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to be furious with dh for eating cakes he knew were destined for the bin!

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alfrex · 21/01/2013 14:57

OK. I bake a lot. And sometimes my cakes are beautiful, and we all enjoy them. But sometimes it does not go so well and the cakes come out sunk or burnt or still wet in the middle (if dh would get the fan fixed on the oven this would happen a lot less often, but that's another thread)

There is a system, dh and the children are well aware of it. If the cakes are good to eat, they either go in a freezer bag for later use, or in a sealed tin for use over the week, or on a plate on the side so that they can be eaten now. DH knows this and I never complain about him "sampling" even if th cakes are meant for after dinner or whatever. I bake a lot so there is usually something there if he fancies a nibble.

If the cakes are not up to scratch, they go in the bin as soon as they are cooled (or as soon as dh empties the bin - there's another thread there!)

so this morning dh saunters into the kitchen to get himself breakfast. I come in and find him cramming his mouth with the burnt, crappy cakes that were sitting in the bun tray by the bin. I was really pissed off and had a go at him for it. I can make really nice cakes and I make plenty of them, so he has no need to wind me up and embarrass me by eating the ones that have gone wrong. He know it is a pet hate of mine.

so he strops off to work having called me a "control freak" in front of our children who were sitting having their breakfast. I am Not Happy.

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FanFuckingTastic · 21/01/2013 15:43

Take the cakes and go feed the ducks then? Although I've never been anywhere with no birds.

Pagwatch · 21/01/2013 15:43

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alfrex · 21/01/2013 15:43

Well now I am going to make dinner for my family. I will come back later and see how many more insults hav been posted.

Thanks for nothing Mumsnet!

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oldqueencrepey · 21/01/2013 15:43

it's wrong because she said so, OK? And he knew her "system" so should have known these condemned cakes WERE NOT TO BE EATEN but was very DISRESPECTFUL and scoffed them anyway. OK??

PureQuintessence · 21/01/2013 15:44

You are either Marie Antoinette incarnate, or you need to learn to bake properly.

RedHelenB · 21/01/2013 15:44

Your language " know Better" - can't you see how infantile you are making him sound. He is a grown man & if he makes the choice to eat the cakes that his money has bought the ingredients for & paid the electricity for rather than throw them in the bin then that is perfectly normal!!!!

saintlyjimjams · 21/01/2013 15:44

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PureQuintessence · 21/01/2013 15:44

Maybe he is pregnant. I have heard reports that pregnant men favour the taste of charcoal.

ILoveTIFFANY · 21/01/2013 15:45

What were you attempting to bake op??!

Fairylea · 21/01/2013 15:45

This is the weirdest thread ever.

Surely it's better he ate the cake than throwing it away ? Less waste and he wanted to! They must have looked nice for him to want to eat them!

Unclentch thy buttocks.

And fix the fan oven. It's anyones job. It's an oven.... in your house!

RedHelenB · 21/01/2013 15:45

BTW, if your only worth is cooking for your family you really need to chill! A more relaxed mum & wife would definitely be preferable to a delia smith!

countrykitten · 21/01/2013 15:45

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countrykitten · 21/01/2013 15:46

your not you

HecateWhoopass · 21/01/2013 15:46

ok, last one and then I am really out Grin I must be off MY rocker to be still trying!

chucking skepticism in a box for 2 seconds...

If the whole world tells you you're wrong, it is not likely that the whole world is wrong and you are right. It just ISN'T.

Nobody here gives a shit about you, your husband or your cakes. There is no agenda here. People are telling you the truth.

Your behaviour is bizarre.

So bizarre that it is outside of what is considered the behaviour of a person with good mental health.

Particularly claiming where you live doesn't have any birds. birds are everywhere. Everywhere. There is no place on earth (above water!) that does not have them. Apart from maybe the top of high mountains. So if you live in a hut at the top of mount everest, I accept there may not be a lot of birds.

HarrietSchulenberg · 21/01/2013 15:46

Snigger at poor old Alfrex being stuck in 1952. Look, sort the fan out yourself (quick phone call will bring someone with oven-related toolkit to your door). Empty the bin yourself, it's not hard.
And stop trying to be perfect in the baking department. You clearly are not perfect, just like the rest of the human race, and imperfect bakery goods are not poisonous. On the contrary, they often taste better than the good-looking ones. If you can't accept that then perhaps you need to step away from the cupcake tin for a while.

RedHelenB · 21/01/2013 15:46

If it were a man telling a woman they couldn't eat the burnt cakes then everyone would agree they were being abusive so I can't see the other way round as being any different.

Numberlock · 21/01/2013 15:47

oh OP pleeeeeeeease tell us whereabouts in the world you are where there are no birds, pleeeeeease

Anyone else think of something more sinister, like China during the Cultural Revolution when Mao killed off all the sparrows? Shock

usualsuspect · 21/01/2013 15:47

Be careful you don't burn the dinner.

oldqueencrepey · 21/01/2013 15:47

it's wrong because she said so, OK? And he knew her "system" so should have known these condemned cakes WERE NOT TO BE EATEN but was very DISRESPECTFUL and scoffed them anyway. OK??

PureQuintessence · 21/01/2013 15:47

OP lives in an aquarium, dontcha know?

Pagwatch · 21/01/2013 15:47

Why do birds suddenly appear
Every time
You are near.

Just like me
They long to eat
Cakes like pooh

countrykitten · 21/01/2013 15:49

OP is a mermaid.

I want to know what the dinner system is......

LeeCoakley · 21/01/2013 15:49

I realise that you are proud of your cooking and prefer your family to eat your best efforts but if you are embarrassed about your dh eating sub-standard ones, why are you not embarrassed about him seeing them? I mean, why not hide them until they have cooled down? Then you can shove them in a bag then straight into the dustbin. This way there is no room for error.

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yousankmybattleship · 21/01/2013 15:50

OP - what have you done with the birds?

Did they Not obey the rules.....