to be furious with dh for eating cakes he knew were destined for the bin!

[alfrex]

OK. I bake a lot. And sometimes my cakes are beautiful, and we all enjoy them. But sometimes it does not go so well and the cakes come out sunk or burnt or still wet in the middle (if dh would get the fan fixed on the oven this would happen a lot less often, but that's another thread)

There is a system, dh and the children are well aware of it. If the cakes are good to eat, they either go in a freezer bag for later use, or in a sealed tin for use over the week, or on a plate on the side so that they can be eaten now. DH knows this and I never complain about him "sampling" even if th cakes are meant for after dinner or whatever. I bake a lot so there is usually something there if he fancies a nibble.

If the cakes are not up to scratch, they go in the bin as soon as they are cooled (or as soon as dh empties the bin - there's another thread there!)

so this morning dh saunters into the kitchen to get himself breakfast. I come in and find him cramming his mouth with the burnt, crappy cakes that were sitting in the bun tray by the bin. I was really pissed off and had a go at him for it. I can make really nice cakes and I make plenty of them, so he has no need to wind me up and embarrass me by eating the ones that have gone wrong. He know it is a pet hate of mine.

so he strops off to work having called me a "control freak" in front of our children who were sitting having their breakfast. I am Not Happy.

threesocks I think it was a typo for "a trip to the grip shop"

alfrex is there anything else worrying you? Serious question. Is there anything else you need to talk about?

I wonder if the lack of birds and the importance of not eating the "bad" cakes are related? Did the OP poison all the birds on previous baking attempts and is now worried she might kill DH - thus requiring all the control-freakery?

greenhill I know I said it a few times and got it after I posted

When I read your OP I felt bemused and a little bit scared of the ranty cake making lady...
By the time I got to the end i was really laughing, esp. at "no birds here".
if you have made this up then ta for the entertainment. if this is a real problem in your world then I think you have a bigger problem that some slightly under par / not 110% perfect / shame up buns....

Numberlock and aliasjoey - glad you liked 'passive-aggressive cake eating'. It made me laugh as I was typing it.
Although I do have a sneaking sympathy with the OP as my dsis can be a bit precious about her baking and cooking so I could see her getting into a similar state and dbil deliberately winding her up. We have no such standards in our house.

"well we don't have any birds here"

Well I need to know where you are.

TheFallenNinja, yes I suppose I did have a go in front of the children but I spoke quietly and did not name call. I pointed out that the children knew better than to behave like this and asked him why he felt he could not wait for me to put out cakes that were worth eating. He was standing over the bin shovelling them into his mouth, I found it disrespectful.

Why are people being so rude? Why would I eed to see a psychiatrist? I can take criticism, I asked for it, but rudness isn't necessary surely.

YABvU & if you value your children & your marriage you need to get a grip & stop being so controlling!

I have visions of the OP running screaming into her kitchen yelling 'Noooooooo' as her poor DH tries to eat a slightly burnt fairy cake.

Why do you need help?

Well, you don't believe that there are birds in the sky where you live, for starters.

It honestly doesn't sound like you can accept criticism from your posts, that's the point

Dear OP
Yabu, your dh is a grown man and should be allowed to eat condemned cakes .
love threesocks x

(is that polite enough?)

OP, you sound about 11.

When I was your age, I used to call people up with bogus problems ( my cat is climbing the curtains!), it was fun.

Long live the internet.

What an odd thread. Surely your DH is a grown man who can choose which cakes he'd like to eat? Reacting with fury and embarrassment strikes me as a really extreme response. And yes, very controlling indeed.

But why does it embarrass you if he eats less-than-perfect cakes? It isn't a personal failing.

In our house it's DH's job to eat up the burnt bits

I am not vile

I love my husband and my children. That is why I take good care of them and provide nice things for them to eat. What is wrong with that?