for flouting hospital 'no sibling' rule for ebf baby?

[StarlightMcKenzie]

DS had an operation yesterday. He needed me to be there. Breastfed baby also needed me.

I took my Aunt to look after my ds and we were sent initially to a waiting room. The plan was for her to keep him there and for me to pop out of the ward to feed him.

However, we were there for half an hour and my ds started to ask for a feed, so I started to bf. Literally 2 sucks in, we were called. I pulled him off and he screamed so I jigged him about (which quietens him as a distraction) and moved towards the ward with him in tow.

The nurse told me he wasn't allowed. I told her that I needed to finish his feed and then I would take him back to my aunt. I offered to vrubg ds ub 10 mins but she got arsey saying that ds would have to have his operation cancelled if he missed his slpt. Nurse started tutting about him disturbing the other patients and that there was a strict no-sibling rule that I knew about as it was in the letter (it was).

so WIBU?

[MmeLindor]

Helen
I luffs you lots and you are marvellous and clever and all that, but please for the love of GOD don't make me think of you getting jiggy with Dave

[AudrinaAdare]

And that is the best cross-post

[HelenMumsnet]

@MmeLindor

Helen
I luffs you lots and you are marvellous and clever and all that, but please for the love of GOD don't make me think of you getting jiggy with Dave

I know

The things you have to do for this job, eh?

[OliviaMumsnet]

Whistles innocently

[KeepingCalmAndPostingNicely]

I had a dream about Dave once. Very small penis. Helen might want to know that ..?

[nipersvest]

so, helenmumsnet, the op's posts were withdrawn because she was clashing with yet another health care professional?

shocking

[StuntGirl]

Oh I got deleted! I don't think my comment was troll hunting or a personal attack tbh.

[HelenMumsnet]

@StuntGirl

Oh I got deleted! I don't think my comment was troll hunting or a personal attack tbh.

Yes, you posted " Do you think they hand out medals for breastfeeding or summat?"

Which we read as a personal attack. Not as bad as some others on this thread, admittedly...

[AudrinaAdare]

You might be right about that KeepingCalm

Do you have a picture of Dave wearing Speedos, Olivia?

[LadyBeagleEyes]

X post Helen..
You are indeed lovely and have the patience of a saint.
I could never do your job, as though I like to think I'm non judgemental and laid back, there's too many people on here that would have me banned if I gave my true opinion.
So Kudos to you.

[StuntGirl]

Oh god Olivia, are you trying to give us all nightmares before bed?!

[FrankWippery]

I didn't make a personal attack or troll huntery like one.

I said 'sound like' and queried how an EBF baby can be and EBF baby, yet eat a gazillion pouches of grub.

[HelenMumsnet]

@nipersvest

so, helenmumsnet, the op's posts were withdrawn because she was clashing with yet another health care professional?

shocking

Maybe. But then again, maybe not so odd if you have an SN child to battle for, eh?

We do like to give folks the benefit of the doubt. We concede that some might think that might may us look like twits every now and again. But we'd rather that than assume the worst of everyone.

[StuntGirl]

Oo do you have to delete your own post now?

Tbf I still don't think that's a personal attack. It was a comment on her repeated referencing to breastfeeding as if it was something that should come above and beyond everything else, including standard hospital policy. But then I don't wield the gavel of power

[HelenMumsnet]

@FrankWippery

I didn't make a personal attack or troll huntery like one.

I said 'sound like' and queried how an EBF baby can be and EBF baby, yet eat a gazillion pouches of grub.

Sorry Frank. You said "OP you sound like a lot of work and really rather entitled to me."

Which we read as very much intended as a personal attack.

[FrankWippery]

That's why I used 'sound like' rather than 'you are', which is the impression I was getting from the OP's posts.

Bang goes my resolution to get no deletions this year. I tried so hard to stay within the guidelines too.

[LadyBeagleEyes]

I agree, StuntGirl, this is the oddest thread I've ever seen on MN.
But MNHQ will know far more details than us, so I'd like to give them the benefit of the doubt.
But I'm seriously struggling here.

[MmeLindor]

Helen
Don't you delete posts if they repeat the PA that was deleted? Are you going to delete your own post.

And can you pull Olivia's hair for me. That pic is going to haunt me.

[HelenMumsnet]

@MmeLindor

Helen
Don't you delete posts if they repeat the PA that was deleted? Are you going to delete your own post.

And can you pull Olivia's hair for me. That pic is going to haunt me.

Well, yes. But was trying to be helpful re deletions, which is hard to do without quoting.

And that pic's going to haunt you?

[MyDarlingClementine]

I have not read the whole thread but I do find it odd that the NHS is pushing BF - marketing, advertising etc etc etc and yet when someone is BF in one of thier hospitals they are told not too because of a sibling rule .

OP I think your most unfortuante that you ended up being on the receiving end of the one nurse I have ever heard of enforcing a rule in the NHS.

Many times I have seen people flouting various "rules" and the one time I hear of one being enforced its trying to force a baby away from its mother.

Typical.

[StuntGirl]

I agree the thread is odd.

The OP sounds, to this armchair psychologist, as if she has a lot of serious issues going on and doing something 'good' like breastfeeding is a way of exerting some kind of control. By repeatedy raising the point she gets to keep pointing it how good she is compared to all us other terrible mothers who can't see the virtue of breastfeeding.

Or I could be way off

[Uppermid]

Well said Helen.

Nipersvest, there is a big difference between taking something someone said with a pinch of salt and calling her a liar

And to those who been trawling through past posts, who cares if the baby has been given solids (though mentioned was the fact that the baby mostly played with it rather than ate it). At that moment in time the baby needed milk and had already started the feed. The no sibling policy was down to space. Not infection, op said herself if that had been the case she would have done things differently, however the baby was feb then went back to the waiting area. No one at the hospital (after the initial grumbling nurse) had a problem with it, so why do so many of you?

Is it really that inconceivable that someone could genuinely have had a whole load of problems with health care professionals? Other posters on mumsnet have had nightmare scenarios with other professions (schools, social workers, planning departments etc). Just because it hasn't happened to you, doesn't mean it doesn't happen.

Some in here seemed to like the idea that star is some kind of bf warrior, yet she said that if this was a bottle fed baby who would only take from the mother that in an instance like this, the baby should have been allowed to stay with the mother. But that obviously doesn't fit in with what people think about her, now someone wants us to go and look at a thread about pool side breast feeding - wtf? What's so wrong with bf?

Star remained calm, patient and dignified thought the thread, even when called a liar and told she should have left one distressed child to go deal with another, when there was really no need to.

[Uppermid]

Omg I've heard it all now - stuntgirl, where did star make any reference about her being better than anyone else?

[Uppermid]

And Olivia how could you do that to us, I'm going to have nightmares tonight now!