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To hide a little warning note to MIL when she comes to babysit tomorrow?

945 replies

Wheresmygalaxy · 08/02/2013 21:49

Tomorrow will be the 3rd time MIL has come to babysit for us since our son was born, hes 7 months.

The 1st time dp and I went to ikea and when we returned she was prattling on and on about applying for child tax credits, all about how wonderful sil is eligible for them but doesnt claim - good for her, thought it was an odd topic but she is odd Smile

so the next time she babysit upon our return she was now gabbering on about which local hospital is the best to go to, she didnt like the one i gave birth in and made it well known that it wasnt as good as the 1 her friends daughter went to, so again im thinking what on earth is she on about. Then after she had gone i opened a drawer in my bedside table only to find my next hospital appt check up letter was in there and it was clearly obvious that she had gone through it while i was out. I find this just really odd i know shes really nosey but to go through of all the things in the house my bedside drawer i just found weird. She has mentioned other things that have made me think how does she even know that but having put 2 and 2 together its clear shes snooping around while were out. I love her for coming to babysit, shes giving up her time but that doesnt mean come in and go through my things does it!

I mentioned it to DP nad he said yep she always used to do it to him and his sister growing up and in fact continued to clean their rooms up until the ages of 21 and 24 when they finally left home (believe me ive shared my views on that alone since i found out Hmm ).

so aibu to write a note something along the lines of "get out you nosey old cow" on a piece of paper. or something a bit more dramatic like some retirement home brochures with her name at the top Grin

OP posts:
GlaikitFizzog · 10/02/2013 13:47
WannabeWilloughby · 10/02/2013 13:48

I dunno!!! I pop shopping for a couple of hours and come back to all this drama!!! brilliant! Will spend this afternoon refreshing for updates :-) x

JollyRedGiant · 10/02/2013 13:49

Genius :)

RedToothBrush · 10/02/2013 13:49

You know what you are getting her for her next birthday / christmas don't you?

A book on Australia...

3birthdaybunnies · 10/02/2013 13:49

I reckon say nothing about forms unless prompted but keep them until Monday, then you have had time to pass them to your 'friend' ly recycling bin, ideally not your own that way your allibi stands up still but the evidence isn't floating around.

OP, what is your dh's view of her snooping in your underwear drawer? Even my sister hasn't snooped there (as far as I know).

MrsGeologist · 10/02/2013 13:50

I'd maybe say o DP, 'oh no! She must have seen the emigration forms I printed off for my friend! She'll think we're off to Australia!'

GlaikitFizzog · 10/02/2013 13:50

But actually posting marks your post in a colour so you can very quickly scroll and find where to last read to. If more than 18 posts go on the thread you are watching you have to scroll back anyway. And although bookmarking is good, if you read then forget to re-bookmark every time you open the thread it shoots you back to your book mark.

SlightlyConfusedAlwaysMad · 10/02/2013 13:51

Shamelessly place marking again

TheUnsinkableTitanic · 10/02/2013 13:52

and i hope this is nominated for classics :)

have had to log on several times over the last few days

fantastic!

NayFindus · 10/02/2013 13:52

Or you could say 'Well I was planning to contact you DP when I got there. I don't think I can stay in the same country as MIL. But I love you'... I mean it would totally fuck your marriage. But you COULD say that Grin

MyHeadWasInTheSandNowNot · 10/02/2013 13:53

Threads I'm On is much better than Threads I'm Watching

not place marking at all, no, not me

tanyatanya · 10/02/2013 13:58

Come back quick OP, waiting for the next instalment.....

Newyearoldmum · 10/02/2013 14:00

I would come clean about the Australia forms tbh. How do you think he would take it? I'd just say I'd planted them so that if she started talking about Australia I'd definitely know she'd been snooping as the suspicion was driving me mad. But looks like she found the estate agent stuff first.

starsandunicorns · 10/02/2013 14:01

Oh Mrsgeologist that good Grin

HellesBelles396 · 10/02/2013 14:02

this is - for someone who is totally passive-aggressive with my own domineering mother - the best thread ever.

Teeb · 10/02/2013 14:04

shamelessly marking place for MIL update.

HellesBelles396 · 10/02/2013 14:04

xp - newyearoldmum - I love that line!

hope it's going well at Casa del snoop.

tinkerbelle31 · 10/02/2013 14:04

BerthaTheBogCleaner I dont know I only joined last week so still learning but I will try it on other threads thanks for the tip

SidneyBristow · 10/02/2013 14:05

Marking my place and writing down all these fantastic ideas - my MIL is a snooper as well, but in her case it isn't malicious, just 'treating me as family' Wink

IceNoSlice · 10/02/2013 14:05

Arf @CalamityKate "I'm just going to pop upstairs and look through your things MIL". He he.

BelleEtLaBaby · 10/02/2013 14:08

^^ what MrsGeologist said. Say to DH: I was thinking about what you said (ie his idea) about mil going through our drawers. I've got these forms I printed out for X at work. If she's been looking like you said, maybe she's seen these and got upset? totally blameless you just thinking of mil

LeBoob · 10/02/2013 14:09

For mine &dps amusement shamelessly marking place

crikeybill · 10/02/2013 14:10

Marking place.

No excuses I'm just doing it.

starsandunicorns · 10/02/2013 14:14

Oh bella i like that im luckly my dp parents havent even visted our flat been here two years and my mother has disowned me Grin so i dont get this awful behavoiur

StickersMakeTheWorldGoRound · 10/02/2013 14:20

Marking space