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Original poster

To be peeved when mil tells me I don't feed my children a 'proper' diet?

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PrettyKitty1986 · 19/01/2013 13:17

How annoyed do you get at slights on what you feed your kids? It's the one thing that really has the ability to get to me which is whyI think mil makes the comments she does.
So yesterday the kids ate:
Porridge, banana and orange juice for breakfast
Apple
Homemade pizza with salad for lunch, followed by a large piece of cake
A bowl of frozen peas( still frozen - random to some I know), some slices of Brie and an ice lolly over the afternoon
Chicken dinner with broccoli, swede, carrots and mash, followed by a yoghurt and grapes, and a glass of milk before bed.
Apparently this is not enough proper food for 2 growing boys (aged 4 and 2). Cake, pizza, ice Lollys all in one day! Not to mention feeding them 'uncooked food' Hmm
Aibu to want to tell the old goat to mind her own?

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applepieinthesky · 19/01/2013 13:18

Sounds like quite a good diet to me.

TheDeadlyDonkey · 19/01/2013 13:19

Does she have to know what you feed your dc?

wigglybeezer · 19/01/2013 13:20

Is she expecting you to give them a cooked breakfast to put hairs on their chest or something? That is very similar to the kind of meals I give my three, who also like frozen peas as a snack ( incidentally frozen peas aren't uncooked as they are blanched before being frozen ).

Original poster
PrettyKitty1986 · 19/01/2013 13:20

She was here all day yesterday... That in itself is a separate issue lol

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 19/01/2013 13:20

What does she call a proper diet?

mrsjay · 19/01/2013 13:20

smile and nod love smile and nod Grin My mil when alive would insist my dd wasn't getting enough food and would insist she ate platefuls of food and i was 'spoiling her' by not forcing her to eat every morsel , oh and of course every meal needed a sweetie afterwards in the end i used to try and avoid her eating there as she would battle and try and bribe her to eat the huge plate,

mrsjay · 19/01/2013 13:21

oh and my mil fed her boys so much they ended up with eating issues and weight problems

diddl · 19/01/2013 13:22

TBH I would just ignore.

I couldn´t give a flying fuck for my MILs opinion on well, anything really!

Chottie · 19/01/2013 13:22

I can't believe this!!! I am adding this to my list of 'what not to do' if I ever have a DiL and DC.

Your MiL spent the whole day at your house - she is so lucky. What is wrong with her, I think she should butt out big time.

CogitoErgoSometimes · 19/01/2013 13:23

My DM was very concerned that DS had reached 10yo and still not drinking tea yet... Confused. So relieved she was when he took up the habit aged 12. Then again she is a bit bonkers and we mostly ignore her. :)

florilegia · 19/01/2013 13:24

It sounds like a great diet to me: I wonder what she was expecting?

I rather like a frozen pea or two myself, though I haven't persuaded DS to try them yet Grin

Flatbread · 19/01/2013 13:24

The porridge is good, as is the dinner.

The rest seems a jumble of junk food and strange stuff. Not particularly unhealthy, but not very nutritious either. Smile

mrsjay · 19/01/2013 13:26

My DM was very concerned that DS had reached 10yo and still not drinking tea yet...

My mil was obsessed with kids tea drinking and i did catch her putting some 'baby tea' in a sippy cup once,

Original poster
PrettyKitty1986 · 19/01/2013 13:26

Well toast instead of porridge would be a better start according to her. And pizza is of course so unhealthy I would have done better with a tin of beans and toast. I thought she was going to have a stroke when they asked for frozen peas and I gave them a bowl each Smile

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Peevish · 19/01/2013 13:26

My MiL thought I shouldn't breastfeed because it 'isn't nice'(I quote: 'Only tinker women do it') and now thinks my baby son is deprived because we are bringing him up vegetarian.

Roll your eyes visibly and ignore.

mrsjay · 19/01/2013 13:28

wouldnt frozen peas be cold and a bit eww just peas i suppose (sorry I am not your MIL honestly)

Flatbread · 19/01/2013 13:28

Your MiL spent the whole day at your house - she is so lucky

Confused

Are MIL a special pariah group that they have to feel 'lucky' to spend the day with their families?

elfycat · 19/01/2013 13:28

frozen peas are a favorite here!

Sounds like a good diet to me, plenty of fuel for energy and nutrients for growth.
Probably go the 'ignore, ignore, ignore' route if you can, you know you're doing the best by the DC.

I get criticised by MIL for giving my DDs of similar age 'premium' foods. I shouldn't be wasting DH's hard earned money on quality olives, exotic fruits (gotta keep stretching their tastes and they seem to like everything), prawns or decent balanced meals. They seem to believe kids should eat cheap orange meals...

mrsjay · 19/01/2013 13:29

My nana had a thing about BF tbh she said that only 'dirty women ' did it, how strange eh

CailinDana · 19/01/2013 13:29

She's clearly loony - how is toast better than porridge? And isn't beans on toast a slightly more boring equivalent of homemade pizza? Is she a bit weird in other ways?

bigkidsdidit · 19/01/2013 13:29

I think that diet is great Confused

badguider · 19/01/2013 13:32

Frozen peas = weird

Everything else sounds fine. Nothing wrong with homemade pizza and porridge is much better than toast!

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PrettyKitty1986 · 19/01/2013 13:33

Frozen peas are recommended by annabel karmel as a snack dontchaknow Wink I can remember eating frozen peas as a child, used to love them. I couldn't eat them now mind, but they're a favourite with both ds's

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MadBusLady · 19/01/2013 13:33

Well toast instead of porridge would be a better start according to her. And pizza is of course so unhealthy I would have done better with a tin of beans and toast. I thought she was going to have a stroke when they asked for frozen peas and I gave them a bowl each

So she would basically have fed them toast and toast with no veg all day? Yep, can see why she's concerned. Confused

SPsFanjoIsAsComfyAsAOnesie · 19/01/2013 13:34

My toddler has had a diet of snow, tinned ravioli and cheese and choc biscuits today.

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