To be bewildered by folk who claim that motherhood has made it impossible to go to the loo alone? Why?

[Snog]

What ridiculous nonsense is this?
Just
go
to the loo
alone

I pee by myself. I lock the door. It just takes a short while.

However, I have all sorts of issues with pooing that a fibre diet can't seem to sort, so pooing takes more than a few seconds and I have to try to time poos for when DS is in bed or busy watching tv.

I have an amazingly clever 2 year old. She can open doors and everything. She can also lock the damn things so all the locks have been disabled. Therefore I have no choice about her wandering in and having a lovely chat while I pee. She often brings her friends along too. Apparently my spotty knickers are the most amusing sight in the whole world and must be shared.

OP, just because your perfect little precious does or doesn't do something or just because you choose to parent in a different way does not mean everyone else has to do the same. Please stop cluttering up the internet complaining about it!

Glen you are cluttering up the net too so that doesn't hold a lot of water

I don't care if you like taking your kids to watch you pee and poo
I care if you com

Complain that you don't like it but think it is unavoidable, that is all

Don't understand the problem here either. 3 Dcs and have always managed to pee and poo in peace. Bung them in cot or playpen if they are super clingy.

Exactamondo
We are talking 60 seconds of separation

I used to let mine cry when I went to the loo. It's not like abandoning them.

Having IBS means I have a lot of trips to the bathroom so they've had to learn to deal with it.

I love my son. It hurts to upset him.

My choice. The end.

My DS can escape from playpens and cots and he can open doors. Frankly I am happy to see his head pop round the toilet door as it means he isn't standing naked weeing from the top of a tower he's built to see out of a window. I assume you don't have a toddler.

lol,I presume that earnest statement is joke
upset him when you go loo, gawd he'll get over it
wait til he goes nursery, he'll flourish and learn to wait without getting upset

No I have a 13 year old and can pee alone at will

When DS1 was 18 months and DS2 was 2 months it was difficult to wee alone because if one didn't cry the other one would.

Now they are 3 1/2 and 2 1/2 I shut the door to block out the screams. It is really satisfying.

Scottish- I had extreme PND. Was sectioned and had him removed from me, only togeth in a mother & baby unit on 1:1 contact. 4-9 months I hated him. Right now he is my entire universe, and more. We co sleep, eat together, go to baby groups every day.

It hurts me because it brings me right back to those dark evil times when I wasn't allowed near my son.

It HURTS to hear him cry. I love him so much and I hate that small minded snobbish elitist MNers would judge me for that.

I'm doing my absolute hardest to make my son happy, which everybody says he is now. I love him so, so much.

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Our bathroom door is broken and can't afford to fix it!

You can prop it closed but of course toddlers have no manners and barge through at will.

I hate it.

Baby yes. Toddler, no. Stalking little fiends.

I would also rather have a son who would rather cling to my legs tjan wouldn't know if I was there or not.

My parents didn't care I existed, I will not let him feel the same.

I was with you on this OP right up until I had a mobile toddler who can open doors plus a lack of bathroom door lock. He also lobs things at me when I have a shower

I try to lock him behind the stair gate down stairs.

You have just given me the impetus to get a bloody door lock and I can pee in peace again

I never 'contained' my children. And I didn't go back to work until they were 5 and 3 so they were more than capable of locating me and opening the bathroom door (no lock). I didn't particularly like it, but I didn't dislike it enough to put them in confinement. I did notice the joy of 'unattended' and timely toilet breaks when I returned to work, but I didn't assume everyone had the same experience.

Sometimes it does annoy me but as dd makes herself projectile vomit at will I'd rather she came in for a chat than I came out from a lonesome pee to find the entire house covered in vomit.

why is cling desirable
parental role is to encourage safe exploration and independence
cling isn't necessarily benchmark of good parenting

I also like to think its helping with future potty training

It's a long time ago now, but I generally managed to go alone. Different story with the dog though, who seems to think that I have passed through a portal to another dimension if I close the bathroom door.

I don't have a playpen.

Dd will climb on things if I leave her. Ds would probably do some damage too. So I usually bring one with me.

And on the occasions when i go solo, ds will bang on the door to find me. So even though I'm alone, I'm not at peace!

I thought everyone had breast fed on the loo at some point. No? Screaming baby, finally latching on after hours of struggle, seems to be feeding at last but you just have to go...

My children followed me into the toilet for years and my son is still with me every morning when I shower but at least now he's not trying to crawl in with me. I had a year or so of trying to do one handed hair washing while holding the shower door shut with the other hand.

I'm puzzled by the OP tbh. What else do you do with your cannot-be-left-alone crawling 10 month old while you shower? Single parent here btw.