To want another baby at 41

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I have 3 dcs and would really like a forth. My DH is not so keen though to go through the baby stage again not sure if I should try to change his mind. Anyone else in similar situation.

eggsy11, well OP has said she has young children and is already in her 40's, so actually you are being a bit offensive. And a bit smug and naive too.

Alot of things depend on general health and outlook too.
I was chatting to a woman on the checkout at the supermarket who was about to be GGM at the age of 63. She seemed so much older than that to me-just by her manner and outlook.
My dsis had hers at 42 and my step-dad, who is 70 is very fit and healthy, always has the latest phone, plays computer games and is very involved with his gdc. I reckon he has a good 20 years in him.
I also overheard two men in the butchers chatting. I took them to be 65-70 until they started talking about the ages of their kids (50-60) and one of them said "and you'll be hitting 90 soon, like me Bob?" I did a double take, because one of them was the butcher-still working!
The other one said "Aye. We've got another 10 year or so at least".
"Oh aye" said the first man. " I'm might even retire and enjoy me sen"
(And they were not kidding!)

Oh, for the non Yorkshire folk "me sen" means myself

I was 40 when I had my DP.

Quite an age difference between you and your partner, is there?!

Well I suppose I did! DS I mean - doh!

Ok- I feel compelled to say this

Dd3 arrived when I was nearly 40, when others were 10 and 12. I in no way regret having her-she is a much wanted and loved child. Dds now 18,15 and 5.

If I had had any inkling how hard, draining and expensive teens are, I am really not sure I would have been so keen. You are already looking at 3 teens already. Think ahead a bit.

Yes, will second that about teens. The cost!

Cost of school shoes! Holiday travel/accommodation! Food bills! Replacing broken/lost gadgets! Driving lessons! .

Of course they are worth it {eyes water}.