Right, havent got time to read through all the replies just now but i will do,
mil, sorry for not updating sooner but i was busy getting things ready for the week and sorting out ds.
Basically it all came to a head yesterday, we were polite and dp started with i heard you overheard someone mention we were moving away, who was it. She apparently didnt know there name, so i asked, well what did they look like, maybe it was 1 of our friends, again she couldnt remember, so basically i said, the truth is we are not moving away, therefore we wouldnt have had a conversation with anyone at all, the only thing that could make you think we were moving away was if you had seen estate agents forms in the house, so did you?
After a lot of arguing, she admitted "she had been looking for the babies bonjela" in dp's bedside cabinet and saw the brochures (must add, they arent even of any specific house details, more just a this is what we do, this is how many houses we have sold type thing). Dp had shown her the table next to ds's cot where we keep everything like that which she knows, so he kept saying you had no reason at all to go in there, curiosity just got the better of you didnt it, which she wouldnt admit and kept on with her story. So i then piped up, did you go through my drawer aswell, she said no, nothing at this point was mentioned about emigrating, but later on still in the same conversation she mentioned something that if we did decide to go so far she wouldnt see much of ds, i asked how far she was talking about and she said well moving far away, it was blatantly obvious that she had gone through my things, so i just kept asking why did you go through our things, where else were you looking? its like being burglered, i feel really violated..... and dp was just upset that she was still doing it to him after all these years.
I let them do most of the talking as its his family and im sick of trying to reason with someone who doesnt see the problems she causes at all, i just asked why she felt the need to get her brother involved, and she just stayed quiet, i said you saw us last night when we came home, why didnt you ask us about it then, no reply. And what makes you think we would be moving far away? still nothing so i said it wasnt the australia stuff in my bedside cabinet was it, cos thats the only thing i could think that has put this idea in your head, still no reply, so i said well if it was that you should know they are for a friend who hasnt got a printer, but to know that you would have had to be going through my things.
She stayed quiet a lot, and we left soon after anyway, dp and i argued a bit when we got back but only as i had told him i couldnt trust her in my house alone again, and he said that would cause a huge family rift, Im past caring at this point, the less i have to do with her the better. So that was it really, nothing majorly exciting as the glitter bomb which would have been amazing!
I didnt think this would be so exciting for everyone to be honest! im off to read all the messages now though, thanks for thinking of us all! 