no heating no help

[baby121990]

hi, my boiler blew up on Friday night i called emergency team out

Ahh didn't realise that Tantrums. I just kind of skimmed the thread.

That's how I read it too.

I must be reading a different thread to people posting on here

korma that wasn't the case and you know it.
She was upset by having no heating or hot water, with children when it is freezing. She was worried her autistic son would cope badly with the change in his routine.
She asked if anyone knew if there was a way to get this fixed quicker, as I suspect most people would do, given that its snowing and cold.
When my boiler broke I was on the phone to the repair company every day until it gets fixed. I think it's reasonable for anyone to ask if there's a way to speed up a repair.
The OP hasn't phoned and asked the council for temp accommodation.
She posted to say did anyone know if there was a possibility because she did not know
If people don't know something.,they ask.

And whilst most people would be happy to say to her that no there's nothing you can do but I'm sorry for you, here's some suggestions you went off on one, seemingly because she was "getting the repair for free"

AFAIK there's no rule saying if you are in a council house you cannot ask for your boiler to be repaired in order for your children not to be cold.

You then continued in this thread in the same manner and you are now upset that people are giving it back to you the same way you did to the OP.

So I can only suggest you take your own advice, suck it up and realise if you are nasty to people for no reason, they will respond in the same way to you.

... And see, how much better it is to put across an argument like you did just now without ranting and being venomous! Nobody can call you a fuckwit for posting what you just did!

Did you just want a ruckus?

Yes she was asking. Because she didn't know.
She didn't phone the council, demand temp accommodation and then start a thread about how awful it was that the council refused. She asked if anyone knew. All you had to say was no. Are you not getting that? That all you had to do was say no they won't provide it.

Really not necessary to read all that, not without your own replies and swearing, at least.

The only post that really needs re-reading is your first post to the OP.
And answer yourself if you found it nasty, or helpful in any way.

And where did I deserve a FFS?

Seriously, this is pointless.

Kinda agree with Korma's later posts tbh. 'No help' but OP is being helped! If she had asked for ways to keep warm, to minimise the distruption to her son etc. that's one thing. 'Speeding up' the process, which seems to be moving as fast as it can, and enquiring about temp accomodation seems a bit much. If our boiler broke we'd be fucked, as a lot of people would. I can see why the OPs initial post rankled.

Yeah, I find it harder to be sympathetic to someone who just has to wait a week than someone who is disabled and can't get it fixed at all. I imagine korma's sympathy has run dry a bit tbh.

Without meaning to sound rude, you are rather lucky as private tenants & people that own their own home have to wait a hell of a lot longer due to costs.
A few days is nothing in the scheme of things and atleast you have been provided with temporary electric heaters.

It's not nice, but you are being helped
Bathing is a case of using a kettle, quite exhausting for a few days but its doable.

I lived like that for a month, so yes you are being helped.

But to repeatedly call someone a wanker and fuckwit because you disagree with them is not nice

I dont think it was because people disagreed with you as such, just that you were nasty in the way you said what you said and you knew it was nasty that is why you said about not being able to sit on your hands any longer, you knew how it would be received but didnt care.

My initial post wasn't that nasty

Obviously others thought it was.

I stand by the fact that yes, I do think the op was entitled and hysterical and yes I do think she needed a dose of 'man up

You cant stop can you?! how exactly is that helpful?

But what's the point of it?
Is it "I feel bad so I'm going to make sure you feel worse?"
It's not the ops fault korma has no heating. She didn't know that did she?

As for no help, let's send out a message to all of mumsnet that you have to put very specific wording in your titles, less it offends anyone.

I don't know what's wrong with empathy?

FFS the OP probably thought that it should be fixed quicker, because on our local council website it states that no hot water or heating is an emergency and should be fixed in 24 hours. Maybe hers said the same?
Maybe she has never been in that position and thought it wasn't acceptable to have 2 children in below zero temperatures for a week?

Or does everyone just have to suck it up and get on with it because god forbid anyone should say anything nice?

And yes korma the replies were justified. Because you were downright nasty because the OP doesn't have to pay for her repair.
If she had posted "the person I paid to fix my boiler has said he can't fix it for a week, I've got an autistic child who is stressing about his routine changing, what can I do to hurry him up" would you have been so horrible?

Don't take your own issues out on someone who is in need.

This is what my grandmother would call 'six of one and half a dozen of the other'

Before Christmas I started a thread saying, Ive lost all my money and Christmas is ruined! It was hysterical because that is what I felt at the time. Realistically it was ruined, I would be fine, which I explained in the thread but no one could get away from the point that was made in the thread title.

And thats the problem here, the title is being taken too literally. She asked could she speed things up. And rightly too. I would ask the same regardless of whether I was in a HA place, rented or owned a property. Lots of layers and 2 heaters cannot take the place of proper heating. Is she not allowed to complain she is cold because others cannot afford to get the heaters fixed?

And its a sad day that a woman with no heat and a disabled child is suddenly hysterical and entitled.

And it's not a sad day that a disabled woman with no chance of getting her heater fixed because she can't afford to?

Valium maybe she should start a thread then?

Someone on this thread has already advised Korma of a way to get help with her boiler.

valium its sad that any living person should be without heat and hot water. Its bloody awful.

But can we not ask for advice on here anymore in case our paticular problem offends someone in a worse position?

valium, that is also sad. But that is not a situation that relates to THIS op.

The woman you are talking about can start as many threads as she wants about her situation, and she will get replies and sympathies. Not necessary to trash this thread because of it, is it?

It's not about offending, it's about understanding that other people might be in a similar/worse predicament and equally could do with being cut a bit of slack. If I had no heating for a year I think I would be snippy. Saying that though, I think korma is getting a bit of a pasting for a particularly mild rant considering this is AIBU.

I guess so Quint