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to be furious with dh for eating cakes he knew were destined for the bin!

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alfrex · 21/01/2013 14:57

OK. I bake a lot. And sometimes my cakes are beautiful, and we all enjoy them. But sometimes it does not go so well and the cakes come out sunk or burnt or still wet in the middle (if dh would get the fan fixed on the oven this would happen a lot less often, but that's another thread)

There is a system, dh and the children are well aware of it. If the cakes are good to eat, they either go in a freezer bag for later use, or in a sealed tin for use over the week, or on a plate on the side so that they can be eaten now. DH knows this and I never complain about him "sampling" even if th cakes are meant for after dinner or whatever. I bake a lot so there is usually something there if he fancies a nibble.

If the cakes are not up to scratch, they go in the bin as soon as they are cooled (or as soon as dh empties the bin - there's another thread there!)

so this morning dh saunters into the kitchen to get himself breakfast. I come in and find him cramming his mouth with the burnt, crappy cakes that were sitting in the bun tray by the bin. I was really pissed off and had a go at him for it. I can make really nice cakes and I make plenty of them, so he has no need to wind me up and embarrass me by eating the ones that have gone wrong. He know it is a pet hate of mine.

so he strops off to work having called me a "control freak" in front of our children who were sitting having their breakfast. I am Not Happy.

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alistron1 · 21/01/2013 15:17

I think if you bought cakes instead of baking them it would save a whole lot of angst.

gordyslovesheep · 21/01/2013 15:18

wow ...just WOW Hmm

dischordant · 21/01/2013 15:18

Do you bake a lot, op? It's just that you haven't said....

charlottehere · 21/01/2013 15:19

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aliasjoey · 21/01/2013 15:19

Grin at 'passive- aggressive cake-eating'

threesocksmorgan · 21/01/2013 15:19

no birds??

dischordant · 21/01/2013 15:19

& may I suggest a little job of some sort?!

ie chill the chill out!

anothershittynickname · 21/01/2013 15:19

Oh dear :-/

Much unreasonableness going on here!

MikeFlowersPops · 21/01/2013 15:19

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HecateWhoopass · 21/01/2013 15:19

and - I fail to see why on earth, if the cakes Must Not Be Eaten by man or child or poor hungry little bird... - you don't just put a squirt of washing up liquid on them when they come out of the oven and are deemed Unsuitable.

Seems to me that would ensure they don't get eaten.

although it's still totally crackers.

BinkyWinky · 21/01/2013 15:19

Condemned?!

Your blood pressure must be through the roof.

GregBishopsBottomBitch · 21/01/2013 15:19

OP Your pissed off over a few burnt cakes, he obviously didnt care what they looked like, musta tasted nice, get over it.

HazeltheMcWitch · 21/01/2013 15:19

Of course there are birds where you are. Unless you live in a desert, or at the very apex of a pole, there are birds.

valiumredhead · 21/01/2013 15:19

LOL @ dh sneaking into the kitchen filling his mouth with condemned cakes Grin Grin

Numberlock · 21/01/2013 15:19

passive-aggressive cake eating

Love it, Feisty. Only on MN, along with BLW 1st birthday party buffets.

CheerMum · 21/01/2013 15:20

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threesocksmorgan · 21/01/2013 15:20

mn is very funny today lol

FreckledLeopard · 21/01/2013 15:20

No birds? Where do you live? Confused

HecateWhoopass · 21/01/2013 15:21

you don't have any birds?

No birds in the sky where you live?

Ok. I'm out.

That's all the benefit of the doubt I can muster for today.

ILoveTIFFANY · 21/01/2013 15:21

'sneaking'??? Into his own kitchen!?

I feel sorry for your DH

KatieScarlett2833 · 21/01/2013 15:21

YABU

(Team DH)

You really need to unclench

degutastic · 21/01/2013 15:21

Yanbu for wanting him to empty the bin, if that is part of the agreed division of labour in your household and he's not pulling his weight.

You are, however, being utterly mental about the cakes, and you seem to be failing to understand the point of "AIBU" - people are being "hostile" as you perceive it because, in this case, you are being unreasonable.

FreudianLisp · 21/01/2013 15:21

You say the issue isn't about wasting food, but the issue SHOULD be about wasting food. YABU to think that wasting food doesn't matter.

Please, please relax, or I shall come round to your house and eat all your least successful cakes.

GregBishopsBottomBitch · 21/01/2013 15:21

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valiumredhead · 21/01/2013 15:22

Perhaps he did it as a direct action against your controlling ways OP? A sort of Betty Crocker 2 fingered salute just to piss you off? Wink

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