to be furious with dh for eating cakes he knew were destined for the bin!

[alfrex]

OK. I bake a lot. And sometimes my cakes are beautiful, and we all enjoy them. But sometimes it does not go so well and the cakes come out sunk or burnt or still wet in the middle (if dh would get the fan fixed on the oven this would happen a lot less often, but that's another thread)

There is a system, dh and the children are well aware of it. If the cakes are good to eat, they either go in a freezer bag for later use, or in a sealed tin for use over the week, or on a plate on the side so that they can be eaten now. DH knows this and I never complain about him "sampling" even if th cakes are meant for after dinner or whatever. I bake a lot so there is usually something there if he fancies a nibble.

If the cakes are not up to scratch, they go in the bin as soon as they are cooled (or as soon as dh empties the bin - there's another thread there!)

so this morning dh saunters into the kitchen to get himself breakfast. I come in and find him cramming his mouth with the burnt, crappy cakes that were sitting in the bun tray by the bin. I was really pissed off and had a go at him for it. I can make really nice cakes and I make plenty of them, so he has no need to wind me up and embarrass me by eating the ones that have gone wrong. He know it is a pet hate of mine.

so he strops off to work having called me a "control freak" in front of our children who were sitting having their breakfast. I am Not Happy.

[FeistyLass]

I think she's just angry that her dh isn't respecting her wishes and, in some ways, the whole wasted food issue is a red herring.

[BinkyWinky]

Do you chase the birds away in case they eat less than perfect breadcrumbs?

[Numberlock]

There is a system, dh and the children are well aware of it

I want to know more about the system! Is it documented and audited (like ISO9001 for example) and the husband and kids received formal training on it?

[HazeltheMcWitch]

(this thread is so ridiculous, yet the thing that has outraged me the most is the assertion that there are no birds! If it weren't Snowmageddon, I'd have to take a trip tot he grip shop for myself)

[Sallyingforth]

Here's an idea OP.
Next time you bake some less-than-perfect cakes, post up a picture in your profile. We'll tell you if they look good enough and come round and eat them for you.

[Pagwatch]

You should just urinate on any cakes not quite making your cake standard. That would stop the fucker.

[Megatron]

But OP, and I ask this in all seriousness. Do you really think this is an important issue? Really?

[ScarletWomanoftheVillage]

"Knowingly sneaking into the kitchen" - is he not normally allowed in the kitchen then?

Why does it upset you and make you feel embarrassed if he eats the sub standard ones? And why don't you just throw them in the bin?

Is this a reverse AIBU? Or what?

[StuffezLaBouche]

Perhaps he can't tell the difference between your condemned cakes and acceptable ones?

[BIWI]

People are not being hostile. People are just incredulous because this is a bonkers thread, and so they don't believe you.

If it's true, you really do need to get out a bit more.

[threesocksmorgan]

what is a trip tot he grip shop ?

[PandaOnAPushBike]

OP are you related to the MIL whose 'son's wife' wouldn't do what she was told either? You sound awfully similar. How did the intervention meeting with your sons go?

[LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726]

OP... Listen up. YOU think your perfect cakes are perfect... other people might not think as much of them as you do. Unless you live on your own you don't get to control everything around you.

I wonder if you have enough to focus on in your daily life really if you can get so sound up (and furious) about such a very silly, trivial thing as this. People who are busy, who have focus and purpose just... er wouldn't. You sound ridiculously strange and, whilst it might sound amusing to some, it doesn't to me. I wouldn't think much of a woman (or man) who carries on like this and I doubt your husband is much impressed either.

[FreudianLisp]

How is he going to fix the oven if he's not allowed to sneak into the kitchen?

[alfrex]

TarkaLiotta please do not call my husband a c*nt.

I like the suggestion of using washing up liquid on them. Although I still feel I shouldn't have to do this, he should just not eat them when he knows they are not for eating.

[Mabelface]

Him not pulling his weight is a completely separate issue. You are wasteful. Tell you what, next time your cakes aren't perfect, chuck 'em over this way, because we'd eat them. We're poor, you see, and can't afford waste and indeed go without nice things. Cakes don't have to be perfect to be enjoyed.

[HazeltheMcWitch]

^threesocksmorgan Mon 21-Jan-13 15:23:56
what is a trip tot he grip shop ?^

Er, it's how a bad typist (me), types 'a trip to the grip shop'. Ie I need to get a grip (being so piqued that someone would pretendingly suggest there are no birds).

[orangeandlemons]

We eat everything I make, burnt or not. I would not ever ever throw away a burnt cake. The waste of time and money. Just cut the burnt bits off surely?

[TheFallenNinja]

"so he strops off to work having called me a "control freak" in front of our children who were sitting having their breakfast"

After you had had a go at him "in front of the children who were sitting having their breakfast"

[Glittertwins]

Just improve your baking then so he doesn't go on the naughty step

[threesocksmorgan]

seriously op
you would put soap on them just so your dh can't eat them,,,,,,,,
really ?? is this all you have to worry about?

[SummerRainIsADistantMemory]

no birds.

That is statistically impossible.