To hide a little warning note to MIL when she comes to babysit tomorrow?

[Wheresmygalaxy]

Tomorrow will be the 3rd time MIL has come to babysit for us since our son was born, hes 7 months.

The 1st time dp and I went to ikea and when we returned she was prattling on and on about applying for child tax credits, all about how wonderful sil is eligible for them but doesnt claim - good for her, thought it was an odd topic but she is odd

so the next time she babysit upon our return she was now gabbering on about which local hospital is the best to go to, she didnt like the one i gave birth in and made it well known that it wasnt as good as the 1 her friends daughter went to, so again im thinking what on earth is she on about. Then after she had gone i opened a drawer in my bedside table only to find my next hospital appt check up letter was in there and it was clearly obvious that she had gone through it while i was out. I find this just really odd i know shes really nosey but to go through of all the things in the house my bedside drawer i just found weird. She has mentioned other things that have made me think how does she even know that but having put 2 and 2 together its clear shes snooping around while were out. I love her for coming to babysit, shes giving up her time but that doesnt mean come in and go through my things does it!

I mentioned it to DP nad he said yep she always used to do it to him and his sister growing up and in fact continued to clean their rooms up until the ages of 21 and 24 when they finally left home (believe me ive shared my views on that alone since i found out ).

so aibu to write a note something along the lines of "get out you nosey old cow" on a piece of paper. or something a bit more dramatic like some retirement home brochures with her name at the top

[Wheresmygalaxy]

teamedward

I think i shall, just for my own amusement if nothing else

[MyCarHasBrokenDownAgain]

ROTFLOL! I so wish I could claim it was my idea, but credit must go to a poster whose name I never took in from here a long long time ago!

[LilQueenie]

Oh you have to leave a note planning her murder and get one of those teddy cams to film it. Then if she really gets to you put it on youtube and make it go viral. Yes I can be an evil bitch. I value privacy. And next time say no to her babysitting, dont leave her alone in your house.

[sydlexic]

When I was 15 I thought DM was opening my mail, so I sent a letter to myself that contained a note saying nosey old bag. I got grounded which I don't think is fair as it must have been true.

[Afrodizzywonders]

Do what bogeyface said!!!!

[HappySunflower]

Oh, please please please post an update after tomorrow night!

[oldraver]

My Mum and Grandma were snoopers... I once caught my GM as I had to pass through the dining room were we were babysitting to get to the loo and she was so engrossed in looking through letters she didnt notice me. She later told my Mum some info from my Uncles solicitor (going though divorce) saying she just happened to see a letter "lying there open"...well it was after she had rooted through a pile first. My Mum used to snoop as well and go though all my letters and even up until recently would shift things around on my brothers desk (in my house) and lift up stuff on my notice board. I tell her loudly now not to be nosy. It drives me to distraction

Anyway....I would write out lots of DONT SNOOP notes and put them everywhere

[ihearsounds]

You should leave pics of him shagging a horse, while eating a burger with a tesco bag in the shot

[Wheresmygalaxy]

sydlexic very clever of you, but so obviously true

Yes i will, I have just printed off a load of info on emigrating to australia and even printed an application form for bbc show "wanted down under" with a post it note written on the top to dp, i've filled these in can you sign them so i can post them, and have you got round to telling your mum yet as they may need to film her for the show.

Too evil????

[Bogeyface]

Not at all!

Just make sure that DP is on side to tell her that it was a set up because you thought she was nosing and that she isnt to do it again.

[quoteunquote]

Get loads of fetish gear,sex toys, lube and vibrators, fill the bedroom drawers, take what look like kinky pictures random body creases, print them out leave in the cupboards.

I bet she will stop looking.

[sittinginthesun]

My boss used to do this. I now make sure that I have an opened packet of Tampax at the top of every drawer.

[BiteTheTopsOffIcedGems]

Put a notes in your top drawer:YOU
Middle drawer:NOSY
Bottom drawer:BITCH
Then you will also know if she looks in every drawer or just some of them.

[Wheresmygalaxy]

haha i love the jeremy kyle show idea now too, i promise if she doesnt mention the australia thing i shall do that next time, and i will most certainly let you all know what happens tomorrow evening.

Thankyou! knew i'd get some good ideas on here

[pluCaChange]

My neighbour has done the washing up while babysitting, even though there were just a few things (and the dishwasher was going with the other stuff). It made me very uncomfortable, wondering whether she had "found" anything else to do. Even that is hard to bear, and, luckily, I can distance myself: it's a lot harder with an avowed snoop to whom you're related!

[RattyRoland]

How about you print off some posters/flyers for fetish clubs and leave them in the drawers or swingers clubs?

[DonderandBlitzen]

It's annoying if she is snooping, although her talking about SIL not claiming tax credits and the hospital where you had your son not being good enough doesn't demonstrate she was snooping does it? Definitely do the note thing. I'd probably go down the "Hallo Doreen" note in every drawer route.

[DonderandBlitzen]

Obviously that won't work if her name isn't Doreen though.

[timidviper]

When DH and I lived "darn sarf" we used to have to visit for weekends and often suspected MIL had gone through our stuff but as we were in their house we never liked to sayanything.

Fast forward years and years, we had family round to visit, DS had snuck off to his room but she hadn't noticed. He said he heard the door go to his sister's room and thought DD had also snuck away until MIL, not noticing him, crept into his room! She was right in the room before she noticed him and got such a fright! It has amused us for years.

Every time they visit, when she says she is going to the bathroom, I say sweetly "No problem, you know where everything is" Passive aggressive or what?!

[Bogeyface]

You could combine the two. Apply to JK "How do I tell my mother I am leaving the country?"

:o

[Bogeyface]

ooh, no better than that "My mothers snooping is making me emigrate" :o

[FlorriesDragons]

Syd That's hilarious - I'm actually crying. DH is asking what's so funny but I can't actually speak in order to tell him.

[YourHandInMyHand]

These ideas are fab!

Wouldn't be relevant though if it had happened to me as I would have immediately made clear my displeasure on her rooting through my stuff.