To be peeved when mil tells me I don't feed my children a 'proper' diet?

[PrettyKitty1986]

How annoyed do you get at slights on what you feed your kids? It's the one thing that really has the ability to get to me which is whyI think mil makes the comments she does.
So yesterday the kids ate:
Porridge, banana and orange juice for breakfast
Apple
Homemade pizza with salad for lunch, followed by a large piece of cake
A bowl of frozen peas( still frozen - random to some I know), some slices of Brie and an ice lolly over the afternoon
Chicken dinner with broccoli, swede, carrots and mash, followed by a yoghurt and grapes, and a glass of milk before bed.
Apparently this is not enough proper food for 2 growing boys (aged 4 and 2). Cake, pizza, ice Lollys all in one day! Not to mention feeding them 'uncooked food'
Aibu to want to tell the old goat to mind her own?

She's relatively normal in other ways, just a pita when it comes to food

Hang on, I missed "not enough proper food".

WTAF??

Ooh I like the sound of the snow and chocolate biscuits diet.

Tell the old goat to mind her own.

Frozen peas are fine (I love them). Porridge is a great breakfast and arguably healthier and more filling than toast. Chicken and veg is a lovely dinner (can I come to yours one evening?

But mainly just tell the old goat to mind her own.

I did have issues with her opinions on food a few years ago when the first weaning food I gave was puréed carrot instead of the rusks and jarred fruit purée she had bought. That wasn't enough proper food for a growing boy either (a 6 month old)

my MIl had dd1 one night and smothered her mince and potatoes in ketchup poor kid was heaving, dd had a thing about her food touching

Ahh, so she thinks "proper food" comes in packets/tins, is that it? And preparing veg is somehow associated with scrimping/not having enough.

Your MIL is bonkers, just smile, nod and give her a bowl of frozen peas better still frozen sprouts AKA the Devils hemorrhoids

Little kids don't eat much, sounds like she's forgotten. Smile sweetly & ignore?

She's wrong, but she has a right to have/express her opinion.

Sounds like good stuff to me. Ignore her.

Btw I love frozen peas :)

May well be Mbl! Never thought of it that way before

Since my lot hate baked beans and love pizza and DD1 and me both eat frozen peas YANBU.

DH got extra milk deliberately for porridge on snowy mornings so, actually you get another YANBU

YANBU.

Could you please come feed my children? Because you are doing a better job than I!

Yanbu. It sounds perfectly fine to me. My mil has been caught saying to my children 'when you come to my house I will make you some proper food' My DCs do get convenience foods, yeah because they are....convenient sometimes. Not the end of the world and we do have meals from scratch about 80% of the time. Grrrr

I don't agree Apocalypse - commenting on how a mother feeds her children is treading on very thin ice and something I think should only be done when there are serious concerns about the child's welfare.

I think the older generation were sold the idea that foods like baked beans and fish fingers were the best things for children to have as they're high energy foods that children generally like. My MIL can be a bit like that - she'll suggest fish fingers for DS when we're having fish pie (which DS loves) as though she can't countenance DS eating "adult" food. To be fair, when I say "no he'll have what we're having" she accepts that just fine, but there is always that underlying desire to feed him "orange food" as it's known on MN!

Tinned/frozen food was all the rage when I was kid :)

My mum huffed with me on Wednesday because I wouldn't feed my sister's 11 month old daughter the cream from a slice of cake I was eating

Surely nobody's that precious. How do they function if they can't tolerate someone having a different opinion about what they feed their kids? How do they manage when someone says something really worth making a song and dance over?

I used to be so envious when I went round friends' houses and got given microwave meals! The sophistication!

Boring old made-from-scratch shepherds pie at home, huh.

Sounds a fab diet here ....

We have frozen peas and frozen sweet corn here (and I luvvvrrrreee frozen prawns but don't tell anyone !!)

Apocalypse why would someone give you an unsolicited opinion on what your children eat? Would you accept someone coming into your house and saying your feed your children the wrong things? Really? I would just find it rude, critical and intrusive.

I loved having my mil over as she was a sweetie although she did worry that I have my kids water to drink and not squash. She hated water!!

I think it's basically just rude to comment on what other people feed their children unless you have been asked your opinion or a qualified dietician who has been asked to give advice.

DS likes frozen peas - it was something my mum got him into

MadBusLady - my sister whinged and whinged and whinged for years about us not having curry from a jar like her friend. Of course nowadays she appreciates that my dad's made-from-scratch curry is absolutely gorgeous and really special but as a child it was a lowly humiliation not to have Uncle Ben's :)

Ah, this one I know.

I live in Italy, DS was born here, MIL was the most extreme sterotype from time to time of The Italian Mother (in law)

I fed (and still feed) DS lots of bastardised Italian and English dishes that I like to call Englian or Italish depending on which original was being compromised by my cooking abilities/prefences and my sometimes limited access to ingrediants.

This was akin to Child Abuse! (allegedly)

I dealt with the situation in a very mature manner.

By screaming "Your Bloody Mother" at DH once we'd left/she'd gone and muttering darkly when not on the phone to my sister for an hour long rant.

If I had my time again, with the benefit of hindsight and emotional distance I think I'd just say "look, it benefits your son, and my son if the friction between us is at its minimum, so lets try not to step on each others toes".

I even know what the result would be.
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No bleeding difference, that's what

Good luck OP. This too shall pass. But it is fecking annoying while it is happening.