to tell my colleague ive got feelings for him?

[emilysheart]

I've realised i have got feelings for someone i work with.he's with someone but he has made it known to me that he's not happy in the relationship and i have had signal from him in the past that maybe he likes me. he is moving to another department soon so if i tell him now an he laughs in my face at least i won't have to face him on a daily basis. if i don't say anything i think i might regret it

yabu

he's with someone

don't say anything!

I wouldn't say anything unless he splits up with his partner to be honest.

I wouldn't say anything.

He wants a bit on the side. Move on you can do better.

Don't say anything while he's with someone.
If his relationship doesn't work out then you can think about talking to him.

Depends if his current relationship is serious or casual.

But he's probably just marking his territory with you IYSWIM.

Ask yourself, if you invited him out for a goodbye drink and had a snogathon - would actually trust him if you then developed arelationship? The answer is no, because you would know he was cheating

Fancy being the other woman do you ?

Think again. This is what you will regret.

YABU

And if he feels uncomfortable, he may well report you.

Work is not the best place to do or say anything like that.

If he liked you, he would have done something about it. He's not that into you. Don't go down this road.

thank you all just needed confirmation that i am being ridiculous. you are right holly i had thought of that already. seems there is no good result from telling him even if he left his oh without cheating don't think i could handle the drama right now.

haha worra he wouldn't report me

No (because his dick will swell with pride and joy), but somebody else might

I don't think you're being ridiculous imagining what could happen, it's just thinking the situation through.

If he likes you, he knows where you are.

can't see anyone reporting me its not that sort of work environment but anyway. thank you Agent-i do think we would be really good together but does seem like a bad idea now even if he agreed im not in a good place to be involved with anything serious right now

it wouldn't be something "serious" though would it ?

unless you count being a willing shag as the side dish to the main course of his marriage as "serious"

God no, not unless his circumstances change.

im not planning on being his ow. by serious i mean if he felt the same and left his cheating dw that he doesn't love.but i can't deal with the shower of shit that would rain down on me if that happened so i won't say anything

Oh FFS this is the oldest line in the book "he's not happy in his relationship" = my wife doesn't understand me and I fancy a shag. Please keep well clear - especially as he is someone you work with

who says his wife is a cheater ?

"His cheating wife that he doesn't love"- you do realise that this is probably bullshit, right?

yabu

Are you just wanting to give him a sign you're interested so he doesn't 'go away' not knowing how you feel?

I can understand that.

But, aside from you not being in a good place at the minute yourself, not only would he be going from one relationship to another if you did anything, but he's having a scout about for something else before he decides to move on, and you wouldn't want to be a relative relationship (this is better than what I had, kind of thing).

Just reading your OP back though, him giving signals he might be interested might just be his general behaviour? What kinds of things has he done?

its not bullshit but seemingly irrelevant

you mentioned your not in the place for a,relationship he's married, alarm bells for a disaster?

maybe it's good he's moving dept if his circumstances change he knows where you are. but I wouldn't touch him with a barge pole right now.