To ask what SAHM,s with kids at school do with their days?

[totallyfrazzled]

I am mainly a SAHM but both my children are now school age. I do work PT, but as I work freelance my work days are erratics so I often find myself being a SAHM for a full week. Despite the fact that I do work, albeit slightly randomly, I find that I cannot give myself credit for the multiple tasks that I perform in anyone day at home....getting the DC's dressed and ready for school, driving them to school, clearing up the breakfast chaos, making the beds, doing the shopping, blah blah blah, preparing the evening meal, collecting the DC's, getting thru the homework, etc etc etc. i seem to be able to fill a whole day with domestic drudgery and still I am treading water, i.e. I am keeping everything at a status quo rather than actually achieving anything. I feel duty bound to keep on with domestic duties whilst not actually in renumerative employ. I feel guilty doing otherwise.Wondering if any one anyone else is in the same boat?

i do snigger at the cant understand a word posts. too garbled,poor syntax,appalling punctuation
then proceed quickly to tell me what offensive rot i type,as one struggles to read
funny one can read post just enough to know,no likey

I agree and often it is about what we can afford rather than what we thinking it is best, very few of us have our child free of economic pressure of some kind.

I always wanted to be a SAHM to all of my children as long as I could afford. However I have to balance that with wanting a large family . With our first my maternity leave was much much shorter than I would have liked because my husband was already supporting a child. With one child I managed the full five years because we were financially secure and had two children within a few years. With my youngest I had less time than I did with those to but I did change career to go into teaching because it was more family friendly. I made different decisions each time and they were all a balance of what I thought was best for our whole family . I hope to have one more child at least , I do not want to be a head teacher so I may take few years out. I may even take five years and then have a career change.

scottishmummy

And the one and only family friendly thing about teaching is the holidays! I know it's an amazing bonus but I'd rather work two days or so out of teaching and not have all the constant pressure and hours and hours of work to do each evening and weekend.

Personally, I do whatever I damn well please.

Not that it is anyone's business but my own.

Ps that last post is not in criticism to yours, arisbottle; if you can make it work I salute you (truthfully). I can't unfortunately.

well thats refershing,beats the i simply cant understand your posts
the rub on mn is everyone reckons everyone else talks shit,except themselves
then we slug it out. the trick is dont personalise it.its only words on a screen

I suppose it depends on what career you had before. I can always be home for tea time.

sm always makes me chuckle, always curious as to what particular mode of technology you post on though! Unmistakable posting style.

usually an ipad and laptop today as doing a presentation

I am a very happy SAHM but was a WOHM with DD1. Both were right at the time for us. When I first worked we NEEDED the money for the bills, food etc. We had no car or holidays. I was a teenage mum..So some mums have to work although admittedly some choose to. And if that is what they want then that is right for them. I do feel sorry though for those who want to SAH but cannot and vice versa. Me SAH is best for us right now but I don't think SAH is right for everyone though. Also in some cases SAHD is a better option. Two of my close relatives were good SAHDs.

There is bitterness on both sides because when someone says why they do something it can be seen as an attack. eg want to raise own kids, don't want to be dependent/1950s housewife etc/lazy etc. If you are happy then don't worry what others think, life is too short!

i dont think there is bitterness,strident opinion.its only bitter if you make it so

i must say I take my hat off to anyone, usually female, who works full time and runs a home. I would be absolutely crackered unless I could pay for cleaners, shipping the ironing out, gardeners that kind of thing.

I suspect that can only be possible if you are in a very well paid ft position though - god knows how you would work all week and spend all weekend cleaning, choring etc. I do have a close friend who's DH is away a lot and she works ft, her cleaner just left and she is close to tears every time i see her as can't cope. Really hard choices to be made sometimes.

hang on if both work ft,why do home/domestic stuff fall to female
both responsible,both sort it
if you work all week ft and then be martyr to household chores you're a fool

The DH works abroad all week, cleaner handed in her notice - yes she is trying to find someone else but in the meantime she is running on empty. Not a fool, circumstances.

youre drip feeding,well clearly he cant share chores if not on same continent
maybe had yiu said that answer would been different
if hes away, then its her call, and needs adequate monies etc to make that decision

Eat bonbons and watch soaps. All day.*

I'm not actually a SAHM, I freelance with a fairly steady client base. But that's what I wish* I did!

And, obviously, not know to preview...

i said he's away a lot, doesn't really make much difference if he's in Hull or Geneva does it, he's not there to do the ironing or make the dinner.

They've got adequate money just not the person and she doesn't have time to find the person as she works full time.

are you talking about yourself?whats the histrionics in wee brackets about
its not that surmountable if one has a internet and dosh to find a stranger to pay to do tasks
you phone reputable agency,or ask a pal for recommendation.easy peasy

No I am not talking about myself.

Fucking hell you are hard work aren't you?

not at all,but i fear all that slow head banging may have affected you somewhat

Whatevs,

Most humourless and predictable poster, always on these threads.

The housewives on the whole sound pretty miserable on the thread, no role, nothing to do so the answer is work, don't play second fiddle to a man and earn pin or no money and then the route to happiness is yours.