Most men didn't have the vote either until a few years before women got it.
Not so. There was a property qualification, which was gradually whittled away at as the movement towards democracy progressed, but men were represented in the Commons for hundreds of years. You also don't appear to know that women could not hold any property at all in their own names until the late Victorian period, and that while men could divorce for adultery, women needed to be able to add desertion or cruelty to adultery in order to do so. And they would still lose their children and their property. And the other thing - poor women always worked. In factories, in houses, in the fields. It wa sjust that "their" money belonged to their husbands. They had all of the hardships and none of the control. And of course there will have been loving, tender and passionate relationships, with husbands who treated their wives like gold. That isn't relevant because what is being discussed is a societal framework that meant the way women were treated was at the whim of the man they married. Not a right to fair, decent or equal treatment.
You also don't seem to know that a woman lost all legal status when she married. It was known as "Coverture" and applied until the 20th century. In essence. when you married, legally you stopped being a person at all. You became a part of your husband. You couldn't enter into a contract or own anything at all. Your husband could do anything to you - rape you, beat you, abandon you, take your children - as long as he didn't kill you. Murder wasn't allowed. Pretty much anything else was okay, though. Including selling you, as it happens. The legal textbook setting out the framework said: By marriage, the husband and wife are one person in law: that is, the very being or legal existence of the woman is suspended during the marriage, or at least is incorporated and consolidated into that of the husband.
I don't mean to be rude, honestly I don't, but you fairly obviously don't know the history behind the feminist movement, or women's role in society. Maybe you could read up a bit on it, and see if it altered how you see things? Did you know, for example, that until the early 1990s it was legal for a man to rape his wife in this country? That's just 20 years ago. And one of my law lecturers at university disgreed with the ruling, because it was judge-led and not legislated by Parliament. He said, "A man who forces sex upon his wife is a cad and a brute, but he is not a rapist."
It's great your husband is lovely. My husband is lovely to. My son is lovely, and so are my little brothers and many male friends. But that's neither here nor there when discussing feminism.