To serve a baby led weaning buffet at my daughters party?

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Dd is turning 1, I am planning to do a buffet based on the very hungry caterpillar. The plan as stands is to set it all up on a trestle table and when it's time to serve it put the legs down and let them at it.
Consideration has obviously been given to making it safe and easy for kids to feed themselves and the first few people I mentioned it to said they thought it was a great idea
I mentioned it to a mum who will be bringing her dd and she said " err! What about germs? How will we stop them taking a bite and dropping it, then another baby eating it?"
I basically feel that they will be spending the whole party sharing toys, touching each other etc and that germs are just going to be shared.
Obviously I will ensure that hands are washed before they eat and have also checked for allergys and warned mums not to put them in there best clothes. Also seperate snacks for adults
So what's the consensus mn? Aibu?

Ok to those of you who seem to think I am not expecting a huge mess you are most definetly wrong. Damage limitation is the key then it really isn't that difficult to clean.
Definetly not an ad for group as kids invited have been and loved it.
I have specified on invite that mess is likely and a change will be required. I think they will believe me.
It really is not about the blw and I'm not getting drawn into the argument about that. For me it is about letting the kids explore for themselves
This will obviously sound crazy to some but I am going to thoroughly enjoy watching them smoosh it all.
Any parent who wants to seperate their child's food and supervise every bite is not going to be critised for that as its true that some kids need it more than others.
The pp who said I'm going to do it whatever was right.
The most helpful comment so far has been low table as opposed to floor which I will definitely look into. Thanks.
Whether or not it is worth my effort is obviously up to me.
I think it will be fun to create and fun to watch them destroy, it's reassuring to see while definitely in the minority I am not quite alone in thinking it'll be fun

It sounds like an absolute nightmare TBH!

BLW is such a wankery term! What you are planning is a buffet. Just put some plates and bowls out and let parents choose their DC's food!

Love it. Might steal this idea for dc2's first birthday
But all my friends are second time around mums who would not raise an eyebrow at the dc eating off the floor/eachother etc he he

Well why were you asking if you were being unreasonable if you're going to do it anyway? I'm puzzled now.

Oh and I'm not for allowing children to 'destroy' things. And I say that as an early years practitioner (if we're using wanky terms) who loves messy play, where its appropriate. Particularly with food which is no doubt just going to be wasted.

What a waste of food.

The pp who said I was going to do it was right

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THIS.

Why are you asking us then OP??

Just proves you are showing off about your wanktastic caterpillar BLW extravaganza.

Sorry you didn't getting the cooing responses you were after.

I didn't even know 1 year olds HAD parties let alone buffets. Next thing will be specialised entertainers, marquees, waiters dressed as Peppa Pig serving sippy cups on a tray, photographers etc etc. Look what you have started op!

I think this is one of those horrid events where parents will feel they are inadequate because their child won't 'perform' because they only have purees or are fed with a spoon at home. My worst nightmare.

just sounds like sloppy parenting to me

Please provide plates. My DS wouldn't get anything to eat otherwise as despite being BLW, he isn't up for a melee.

Omg, when did a buffet cease to be a buffet and instead become a boasty parenting movement?

and.............

Just proves you are showing off about your wanktastic caterpillar BLW extravaganza

and all the other posts pointing out your all-singing, all-dancing, with-bells-on out and out wankalicious pretentious fucknutted boasty wankery.

That is all.

Che!

This sounds exactly what ds and all his friends had. I missed such an opportunity to call it a BLW tasting session. In my day it was "birthday buffet" or just lunch.

LMAO @ che

"Any parent who want to separate their baby's food and supervise every bite is not going to be criticised...."

Oh, please. Read what you wrote, OP. Cos yeah, anyone who isn't doing things YOUR way (food on the floor) must be someone who 'supervises every bite.' They can't possibly be a parent who puts a range of snacks onto a plate, missing out anything they are allergic to/really don't get on with, and lets their baby choose what they want to eat that way.

I had some sympathy for you when you started, but nope, that's gone.

btw, parents bringing their kids to your kid's party aren't all going to in exact agreement with you and know what to expect and rah for you!

You STARTED this thread because one parent whose baby has been invited didn't like your idea. She's not going to be the only one, and they won't all be laughable germophobes.

I can't wait for the AIBU thread where you and dd get invited to another kid's birthday party, where you are expected to put food on PLATES and you just chuck all yours on the floor for your dd to crawl through.

Just take them all to McDonald's ,OP their fries are great for BLW.

I forgot to say that if I was at your party I would graciously thank you and tell you what a wonderful idea it was and how much we enjoyed it. As would everyone else who went. But, for the avoidance of doubt, I would not mean it. So please don't assume that it has been considered to be a success all round if your friends tell you how marvelous it was, they may just be being polite.

What Che said.

And you really think it's 'fun' to watch food being wasted like that?

Lovely.

Ds learned the dipping technique with a maccy d fry a d some tomato sauce.

I think first birthday parties are more for the adults than the children. At that age the babies won't realise what is happening so I would keep it low key and do a buffet if you want but there is no need to overthink it.

Definitely not from s London why is that relevant? Scotland incase that is.

Messy play is not a business ( I wish ) just a kids group me and couple if mums run at ( nearly) cost price because messy play in the home is just impossible for some ( before I moved there was literally no where I could have done it)

Not expecting cooing or i would have posted in the party section not Aibu where you get called wanktastic ( I love that term) and such like. I wanted to ( and have ) gotten reactions and to find out what concerns people have and how / if these can be mitigated.

OP it sounds like a lovely idea, but really, 1 year olds won't appreciate it so you are basically doing it for the prents.

Why not keep the idea for when your child is 3 or 4? They would really appreciate it then.

A buffet is fine, obviously, but the kids won't notice or appreciate your beautiful layout.

And it doesn't need to be on the floor. Low enough table for the kids to see the food, but they will need adults helpt o select what they want anyway.

I like the idea of little boxes of food better.

My grandmother - 87 at the time - attempted to wean my son on Baileys and smoked salmon.

Should that have been labelled geriatric-led weaning?