family whose work is nearby. It is ludicrous to think that it is the inefficiencies of someone like the OP rather than circumstances that are out of her control I.e the housing supply. The only impact she can have on this situation is at the ballot box, if indeed any political party is going to dare to tackle this problem head on!

I am one of the lucky ones who owns (paying mortgage) on a small 2 bedroom flat, good area but we couldn't afford a house and my DP
Is Part ii Archirect. We moved out of the area to Haywards Heath and paid 950 PCM for a house and rented out a 1 bedroom flat in Hove but it ended up costing alot in travel as DP works in Brighton.

On the road i live on there are spacious family homes and some less spacious edwardian properties but with hideously high price tags. These properties are invariably inhabited by older couples or single old people We are a family of 4 cramped in our small 2 bedroom flat, whilst they are knocking about in their family size homes. It is an absurd situation and all as a consequence of the insufficient housing supply!

zwischenzug · 10/02/2013 14:50

Oh no wait, you've missed one, the group that move into somebody else's property that they have worked for 20 years to part own, are charged by the bank an extra % for the privilege of not loosing everything they spent 25 years working and saving for, delayed having children until they could afford this investment and then this group of people pay their rent as and when they can be arsed to drag themselves to the bank as direct debit forms are too much trouble.

I could not agree more, I am sick of hearing whiny idiots complaining because they were too stupid to be born before prices trebled, if they were too god damn lazy to turn from an egg into a foetus before the smart investors bought up all the housing supply, why the hell should they expect any help from the rest of us.

The you have greedy entitled people like GoldenBear above, who is complaining that all the expensive housing nearby is owned by the older generation. Doesn't she realise that these people walked 3 miles barefoot in snowdrifts under the blazing August sunshine to make their mortgage payments every month?

We are a small island that is not building any more land, the way that for example, France and Germany do every year. Our older generations should not have to have their views of greenery spoiled by housing developments, we have made it to 2013 without having to build any houses ever in this country, why should we start now?

specialsubject · 10/02/2013 16:55

wow, arsehole central on here. I am NOT referring to the OP - although how dare anyone rent out a place with unusual bathroom decor. ...

Some posters seem to think that all landlords should just shoot themselves for daring to rent out properties, and more so if they eventually want to stop renting them.

fortunately I had tenants with brains. And a good landlord, also with a brain.

As an aside, two houses that I have owned have had mice episodes. Put down poison, sealed up food, used traps, problem solved. No landlord so had to do it myself.

can't find the 'gnashes teeth' smiley.

rocket74 · 10/02/2013 17:38

springlamb I have looked at that homebuy option - but I have read lots of negative things about part ownership and that it is really difficult to sell on later?? Also it says it is a leasehold with 89 years remaining - isnt that unusual for an ex council house and also a potential cost later. I thought you weren't meant to let leases slip under 85 years - but I know very little about all that!
I will look into it more - its not a great area so not sure how well it would sell later on.

I don't want to go to the stage of being evicted as surely that will blacklist for all future rents? We have always been (I think) exemplary tenants and have had a good relationship with all landlords so far. Not sure that means much but we know it to be true.

We couldn't move to the house next door - its a lot smaller than this and the garden is postage stamp size - hence why any family moves in, moves out after one summer. Also it would be beyond confusing and upsetting for our son.

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ErikNorseman · 10/02/2013 17:52

Rocket, do you have any family locally that you could camp out with for a month to save the deposit? Or get a credit union loan? Do you both drive? I know it fucks up the schooling issue but you really can rent some very decent houses if you move out of brighton. I have managed to work in brighton for the last 2.5 years while living in lancing (hollingbury actually, and now moulsecoomb) takes a maximum of 40 mins to get to work including dropping DS at nursery. Once you take the plunge it's really fine.

zwischenzug · 10/02/2013 18:39

Part ownership is always highly suspect, and you are right it makes property difficult to sell on.

I have seen one example of a decent part ownership scheme - 70% ownership for over 55's, with no rent due on the other 30%. Anything with rent charged on the other half and you're up the creek without a paddle. The rent can go up and up and because you cannot easily move out you have to suck it up.

The best advice I would give you is to do what I did. Rent the cheapest place you reasonably can, and save up as much as possible to buy somewhere. Even when you have one of the few decent landlords renting usually sucks big time. You have no rights because if you try to enforce anything that is in legislation, along comes a S21 with two months notice for you to leave.

You might want to look at moving up north as well, housing is cheaper (but still far too expensive) there.

Bearbehind · 10/02/2013 18:51

Rocket, I think you are being a bit unrealistic in your expectations. On one hand you want to stay in the area and know that rental prices have increased but on the other hand you won't even consider the house next door which at least ticks the location box.

I'm sure we'd all like to live in big houses with huge gardens but life isn't like that. There's only 4 of you, how much room do you need?

Something has to give somewhere along the line.

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