To ask what SAHM,s with kids at school do with their days?

[totallyfrazzled]

I am mainly a SAHM but both my children are now school age. I do work PT, but as I work freelance my work days are erratics so I often find myself being a SAHM for a full week. Despite the fact that I do work, albeit slightly randomly, I find that I cannot give myself credit for the multiple tasks that I perform in anyone day at home....getting the DC's dressed and ready for school, driving them to school, clearing up the breakfast chaos, making the beds, doing the shopping, blah blah blah, preparing the evening meal, collecting the DC's, getting thru the homework, etc etc etc. i seem to be able to fill a whole day with domestic drudgery and still I am treading water, i.e. I am keeping everything at a status quo rather than actually achieving anything. I feel duty bound to keep on with domestic duties whilst not actually in renumerative employ. I feel guilty doing otherwise.Wondering if any one anyone else is in the same boat?

you are v easily wound up, if you bang your head about something as inconsequential about pals inability to recruit a a cleaner
she ask for a recommendation, or go online,or post on mn. isnt hard to recruit

You were reason for headbanging not her jeez. Think I may need to go and do some mundane domestic task as possibly more rewarding.

I was wondering what had taken you so long Xenia!

ha ha yes all the usual suspects!

let me tye slowly let you catch up,the head banging yes its all about you
that's v apparent

Scottishmummy - it can depend on where you live. My mum has been trying to get a cleaner for 3 months and has just found someone. They are like gold dust around here.

in that case id post on mn, or try get pal recommendation

Am I alone in never been able to shake off my upbringing, where it was considered not the done thing to watch television in the day?

Sm seeing as you seem so concerned, she lives in very rural area and as freerangelady said it is nigh in impossible to get somebody decent. I'm sure she will feel loads better when I tell her easy it is to sort out.

youre v involved in your friends domestics
over involved if it causes head banging,albeit slowly

So predictable...

Of course I am involved, I care about my friend very much and don't like to see her not coping.

Why are you banging on so much about it? Most peculiar.

you raised topic,youve elaborated at length,you posted it on-line
why do you need to share it
why is it so significant for you

Tee, don't you find time to watch Jerry Springer, too? :o

(easily amused by IOW hark back!)

The thread is in general about people's experiences of working or not working and combining it with child rearing. If you looked at my first contribution I said that I really admired women (usually is) who can combine the two successfully and went on to mention a friend who was really struggling and how I felt for her and her situation.

Not madly off topic is it? Not greatly significant to me, although friend is of concern but is relevant to this discussion.

blackholesandrevelations, don't be so feckin patronising

this posted to scottishmummy " You talk shit. Since when do Scottish people miss whole words out of sentences when speaking?"

who says scottishmummy is Scottish? how do you know what she is?

in my humble opinion

Please, I have some standards!

IOW? Delphi?

Life is too short to worry about what others are thinking. I'm not a domestic goddess but I have lists to get through each day and even with the kids at school I only get six hours a day to fit everything in.
Most of the evening is spent ferrying kids to after school activities, so after school runs, shopping, cooking and cleaning, the only real time I have to myself is two hours at the most and we don't get home until 8pm most nights.

It's what makes us happy as indivifuals that counts or what works best for your family.

Some women want to be a sahm or work, some have to sah or work due to money/childcare reasons.

I'm a sahm, i do the odd crafts, cleaning, washing, hoovering, tidying, changing/making beds, organizing, my dd is 2, i take her to the park, colour in with her, take her on playdates, play games, make her lunch etc, get childrens lunchbags made, sort uniforms etc & now dh is redundant , he shares the chores with me whilst searching for work.

I'm actually really quite happy considering the general state of things Xenia. At the right time some studying or volunteering might make me happier, but right now got plenty to focus on.

if I were a sahm I would learn another language, learn an instrument, swim, read, write a play, garden, do up my house and read. I can't imagine being bored.

I really don't know why anyone gives a shit how anyone else spends their day. Why do these threads always descend into sahm versus wohm? In real life I don't know anyone who cares.

why?because its contentious we all think we are doing right thing,and will defend our position
frankly folk on mn get angsty about stuff ive never heard discussed in rl
but that is pleasure and wtf factor of mn.thats its not rl,this isn't conversation

Obviously it does matter that there was a group of women who wanted to pursue careers outside of the home and made that happen so that others could follow in their footsteps .

I know women have always worked, but they have not always been able to have fulfilling careers in all sectors.

I'm never bored either, ever.