Aibu to be upset by this?

[PinkPanties]

I was out with my dh today, we were on our way to the shopping precinct, when i broached a conversation about holidays, and that "i would like to experience the world", he took this as a meaning to talk about threesomes, when i said don't be silly, he got really moody about the fact that i didn't mean sexual experience. Kept nagging that "experiencing the world" means experiences sexually. I told him there will be no threesome ever, as i couldn't handle seeing him have sex with another woman. He told me i'm "closed off" sexually, all because of this conversation!

I'm by no means "closed off" at all, i have even had an experience with another woman in my late teens and have tried many things with my dh, such as bondage, foods, all fresco sex, all sorts really so i'm quite pissed of he has said this to me and took my words as an excuse to bring up having a threesome (this isn't the first time he has bought it up)

I said if he wants a threesome with me & a woman then the only way i would agree to it would be for it to be a foursome with a man for my needs too, i said this to shock him. Well it did he got very angry and said i'm being unfair & selfish

Anyway we get to the precinct and enter a clothing store, in here he starts ranting on about me being "closed off" again, and that i don't partake in watching porn with him, i don't want to it makes me envious that he looks at the glamorous women on it and it isn't for me! Then he went on about how i hardly let him relieve himself on my breasts
Bare in mind this was in a store full of people, i felt very embarrased, especially as i was pushing my 2yo dd in her pram too!

Not only did he make me feel like shit by doing all that, he then pointed out some high heeled sneakers and said i should buy them as i'd look good in them. When i said they are not my thing, he started ranting how i don't wear nice shoes.

Got home more ranting about how he wants to use our flat screen tv to play xbox, although he has his own tv in the corner. I said yes after my soaps, and he said i control the tv

All this shit for a man who was a virgin when i met him, still is to my knowledge, who hasn't bathed for 4 days, shaved and wears trackie bottoms & hoodies 24/7.

So pissed off, its unbelievable, and to top it off when i told him how i feel he just shrugged his shoulders and said "i aint done nuthin"
Yesterday i wanted to treat myself so we went out, i gave him £30 towards a new xbox game and said i'd be getting something nice with my cash.
He asked to borrow another £30 off me so i said yes thinking he was going to give it back.
He didn't he bought me sexy underwear with the whole lot, which left me with no money.
So he got games and got a sexy woman dressed up

Sorry that was long!
Aibu to be upset, its all about him?

[puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE]

Honestly op this does read as a joke. If its real then why the fuck are you with him?

[frustratedworkingmum]

A man enquiring about a threesome doesn't automatically = arse. I man who gets stroppy when his wife, as expected, says, "on yer bike mate" and talks about it in public in front of his child = total arse.

[PinkPanties]

Has anyone had experience of their dh talking like this?, did he cheat ?

If i'm honest at present, i'm very unhappy which doesn't come as a suprise but what do i do about it, short of ltb?

Is there hope he will change or is he a lost cause?

He is 30, i met him when he was 21

[PinkPanties]

I'm not joking, i wish it was a joke

[givemeaclue]

Have you asked him to change? Did he?

He you haven't asked him to, why not?

Does he work?

[ProcessYellowC]

He doesn't sound very nice, but has he just suddenly turned into this person or are you just starting to see him as he is?

[PinkPanties]

He hasn't always been like this.
We have always had our problems & arguments just like anyone but this week has really taken the biscuit

[tethersend]

Tell him you've changed your mind about the threesome and ask him to ring Big Dave to set up a date.

[pumpkinsweetie]

Yeh do what thethersend says.
He can hardly complain

[KeepingCalmAndPostingNicely]

How about a compromise? A bit of Friday night bumsex for instance? Perhaps he fancies potting the difficult brown as a change from the easy pink?

[DeepRedBetty]

WTF?

He's talking out of his arse, showing no respect for you or the children... he's skating on 'changing of the locks while he's out' levels of thin ice here.

[ProcessYellowC]

If he hasn't always been like this - did he normally change clothes and wash too?

I'm not usually one to ask this but could he be potentially be depressed or have other mental health issues?

[noblegiraffe]

Sounds like he watches too much porn and has forgotten how to relate to a real woman. Does he have a job?

[frustratedworkingmum]

Big dave is a good idea, and if he starts whinging about not wanting to feel left out while another man shags you tell him that you are sure Big dave will do him as well, just make sure he is lubed up. Oh, and has had a wash!!

Seriously, he sounds vile

[Pandemoniaa]

Tell him you've changed your mind about the threesome and ask him to ring Big Dave to set up a date.

This.

[gimmecakeandcandy]

Sorry but you are a fool to be with him. You MAKE your life rubbish by putting up with this shit.

[ThisIsMummyPig]

I would be hugely pissed off with him just on the basis that he hasn't washed for four days. Hardly an example for the kids now is it.

The other stuff is just wrong, and talking about it in front of the kids is wronger

[KobayashiMaru]

your "DH" is a massive cock, HTH.

[pinkyredrose]

YY to 'big Dave' ! Why is he not selfish for wanting a threesome with a woman but a foursome involving a man makes you selfish?

He sounds like he's worried he'll shag just one woman for ever and wants to shag someone else to see what it's like.

He sounds like an arse .

[AngelAtTheTopOfTheTree]

I don't believe any of this for a second.

[ComposHat]

who hasn't bathed for 4 days, shaved and wears trackie bottoms & hoodies 24/7

If I were a young woman looking for a threesome, I'm sure I'd be wringing out my knickers at the prospect of knocking uglies with a petulant man child who stinks to high heaven.

I think he might be better looking at a ménage à un.

[MarjorieAntrobus]

OP, if this is real, then get out of there. He is a useless partner, because he "talks to you like shit", is lazy, entitled, and doesn't wash for days at a time, plus all the irritating threesome nagging.

Btw, my interpretation of " experiencing the world" means travelling the world, not experiencing a variety of sexual practices. No passport needed for that!

[PinkPanties]

The fact the majority of you think i'm a troll or joking, shows me what a mess my relationship is

[NopeStillNothing]

Urgh! Sounds vile. What's the living situation OP? How easy would it be to Ltb?

[Uppermid]

I think you've answered your own question.