To be bewildered by folk who claim that motherhood has made it impossible to go to the loo alone? Why?

[Snog]

What ridiculous nonsense is this?
Just
go
to the loo
alone

you cannnot put a crying baby down to defacate in peace
god all mighty.baby won't suffer if placed in cot for brief period
it's not your job,being mum isn't job it's choice you've made.thats different

It was ok when ds was small and I could put him in the playpen for a couple of minutes.
He is now 3 and toilet trained so every time I take him for a pee I have one myself.

Every time I have left him unsupervised while I go to the loo, I have come back to find him doing something he shouldn't, eg playing drums on the TV, climbing on the dining table (our downstairs is open plan) pulling the cat's tail etc

well
I amback at work and I have to take dd to the loo.

because if she's on a clingy day or isn't syitably distracted, she screams blue murder.
I can't risk a customer walking in at that exact moment and thinking i'd abandoned her, upset her or worse.
or walking out again because of the noise.

so, for me, going to work definitely did not mean I could go to the toilet on my own.

Are you saying I'm not allowed to hold him while I go to the loo? Or I shouldn't?

I have a little chair thing in there that is right by the loo, and which I put him onto to wash my hands at least - or to sit there if he isn't crying.

And occasionally when he is.
But he is still with me. That's my choice - I don't see what is wrong with it.

I guess do what you want but don't be a martyr to it as its totally unnecessary to take your child to the loo all the time for fear of what will happen if you dont

im saying being unwilling put a baby in cot whilst you defacate is bit ott
I certainly never held a baby in my arms in wc to defecate why would I?
I dint think there. will be attachment issue to put baby in cot whilst you in loo

No snog, ds is safer if he isn't left on his own. I am not being a martyr, because it just is what it is,I don't moan about it, I get on with it.

sometimes I try not to take her (she's 13 mo) and she tries to follow me.
yp the steep stairs.
my pelvic floor is still not muscley and it's easier to take her with me than to panicky run back downstairs and risk pissing myself with no change of undies.

I think yabu

It's luck of the drawer. When my its were little, one was happy to be left, the other would cry till he vomited, so he got to come with me. Perhaps your dc were more like my dt1? Then as they got older, they would bite each other and draw blood if left alone, again one would have to come with me. Perhaps you never had twins?

Put away your judgy pants, especially about such a trivial matter.

The bounce chair in the room with you sounds fine Rooney, I had to do the same with my DS who was a very clingy baby. Hygiene-wise, I drew the line at holding him while I went even if he was upset.

Draw not drawer, dts not its. Bloody phone.

nickel your baby can't be 13 months! [bshock]

Snog- tell us about your own children. Are they happy to be left alone whilst you go or do you/did you ignore their cries?

Look it has taken me 13 years to raise this issue I think that is more than reasonable

Strawberry - never an issue to me, I wouldn't have given any consideration to taking m

Hugo she is and a half

Going right back to the start of the thread, but ddsmellysocks post - brilliant

Taking mine to the loo - why would I?

I think I asked whether they were happy to be left alone or you left them upset whilst you went?

My dds take on the fecal matter "but I just want to be with yoooooooo mummy" as they try to climb on my knee whilst I'm at a crucial moment in the toilet proceedings.

Endearing, no?

I go to the loo alone. I just don't often get to stay alone for long. The other day DS popped in just long enough to pick up a new loo roll I was about to fit to the holder. When I told him to bring it back, he brought back one end of the paper, leaving the roll elsewhere and an andrex puppy style tangle in between...

Crikey they grow up so fast don't they?

Ds2 will happily play alone but he has a sixth sense for me going to the loo! I generally leave the door open but if I have guests I have to lock it or he will have noticed and opened the door before I've finished weeing! Ds1 (5) will invite ds2 (2) to go with him to the toilet if he's doing a poo

Cups of tea I'm terrible with, put it down and been distracted from drinking the same cup reheated several times some days.

Mine get separation anxiety.
They stalk me.
I would love to poo in peace.
Yabu