To think you should give a friend a lift home if it's raining?

[eggsy11]

This may be more a chat thing, but think I need the harshness of AIBU to see if I do have the right to be mad at my friend!

Have done A LOT of favours for this friend, but won't include that in the argument since I didn't do them to be paid back... but it is what is annoying me about the situation.

Another mum at DS's nursery saw me and DS huddling under the doorway until the hail past. Said hello, grabbed her DS and drove home. DS was screaming because he was scared. He was under his raincover in the pram, and it was a 15 minute walk so it was only me that got wet. But it was still horrible and I was literally soaked to the skin.

I know the mum would of had to drop us home (5 min drive) and come back for her DS, as there was only 1 car seat. But there is no way i'd walk past my friend like that! She is always early to pick up her DS so it wouldn't of been an issue since it's daycare, not like at school.

Am I being unfair? Is it our fault we don't have a car? I just think it would of been nice!

(btw she wasn't in a rush. pictures on facebook of them cuddled up watching cbeebies etc when they got home!)

Duchess - thanks! More sanity on my side. I'm not quite sure what I've said to upset some people on this thread tbh. Looks like I'm out of line in some unexplained way somewhere...

Y'see that is what I don't get if you are really good friends you should be able to say to her - 'I am really struggling here [BFFname] please could I have a lift back and I will pay for petrol/make a cake/lend you my jimmy choo's?' A good friendship could cope with that and people should not be condemned for not reading the situation the way you want them to, for all your friend knew OP you could have been going on to the shops/ waiting for another friend if all she said was hello and that is all you said back. [shrug] communication is key here.

I've been very ill and this thread is not helping with all its would of, could of,should of arghhhhhhhh

well ok if you had no rain gear on and it was pouring with rain, as a good friend she might have wondered how you were going to get home. I see that.

Eggsy - you have shouted at other people on this thread about reading it properly - so maybe you could take your own advice, and answer the question that I and others have put to you.

How was she supposed to KNOW that it was the hail that was making your son cry?

when I said she said hello, it wasn't a hi. it was a you okay, what's up eggsyDS? it's very loud isn't it? Plus my DS is the chattiest toddler you've ever me. Don't think a pigeon goes by without him saying hello! So she knew he was upset! They she dashed in and out.

so many people's entire posts are about something that's not relevant - ie. her son getting upset that he would be put back in the nursery
Actually, a lot of people's post are centred on why you didn't take your son back into the nursery until the hailstorm had passed, but you've failed to address a single one?
That would be fairly relevant to the discussion, I think.

It is more normal for the weather to be wet, miserable and generally changeable in Manchester especially in February, than it is to be sunny and nice all day.

I would EXPECT it to not stay the same all day at this time of year. Its not 'abnormal' by any stretch of the imagination.

We have a terrible attitude to the weather in this country. Despite it being normal to change we live in cloud cuckoo land and think it should stay the same all day or more generally we moan when its 'too hot', 'too wet', 'too dry', 'too cold'. We want it to be t-shirt weather all year. Well tough. This is Britain.

It never fails to amaze me how Brits refuse to put on a coat because its an 'inconvenience' to do so. Somehow common sense goes out the window and it does seems to be a uniquely British thing to do.

God, this is going to make school pick ups awkward when it pisses down. A lot of my friends walk. Who do I give a lift to? Should I alternate? Alphabetically? Order of how much I like them? Age of children? Shit, what happens if they've got more than one child? Do I have to leave the baby on the pavement?

It's a minefield!

So she knew he was upset! They she dashed in and out.

Doesn't mean to say she knew what about though does it? And it sounds like its very possible she was in a rush.

She was probably

a) dashing in and out so as not to get wet herself

b) wondering why the hec you would stand out in it with a crying child when you could just step back inside

Maybe she had to rush home to wait for a parcel, food shopping, visitor etc etc

I would have given you a lift if you could've fitted in the car, wouldn't occur to me to do two trips though.
Now off to read all the follow-up posts!

Wow, you know how much petrol you friend has, and what she keeps in her boot?

If you're that close to her, then maybe YANBU.

But I would suggest you get a hobby.

First thing I did when started doing the school run on foot, was buy a big, ugly waterproof coat. Has paid for itself a million times.

If you consider her your closest friend then you should mention to her that you are surprised and bit pissed off that she didn't offer you a lift and you got soaking wet.

Don't let it fester, at least you'll have got it off your chest, she what she says.

Been to the bakers for you all. Here you go:-

Hope that's enough for everyone who wants to throw one.

13Iggis, me too. It won't win any fashion awards but I am dry.

Come to think of it, I've no idea how much petrol I've got or whats in the boot of MY OWN car at this present moment in time.

I think there is no petrol and probably mouldy sandwiches in the boot of DH's car. I don't drive and he works away for 2 months. So could be anything in there.

Eggsy, time you get yourself a car methinks.